What are the psychological effects in love?

In the psychology of self-awareness, people regard the attitude of others towards themselves as a mirror, which can reflect their own image and form the impression of self-concept. This phenomenon is called Byakki Smoker.

In feelings, you are a mirror of your boyfriend, and your evaluation of TA will form TA's self-concept.

If you are positive about TA and accept compliments, then TA will feel more comfortable and have a clearer self-concept.

On the contrary, you have been questioning and opposing what TA has done, so the self-worth of your boyfriend conflicts with the self-concept you convey, and TA will become more and more entangled in contradictions.

TA in order to make herself feel better, she can only leave her mirror and look for self-affirmation.

2. Romeo and Juliet effect

In Shakespeare's classic play Romeo and Juliet, Romeo and Juliet fell in love, but their love was greatly hindered by the feud between the two families. But oppression did not make them break up, but made them love each other deeper until they died.

Psychologist DeKaul and others found in the scientific research of love that within a certain range, parents or elders interfere with their children's feelings, and the love between young people is deeper.

In other words, if an external force interferes with the love relationship between two lovers, the feelings of the two lovers will be stronger and the love relationship will become stronger. This phenomenon is called Romeo and Juliet effect.

But the marriage ended in tragedy.

3. Suspension bridge effect

When a person walks across the suspension bridge in fear, his heart will beat faster involuntarily.

If you happen to meet another person at this time, then TA will misinterpret the acceleration of the heartbeat caused by this situation as a physiological reaction caused by the heartbeat of the other person, thus breeding love for the other person.

"Heartbeat" does not mean "love".

4. First cause effect

The first cause effect was first put forward by American psychologist Rochens, also known as the first effect, advantage effect or first impression effect, which refers to the influence of the first impression formed by both parties on the future development of the relationship, and can also be understood as the effect brought by "preconceptions".

Although these first impressions are not necessarily correct, they are the most vivid and firm, and they will determine the future communication process between the two sides.

5. Sunk cost effect

Sunk cost effect refers to indulging in past efforts and choosing irrational behavior in order to avoid negative emotions caused by losses.

People are most afraid of losing, not gaining.

So some people would rather waste time and insist on catching boring TV dramas;

Some people will continue to increase investment in the case of obvious investment failure.

Some people are already scum, but they still have to be saved.

Whether it's time, money or love, the more TA invests, the less willing it is to give up.

6. See more effects

The more familiar you are, the more you like it. Psychologically, it is called "seeing more".

The effect of seeing more is found not only in psychological experiments, but also in feelings. Many people who looked down on each other before came together after getting to know each other.

Some people are good at creating opportunities for contact between the two sides, thus improving their familiarity and attracting each other more.

This is the reason why college clubs are prone to lovers. Usually, they have meetings and activities together, and there are more opportunities to meet each other, and they gradually come together.

7. Barnum effect

Barnum effect is also called Fowler effect and astrology effect.

It means that people can easily believe a general description of personality, think it is particularly suitable for themselves and accurately reveal their personality characteristics. Even if the content is empty, it is convincing and feels "very accurate".

People often think that a general description of personality reveals their own characteristics very accurately. When people describe a person with some common, vague and broad adjectives, people tend to accept these descriptions easily and think that they are talking about themselves.

Barnum effect also explains why many people think fortune tellers are "accurate" after consulting them.

Because people who ask for help from fortune tellers have the characteristics of being easily hinted, but in fact, what fortune tellers tell everyone is the same, which is a general summary and description.

In love, you can use Barnum effect to describe each other in general words, such as "you are so handsome, you are hardworking and reliable". Let the other party feel that you know TA very well and increase your goodwill.

8. Broken window effect

The broken window effect was originally a theory of criminology, which was put forward by james wilson and george kay Lin. If many situations are left unchecked, it is easy to develop worse results.

This phenomenon is also common in love.

Many people cheat, and after begging for forgiveness, they will continue to cheat.

You found out that the other party told a little lie and didn't stop it. TA will do more serious things in the future.

Once you make a lot of mistakes, you will make more and more mistakes like dominoes.

9. veblen effect

Veblen effect refers to the increase of consumers' demand for a commodity because its price is higher, not lower. It reflects people's psychological desire to squander consumption.

The higher the commodity price is set, the more it can be favored by consumers.

The higher the price of goods, the more consumers are willing to buy. It was first noticed by American economist Van Buren, so it was named "veblen effect".

The more expensive luxury goods are, the more valuable they are. In love, licking a dog is worthless.

When a person is too flattering to you, you may think that TA's goodness is cheap and not worth responding to.

In love, don't try to maintain a relationship by pleasing the other person's humility, because you may make yourself look less worthy of being loved.

Love needs to be managed, and learning more about psychological effects can also make people who like it get two-way love.