What if there is no topic to talk about?

Question 1: What if there is no topic in the chat? Personally, I don't like dealing with people and feel very troublesome. However, due to some reasons, I have been doing some small coordination work in recent years, plus some friends' suggestions and some incorrect conversations in my inner OS, so I want to make a small summary here and give you some suggestions.

Because I am a girl, this article is still from the girl's point of view. Later, I will supplement my interview, and my friends will talk coldly from a male perspective.

Again, this is an article that teaches everyone not to be cold. Don't say that you can't make friends like this. Can you take care of so many friends?

Please don't treat this article harshly for children's shoes that are afraid of the cold field, thank you ~

-c the dividing line between sincerity and listening when chatting-c

The first category: classmates

As I said before, I basically divide girls in school into three categories: ordinary, perfect and academic bully.

If you are a girl and don't want to be left out in the cold, you must remember their chat information when chatting with familiar friends. For example, you may not have time to watch TV programs, various plays and books recommended by your friends, but if you write down your friends' feelings, you can also use them when chatting with strangers.

Generally, girls have no obstacles, just find the bright spot in her body and pretend to be casual and sincere in praising her.

There is always something commendable from head to toe. Even if you really can't find anything to praise your dress, you can still say, "I find your hair is good!" " Or "Well, your nose is beautiful!" "Your eyes are particularly bright!" Shy girls boast that they are quiet, while cheerful girls boast that they are beautiful. The reason must not be far-fetched.

If it is really ugly duckling type, if you really think that suddenly praising her will scare her, you can smile at her approachable appearance and talk about teachers and homework. If your sister doesn't show confidence or inferiority at ordinary times, you should act like you are listening to her when she speaks, give her a look that you are listening carefully and smile where you should laugh. Trust me, this kind of girl will thank you for listening to her.

Perfect girls are used to listening to compliments, so they put on a gesture of consultation.

Make-up artist, matching accessories, boasting and asking, she will automatically tell you something. Forget the flamboyant perfect girl. In my opinion, it's hard to see how far you like to show off. There are also some perfect girls, who are really approachable and won't make you feel that her style is too avant-garde and high-end, and her smile is gentle and friendly. At this time, you can talk about her favorite TV and programs. At this time, you will use materials accumulated from all directions, at least you won't know what your sister is saying. You can recommend similar or better TV to her when she talks about her favorite TV. Isn't it great?

Sometimes it's really lucky to like the same star as a nymphomaniac. You may have a lot to say.

Then if you are an iceberg girl, you should also classify it as arrogant and difficult to talk or nice but not talkative. If Iceberg Girl only plays mobile phone or wears headphones when she is with you, then you can do other things without being forced. Don't insist that you don't chase people. Excellent people can barely discover the same hobbies, such as asking them what they are playing when playing mobile phones. You also like this game, and you also go to Douban. Actually, I think since the iceberg girl made an iceberg, it means people don't want to chat. Don't be embarrassed by silence.

Many schoolmates themselves can't chat, and of course there are emotional intelligence and IQ. For this, please refer to the above two suggestions.

It's similar to the topic of Xueba. After the basic greeting, I will ask her about her favorite books. If she happens to be a sister who reads novels, just talk casually and ask her to recommend the title to you. Seriously write it on paper or mobile phone to show that she likes it and that she will definitely go back to see it. If you expect to meet this girl for the second time in a short time, go back and search the introduction and book review, or read the beginning and tell her where you saw it next time. Impression is definitely a big plus.

One of the advantages of being a bully is that you can ask many really useful questions, such as how to allocate time, how to improve self-control, and what certificates are more useful. Personally, I think chatting with seniors is actually more enjoyable, because it is really easy to gain something.

The second category: predecessors &; Open Loop (same as open loop)

The seniors here include seniors or other seniors in the school. If there is no ice, besides the suggestions just given, we can still talk about some life problems ... >>

Question 2: What if there is no topic to talk to a person? Anyone and any relationship will encounter such problems. This is the so-called boredom. You have said everything you need to know and know what to do at this time. Different people have different ways. At this time, the only way is to meet curious people. Tell her the stories you know better one by one. Finally, you can tell her about sex.

Question 3: How to find the topic in the chat? After a few words, there is nothing to say, such as this. You can read this line now. It's weird, right? That's because you are not in a sad mood. This is why many people have recited my lines or movie lines, but it has no effect. It's no use copying. The point is not what to say, but how to say it. This is not a method, nor a move, but an internal skill.

2 Cold reading

Cold reading literally translates as "cold reading". Girls hate the question of auditing. How old are you? Where are you from? What's your name? Unfortunately, most people still only know this superficial chat mode. If you can study cold, you won't have this problem. Cold means being unprepared, while reading means being absorbed. Cold reading refers to reading others' minds when they are unprepared, even when they meet for the first time, so as to communicate with others better. Psychologists often use it in psychotherapy.

For example: "Have you studied abroad?" This is a common question.

Translated into cold reading is: "You must have studied abroad."

Another example: "What do you think of your personality?"

If I am not mistaken, your popularity must be good.

This is obvious. In the first example, if it is an ordinary conversation, the other party will definitely answer: yes/no.

But with cold reading, the other person may have many answers, such as: how do you know? /No, why do you say that? /Do you know which country I am in?

In the second example, if it is an ordinary conversation, the other party will probably answer: Er. . . I don't know what to say. /I think my personality is ok.

But the way of cold reading is different: ah! How do you know! /No, actually, I don't have many friends.

Perhaps you have found that declarative sentences must be used in cold reading. Moreover, cold reading is speculation. Since it is a guess, it is not accurate. But this does not mean that cold reading failed. Cold reading doesn't let you completely guess each other's information, but let them open their hearts and give you more information on their own initiative. Of course, you can't make a wild guess. Instead, make your guess more accurate through all the information such as the other person's clothes, conversation and topic content.

Let's give a few more examples:

For example: How old are you? -24.-That's all.

Replace it with a declarative sentence:

If I am not mistaken, you must be 24 years old.

-How do you know that?

To be honest, I was told.

-Who told you that?

-Barabara ...

Look again:

You must often go to Xinjiekou.

-Why do you say that?

Because I often see girls of your style there.

Who am I?

-Barabara ..

Liars are not "experts in deception", but "experts in winning people's trust"!

How do fake fortune tellers or fake psychics deceive people? According to common sense, no one should believe what a suspicious person who has just met. But why do some people easily believe stories that are suspicious anyway?

This is because liars always tell the truth at first to gain your trust, and then they start to cheat you. If this person's words are full of loopholes from the beginning, anyone will be wary. But because the liar is telling the truth at first, it will gradually make people feel that what this person said is trustworthy. The same is true of investment fraud, even if it is only a small profit, you will definitely make money from the beginning. Because you do have profit recovery, it is natural to plan ahead, trust each other and take out more money to continue investing. When you invest a lot of money, the other party knocks you hard and then runs away with the money.

In short, the philosophy of a liar is: win trust first, and then start cheating. The more you can convince the other person, the more you can cheat. As long as you can convince the other party that you are trustworthy, no matter how bad the following fraud skills are, you can easily fool the other party. Therefore, compared with the skill of deception, clever swindlers actually spend more energy thinking about "the technology of winning trust"

Think about it carefully, whether it's running business or receiving customers, whether it's love or education, doesn't any form of communication start with winning the trust of the other party? Cold reading, which is used by swindlers such as fake fortune tellers or fake psychics, really has a lot to learn from in terms of winning the skills of prenatal and postnatal care.

Four elements of being a cold reader.

Before starting the technical content ... >>

Question 4: There is no topic for chatting with girls. What should I do if I have something to say? So you don't have to talk to others face to face. I feel that you are beginning to feel uneasy about this: "If you go on like this, you will be miserable in the future, and you can't even find a wife ... a headache." This can also be seen as a summary of your experience in communicating with girls. I guess you are very young, twenty-four, five years old, and you are a big boy; Some are shy and introverted, full of books. Hehe, I'm not wet behind the ears, and I don't have enough experience in contacting girls. Chat, tell each other, listen. It is an important bridge for people to contact, understand, trust and accept each other; It is one of the most important ways for us to carry out all social activities. A pleasant and impressive chat between young men and women will make each other remember for life. I think the so-called love at first sight probably started here. Learning to chat is good for everyone. Chatting is different from what you usually say, especially for young men and women who are both single. The essence of chatting is to let the other person know, be familiar with, be willing to make friends, and see that there are more emotional factors involved. But speaking only clearly expresses the meaning to the object of expression, without more purpose, especially in emotion, without obvious utilitarian color. Although everyone needs to talk, chatting is not as simple as talking. Chatting needs more preparation and choice. Especially when boys and girls are alone. As the saying goes, nothing is difficult in the world. He also said that the world is afraid of the word "serious" and does not fight unprepared wars. Chatting needs to be prepared, especially when you are ready to chat with a girl you like, or when you are in a hurry to meet face to face. You should prepare carefully. Nothing more than the following preparations: 1, knowledge, knowledge and experience reserve. Everyone knows that "walking on Wan Li Road and studying in thousands of books" is an effort to improve oneself to a higher level. The same is true of chatting, especially with girls. If we really try our best to "go to Wan Li Road and study in thousands of books", how can it be difficult to get you, whether it is the advice of a little girl, an exam or something unexpected? When you were talking in Kan Kan, the image of a handsome, gentle and elegant boy sneaked into the hearts of girls. 2, personality cultivation, the demeanor of treating people. This not only refers to literacy and knowledge, but also involves good personal habits, including dressing up, exporting Zen, personal hygiene, hair accessories and so on. As long as it is decent, natural and natural, it is good to reflect personal education. When I was a child, my parents always washed my old clothes and sewed them neatly, telling me to be modest. I think they are also teaching me how to treat people. 3. Love life, think about life, pay attention to the world, and cultivate their rigorous mentality of joining the WTO. This seems to have little to do with the topic of chatting with girls. But without these aspects of training, you may appear superficial, rough, or smooth and sophisticated. Only when you think can you have thoughts, and only when you are strict with yourself can you be lenient with others. In contrast, people with poor thinking and pale thinking are hard to impress. For another example, if you don't love life, then you may be as ignorant of the most basic changes in society and life as you were in your last life. Can't you laugh? 4. Training and cultivation of speech features. Of course, chatting requires talking, and the level of speaking is very important. Vocabulary, rhetoric, logic, etc. You should study hard and train well. Cultivate your own speaking style: clear-cut, coherent, concise, good at using allusions and so on. 5. Try to cultivate your sense of humor. 6. Pay due attention to all kinds of fashions involving girls. Wait a minute. As long as you work hard at ordinary times, you can still make full preparations in the above aspects. Whether boys or girls, everyone is on the same starting line. As long as you work harder than him, I think the girl you are very willing to chat with may not be able to make things difficult for you. Chatting should have an atmosphere, especially with girls. If you are not familiar with them, it is difficult to have a good chat atmosphere. Girls' emotions are very important. Learn to read and speak. If a girl is in a bad mood, we should take the initiative to care, be considerate, care and enlighten her. Girls are in a good mood, so they should learn to add icing on the cake and not destroy it. The environment should be suitable, not too secluded or too noisy; Be clean and safe. I care if you don't break up. Businessmen say that business can't be righteous. The farewell of single men and women should also put friendship and friendship in an important position. As the saying goes, mountains don't turn to water, water doesn't turn to roads, and roads don't turn to people. That is to say, there is still a chance, leaving room. Above, I'm chatting with you. I don't know if it's right.

Question 5: What if two people have no topic to talk about? Silence is always communicating, always accompanying.

You are worried that there is no topic, which shows that you are a little anxious about communicating with others.

Think back to your communication atmosphere in Origin and Destiny, and you may find the answer.

If this happens only on the phone, you can try to write down what you want to communicate on paper before making a phone call. First of all, let yourself have a bottom. Secondly, I really can't remember, so I can read it.

Question 6: What if there is no topic for chatting with girls? In fact, chatting is accumulated in my usual life. There is a saying that nonsense is the first sentence in interpersonal relationships. Don't think nonsense is meaningless, sometimes it needs some nonsense to drive it. You can even talk about what you did and met today, ask her what she did today, and then you can analyze some problems for her. Or what someone told you, you can modify it before telling her. Han, anyway, you remember that one of the key points of chatting is to ask and answer questions. With interaction and communication, we can speak more slowly and form a virtuous circle.

Question 7: What if you can't chat and have no topic? 10 There is no topic, so you can create a topic. If the conversation is always dry and boring, both parties will feel bored.

Question 8: What if there is no topic in 8:QQ chat? Hehe, kindred spirits. This kind of thing is actually easy to solve. This is because you are inexperienced and immature. It is mainly a matter of mentality. In other words, if you have successfully contacted this kind of thing, it won't happen. Everything comes from the other side. You have no confidence in yourself and give yourself an invisible pressure. For no topic, I quite agree with the above views and leave a message to the other party. This is a topic that can be solved between people, but the effect is not very good. Chatting between people is to get to know each other better, which is an emotional exchange. So basically, two introverts don't need a lot of words together. As long as the two sides are together, the communication between hearts can be stronger than everything else, and a look and a smile can be deeply rooted in people's hearts. So there is no need to do anything. It's about how to adjust your mentality. There are many topics among the friends mentioned above. Why? It's that you put everything on an equal footing without thinking too much about how to do it. Everything is so natural. This is a stress-free situation. That's why we can achieve that effect. If you want to express yourself well, the only thing you can do is to change that invisible pressure, not let it disappear. Disappearing is impossible, it will only make you. Yes, do you understand? Don't care too much about who the two sides are, just know what they are. You can express yourself by changing your overall concern. In fact, loving someone is the same as or similar to many other emotional expressions. You can take care of him as another person. After a long time, it will form a cycle of goodwill, and you can subconsciously change the total stress. The topic can be expressed, not limited. No matter what you do, you can drive her mood. This is the last sentence. Ha ha! Ask her if she wants to eat, or you offer to eat, and then ask her what interesting things have happened recently. People always think of things around her, don't you think? Girls are nothing but nothing, but you should at least be relatively open. Since it is a conversation, we should establish a topic. The so-called topic is that two people exchange views with each other, and one person listens to the other. You should control the scale of your speech. You can't be too forgetful from the beginning. You have to leave room for her to talk. Haven't you experienced it? If a friend talks like that, he will never stop talking. Didn't everyone listen to him in silence at last? There is no golden tongue, so leave 50% space for each other from the beginning. As you said, you can talk about things realistically. When you are away from home, you can say anything you meet around you. Chatting is not just talking. What can you do? You really have nothing to say and don't want to be cold. For environmental reasons, it is normal to go to places like museums and theaters ... Hehe, sometimes a short silence is not necessarily embarrassing. Maybe the girls didn't think you were in a hurry at first, so I'm sorry. Let nature take its course and everything will be fine.

Question 9: What should I do if I have no topic to talk to someone I like? It's simple. . Just find a starting point. . For example. . What are you doing now? What if she says she's reading? . Just ask her what book. . But this topic will certainly not last long. . Now that you have cut in. . Then we can go. . You can immediately move on to related topics. Like what happened at school. . Then I inserted some jokes. Because I am humorous. That's how my GF cheated in the first place. . Hee hee. . There is also. . The pace of making phone calls is too fast. . There is simply not enough time for you to study carefully what to say. . So SMS is still the best. Then be gentle. . Be enterprising. . It means that what you said is a bit ambiguous. Let her feel you. . It's not just talking. . Talk about ordinary trifles for a while. . You can care about her. . Ask if you slept well or something. . These are all concrete. . Don't say anything that will scare her at first. . Which means you liked being so explicit from the beginning. . In fact, to put it simply, I know everything by feeling (I don't look at the troubles within ten miles of Fiona Fang). Why? This is the feeling ~). . Don't be afraid. . Say whatever you want.

Question 10: What if there is no topic in chatting with others? It's simple. . Just find a starting point. . For example. . What are you doing now? What if she says she's reading? . Just ask her what book. . But this topic will certainly not last long. . Now that you have cut in. . Then we can go. . You can immediately move on to related topics. Like what happened at school. . Then I inserted some jokes. Because I am humorous. That's how my GF cheated in the first place. Hee hee. . There is also. . The pace of making phone calls is too fast. . There is simply not enough time for you to study carefully what to say. . So SMS is still the best. Then be gentle. . Be enterprising. . It means that what you said is a bit ambiguous. Let her feel you. . It's not just talking. . Talk about ordinary trifles for a while. . You can care about her. . Ask if you slept well or something. . These are all concrete. . Don't say anything that will scare her. . Which means you liked being so explicit from the beginning. .

In fact, to put it simply, I know everything by feeling (I don't look at the troubles within ten miles of Fiona Fang). Why? This is the feeling ~). . Don't be afraid. . Say whatever you want.