What about early marriage in rural areas?

1. How about getting married with a rural person? I don't know what to do.

I am from the countryside, and my family is very poor, but my parents and family are sympathetic.

From what you said, his parents are not so good. If you are poor, live in the village where your ancestors lived and go out to sell houses. He or his family revealed this to you, didn't they? You don't want to think about it. And after the two brothers get married, the boundaries are clear! You're still thinking about his brother and his brother's children. It's very kind of you, isn't it? Or did he or his family complain to you! My wife is from the county seat. When we got married, my parents bought almost all their blood. My wife said I didn't have to pay too much, but my parents always felt sorry. Hey! After the marriage, my wife and I invited him to the old couple's house, but neither of them came, saying that they were used to living and didn't want to go, and they couldn't leave that acre of land.

Parents are kind to their children, but there are exceptions. His parents are terrible! But this is really just the beginning. And after that? I wonder what else will happen.

His family doesn't take money when they get married and look at the house. Your family is completely insured. You want to kill your parents. Maybe he will lend money to your family before he gets married. But the way is very, for example, we are a family sooner or later, and yours is mine. This is not necessarily the case. Never mind the above, whether he really loves you or your money is also a question. Even if he loves the above questions, he will have a headache. He will think of his family, and you will be embarrassed.

I suggest you separate it. Although I am from the countryside, I will talk to Daniel.

2. Rural girls get married early.

First of all, a girl who has lived in the countryside for a long time, most of whom have never been to school. Maybe she graduated from junior high school and didn't even go to high school. Another problem is concept. She hasn't seen much of the world. She's very simple. Besides, in some places, she prefers boys to girls. Parents preach every day that girls are splashing water. There is no need to invest so much, and she doesn't know how to train girls. She thinks that girls will be in other people's homes in the future, so they can do farm work, wash clothes and cook.

Another is that everyone says that hard work is tiring, and girls will definitely be tired outside, so they will find a boy to confess. Usually, the girls who come out of the village are very simple and have no social experience. Coupled with the coaxing of the boys, they think that the other party is the best man in the world and they have known each other for a long time. When they get married, they will get rid of this situation!

3. Why is it difficult for rural boys to get a wife?

It is getting harder and harder for rural boys to get married, which is actually the reason.

In recent years, there has been a phenomenon in rural areas, that is, it is increasingly difficult for rural young men to marry, and many people are still single in their thirties. Many of them are handsome, handsome and excellent in their own abilities, but they have been single for many years. I am worried about the parents of these young people. How can a heart be put down if a son is not married?

The son of the Wangs in the village is 29 years old and has no girlfriend. Uncle Wang is also very anxious. He said: "It is not easy for young people to get a wife now, so we should hurry up." No, all the rural girls have returned to their hometown during the Spring Festival. He told his son to take the time to go on a blind date, but he couldn't find a suitable candidate many times. Uncle Wang also wondered: "In those days, blind date could find a suitable marriage partner once or twice. Why is it so difficult now? "

What are the reasons why it is difficult for rural boys to get married? Let's analyze it below.

First of all, there is a feudal thought in rural areas that has been handed down for thousands of years, that is, preference for boys over girls. Raising a son is a great task to carry on the family line, and raising a daughter is to be a daughter-in-law for others. Therefore, many couples have to have sons anyway, and it doesn't matter whether they have sons or daughters. Although this concept has been deeply rooted, it has not caused more men than women in the past. That's because the technology in the past was not as developed as it is now, and I didn't know whether it was a boy or a girl before the baby was born. Now that gender identification technology has been developed, many parents will only choose to have sons, because they can know the sex of their children in advance. Over time, it has caused this unbalanced situation of more men and less women. When the son grows up, there are fewer female dolls in the village, and it is difficult to marry a daughter-in-law!

Also, with the improvement of living standards, the bride price has also increased a lot. In the old society, the old man gave his son two rooms, made several sets of furniture, and gave hundreds of bride price money to buy jewelry for his new wife, so he could marry her happily! But now, rural houses are worthless in the eyes of her mother-in-law. The premise of getting married is to buy a suite in the city. Even better, add a car and a bride price of tens of thousands of dollars. The marriage threshold is getting higher and higher, which is no small economic pressure for ordinary families in rural areas. Therefore, in front of this mountain, the marriage age of rural boys can only be delayed.

Third, now that the country has implemented nine-year compulsory education, girls in rural areas have basically gone to school. With education, many girls have been admitted to universities for further study, and their horizons have become further. In addition, parents have instilled the idea of staying in the countryside and living in big cities since childhood. They are even more reluctant to stay in the countryside. They are eager to live in the city. In recent years, there are few young girls in the village, and they can only be seen during the Spring Festival. Therefore, this is another obstacle for rural young men to marry their wives.

Even though there are so many difficulties and obstacles, I still hope that the young men in the countryside can stand the test, harvest love as soon as possible and complete lifelong events!

Is there any custom to hold a wedding in the countryside?

Rural marriage custom

Marriage in rural areas is very particular, regardless of the time, place and direction of marriage. It is superstitious and has always followed the path left by our ancestors. Let's take a look at the marriage customs in the countryside!

Media theory

This program is a must, whether you are childhood friends or childhood friends, whether you are inseparable or have been together, whether you are inseparable or inseparable. It's not that parents have more face, nor is it to inherit the old adage that "parents' lives are what the media say". In fact, it is a kind of post that your parents stand for you. In other words, when your development is in crisis, it is a signal to stop the arrow.

Of course, some parents will naturally consider the so-called door-to-door factor, and some parents will make a second visit to your chosen object and make a good introduction. Some women's parents do have the idea of getting married legally. In short, parents have their own good intentions.

Kanqin

That is, "blind date". After the matchmaker introduced the woman's appearance and family situation to the man's family, the man initially agreed, so he sent the matchmaker to invite Geng Tie to propose marriage. There are also blind dates first. Generally, unmarried men are shy, and married brothers or uncles go to see them. Girls who are watched often deliberately avoid seeing only their brothers and sisters, so as to guess their looks, commonly known as "touching marriage." So there is a proverb of "blind date uncle". There is no such speculation as a prelude to the wedding.

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The matchmaker gave the woman's Geng Tie to the man's parents, and the man put the Geng Tie in front of the Kitchen God Temple. If there are no unlucky things such as throwing dishes, children falling down, quarreling with others within three days, they will initially pass, and some will ask a poem to sign or ask a fortune teller to get married. After liberation, this ethos still exists in rural areas. Even if you are not superstitious, after knowing that the woman's family situation is not suitable for marriage, it is just an excuse for the gods to send signals to avoid making enemies, and the woman's family can also take the opportunity to save face.

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After the man's marriage is satisfactory, the matchmaker will send the man's wedding invitation to the woman's house for "opening and closing", and then the two sides will agree on the amount of money to be paid and the thickness of the marriage. This is the so-called "appointment by negotiation". Then the man sent someone to the woman's house to "settle down", with a ring and four kinds of gifts as dowry, and the woman returned shoes and socks. Then the man's family will send bride price, bride price and "sugar golden milk" When the wedding date is set, notify the woman and name it "Send the Day". The two parties hold a banquet to treat guests, which is called "drinking", and the guests should send a betrothal gift.

delivery date

It was at the ripe time that I went to the fortune teller to choose the wedding date, which was the last time I made a supplementary taste for the woman's family.

Marriage plan

Ok, let's get down to business. Weddings usually last three days. The first day is called moving things, which means moving things. The next day is the main banquet, and every three days is the resumption banquet.

Treat, this is the preparation stage of the wedding. Marriage in rural areas is not like sending invitations in cities. The day before the wedding, the bride or groom will go door to door asking for invitations. "I'm getting married tomorrow. Come and help me early." Because the countryside is generally scattered, people who pay will be exhausted within one day. There are hundreds of gangs in a family, but they can't forget to say, "body double's beds are all covered."

(of a newlywed wife) going to her parents' home with her newlywed husband.

The day after the wedding, the bride invited her aunt to meet her uncle's elders. On the third day, the bride, led by her sister-in-law, introduced her neighbors, old and young, offered sugar tea, or ordered tea with sugar cake bait, and the drinker gave her money. Walk around the house, then go to the kitchen, worship the stove and learn to cook. On the sixth day, the newlyweds went to a foreign home to meet for dinner, which was called "home visit". The next day, my husband went to the groom's house for dinner, calling it "seeing relatives."