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The custom of getting married everywhere

The following are the local wedding customs, which are slightly different from the times, as follows:

Shanghai: betrothal-arrange "eight characters" and prepare for the bride price

Marry-sing a "Weeping Wedding Song" and jump on the sedan chair halfway.

Nacai-golden bud jade dust, early birth.

Welcome makeup-give "children's bucket", avoid giving clocks and watches.

Visit the church-get married at the right time; Have a greenhouse guest toast.

A noisy new house-playing with the bride; Go back to the door-go back to your family in three days.

Beijing: The groom shoots the bride with an empty arrow and eats jiaozi first.

According to the traditional way, Peking man intercedes with the matchmaker to find out the name of the woman's family first, and match the birth year and age of the boy and girl. As long as the zodiac signs of both sides do not conflict, they can get married.

After the engagement is confirmed, the man's family will choose an auspicious day and bring a marriage book. The man's family will give the woman clothes, jewelry, wine, fruit cakes and other gifts, which are called "gifts", but this is only a "small gift". One month before the wedding, "big gifts" will be given, usually food, clothes, wine and live geese.

Near the auspicious day, the man's family will also send "makeup-promoting" gifts to the woman's family, including pork and mutton, dried noodles and rice cakes. Among them, "meat" means that the woman's family wants to separate her flesh and blood and let her daughter get married, while the rice cake means that her daughter will climb higher step by step after marriage.

After the woman's family "urges makeup" at the man's house, she will immediately send the dowry to the man's house to install a new house.

When the bride arrives at the man's door, the groom will hold a bow and arrow and shake it at the bride's feet three times to drive away evil spirits. Then the bride can cross the brazier and enter the door.

Then, the bride and groom pay homage to heaven and earth, enter the new house to settle accounts, eat "Pastor Tong" (jiaozi) and longevity noodles together, and drink a toast.

On the third day after marriage, the new uncle accompanied his new wife back to the door and bowed down to her parents-in-law.

Dong people in Guizhou: Walking on stilts to measure their feelings, the torch welcomes the bride.

"Treading on the Heel" is an activity of Dong youth exchange in Qiandongnan. If a boy has a crush on a girl, he will quietly follow the other person and deliberately step on the other person's heel when rushing to the scene. The other party was trampled. Looking back, he felt that the young man liked him, so he followed him out of the court. The two of them talked in a low voice. If you don't like it, pretend you don't know and ignore it. The tramp found that the other party didn't follow him, so he gave up and went in to find someone.

"Treading on the Heel" is an activity of Dong youth exchange in Qiandongnan. If a boy has a crush on a girl, he will quietly follow the other person and deliberately step on the other person's heel when rushing to the scene. The other party was trampled. Looking back, he felt that the young man liked him, so he followed him out of the court. The two of them talked in a low voice. If you don't like it, pretend you don't know and ignore it. The tramp found that the other party didn't follow him, so he gave up and went in to find someone.

Tianjin marriage custom

The wedding customs in Tianjin are quite lively and interesting to outsiders. The "double happiness" on both sides of the gate of the newly-married home and the "single happiness" posted by the married women's home announced the good news of the wedding to people. This happy character in red paper and gold letters embodies the prosperous and festive atmosphere of marriage and people's happy mentality.

However, before liberation, there was a complicated and exquisite wedding etiquette process before putting up red happy characters and the wedding day. At that time, the folk wedding customs in Tianjin basically followed the ancient six rites procedure. First, the matchmaker agreed, then the bride price, and finally the auspicious day was chosen. There are also a few families who practice a new and civilized way of marriage.

At that time, wealthy families liked to be extravagant and extravagant when holding weddings, pursuing decency and excitement. Men give bride price, and some women also ask drummers to play suona to pick them up, show them to relatives and friends, and have a happy meal. After the appointment, if the man's family pays a heavy price, the woman's family should also prepare a heavy dowry. There are 48 sets of dowries. The minimum dowry should also have a happy bucket and a pair of lampstands. Three days before the wedding, the woman's family will blow suona bright dowry in the yard. Men also want to blow the suona sedan chair in the yard. At night, let boys and girls turn around the sedan chair and sing happy songs, which will attract tourists all over the lane.

The wedding day is of course the busiest time. Accompanied by the flag umbrella fan and drummer, the sedan chair of the man's house was carried to the door of the woman's house to make up. The bride, wearing a red gauze and flushed all over, got into the sedan chair and was greeted by the man's house with a big bottle of dates and chestnuts in her hand. The sedan chair was followed by a boy with a mat and a rooster, and a girl with a big bottle. It is said that holding a chicken is intended to pat it to sing to ward off evil spirits, and put it on the windowsill of the new house to express happiness and good luck. Two bottles mean peace. At dusk, the sedan chair stopped at the man's door, and the man's door was closed, thinking that it could ward off evil spirits. The bride calls her mother to open the door, which is actually a ceremony of changing her surname to mother, and then the door opens. After a couple saluted, they each sat side by side with a piece of gold brick wrapped in golden red paper, exchanged gold bricks and put them in a bucket. Then the groom lifts the bride's veil with the balance beam, and a couple formally meet, which is considered as the marriage of the Ming media, and then there are details such as making trouble in the bridal chamber and dividing the size. During the ceremony, the master of ceremonies and bridesmaids asked both husband and wife to have children. You can read this song of blessing in every detail of the ceremony.

On the fourth day after the wedding, there were four ceremonies. The bride takes the groom back to her mother's house. It is a special custom for the bride to bring back chastity red (virgin red) cloth and give it to her mother in public and put it in front of the altar of her ancestors.

Before liberation, some people in Tianjin adopted a new civilized way of marriage because of the influence of foreign customs in the nine-country concession area. The introducer took the young man and woman and their parents to the theater, and the two sides took the opportunity to meet. And get engaged as usual. You don't need a sedan chair to welcome your wedding. The bride doesn't dress in an old-fashioned way, but wears a white gauze and a white ball that sweeps the floor. Girls and boys drag gauze and hold weddings in churches or auditoriums.

After liberation, the marriage customs in Tianjin were greatly simplified. Don't look up eight characters, don't make sedan chairs, don't blow, worship heaven and earth in the middle, and don't test chastity. The man was introduced to the park or the cinema, and then after a period of love, the man gave the woman some kind of gift to get engaged. The two sides agreed to prepare housing, furniture and clothes, do a good job in marriage registration, choose a double date, paste a happy word and get married. In recent years, the wedding custom in Tianjin is still a trend of simplification, and both men and women do their best.

Yi people in Yunnan —— Dancing dishes at exotic wedding banquets.

Yi people in Dashan, Yunnan, have a wedding banquet called "jumping vegetables". The process of serving food at this wedding banquet seems to be difficult acrobatics and dancing. Under his leadership, Master led other disciples and bowed with both hands. In the face of the guests' appearance, he first worshipped the "three realms" immortals, then the "Sanming" founder, and then bowed deeply to the musicians who played suona, hoping to cooperate with each other and serve successfully.

Then, there was a clear and loud suona sound. The masters filed out of the kitchen for the second time, with their arms on their shoulders and boxes on their heads, performing mime, which was humorous and funny. One by one, they matched each other and walked into the banquet step by step. The movements should be relaxed, graceful, smooth and coherent, and there are fixed procedures for which bowl to put first and which bowl to put later. At this time, everyone was nervous and excited. As soon as the heartstrings relaxed, the second pair and the third pair were connected behind them. What a big risk! As many as 10 or 20 bowls full of vegetables are put on a pair of arms, dancing and making faces. Don't underestimate the tray, it's heavy. You can't hold it unless you are a strong man. If you are careless, you will lose face in front of everyone. This is really a top folk master exhibition. The most wonderful scene is holding a bowl of food with 65,438+00 fingers, which is called "jumping off the tower empty-handed". When serving, both hands and elbows should have various movements, such as stretching forward, spreading sideways, turning left and right, kicking with the beat, dancing with the music and so on. At this time, the feast reached its climax, and the two partners suddenly moved back and forth and left and right to escort them. Every bowl of food on the banquet table is a "child" in the whole chess game, and each has its own position. One stroke, one style, all fall together, all have their rhyme.

It is an interesting wedding for your family.

Weddings of different nationalities have their own characteristics. The wedding of Yi people in Tengchong, Yunnan Province is divided into two parts: "seeing off relatives" and "wedding".

(of the bride's relatives) accompany the bride to the groom's house or attend the wedding.

With the sound of gunpowder and bronze cannon, the bride, accompanied by 24 immediate family members (such as her sisters and brothers, uncles and aunts) and a girlfriend dressed exactly like her, set off for the man's house. Along the way, the troops were mighty, copper guns rang a few times when they met water, and several guns were fired on the bridge, which was full of lively atmosphere. I will go to the groom's house, and the first batch of New Year's greetings will bring water and wine, and everyone will move on after a few drinks. Then the second wedding team arrived again and brought lunch. After eating and drinking, the "Gao Qin" team rushed to the groom's house.

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With the sound of firecrackers, the lively wedding officially began. Under the command of the chef, the bride and groom both salute their ancestors, then eat two bowls of rice, two bowls of meat and two bowls of wine together, and then have dinner with their relative Gao Qin. The banquet is mainly about eating meat ("Gao Qin" is particularly favored, one person is a catty) and drinking. All the guests at the wedding have to drink three bowls of wine. After a hearty meal, the wedding will reach its climax. In addition to the bride and groom, under the lead of the "wooden stick", men, women and children attending the wedding, or around the fireplace in the hall, held hands and sang and danced with the "wooden stick".

The "stick dance" is dominated by "stick heads" (generally there are five or six stick heads). At least two or three, more than a dozen, performed by elders or people who are famous in the village and know how to dance). The lead singer usually only sings two sentences, seven words each, and men, women and children sing in chorus. A group of dancers repeated the lyrics under the guidance of "Bangbangtou". At the end of the sentence, a group of dancers can sing an octave higher. Most of the lyrics are about the growth of the bride and groom, their advantages and some happy words.

The hospitality of the guests depends on the financial resources of the host. One day, there are three meals and four meals. Continue to dance "break dance" the next night. On the third day, relatives and friends had breakfast and left one after another. At this point, the happy wedding is over.

Qingdao marriage custom

Qingdao has many ancient customs. With the progress of society, some complicated customs and habits have also been removed. The following is the author's brief account of the current marriage customs in Qingdao, for the reference of readers with common interests:

Brides are not allowed to wave back when they go out.

Don't cry when the bride goes out, on the one hand, it will be unlucky, on the other hand, it will destroy the bride's makeup.

When getting off the bus, the bride and groom should get off from the same side of the car, and don't get off separately, otherwise it will be unlucky.

Pregnancy is not suitable for joint wedding.

When eating jiaozi at the bride's house, keep an even number in the bowl.

What are the wedding customs in Qingdao? It is roughly the same as other areas in Shandong Province. When a man marries, he is called "daughter-in-law" and when a woman marries, he is called "married". Except for special circumstances, wedding etiquette has to go through many procedures, such as matchmaking, blind date, engagement, delivery date and marriage.

Act as a matchmaker/middleman

Also known as "Bao Media", the matchmaker introduces new people and concludes a marriage relationship. A matchmaker can be a relative, friend, acquaintance or a special matchmaker. They go back and forth to both men's and women's homes according to suitable family, age, family and other basic conditions, and generally demand higher conditions for men. If both parties are interested, the man will propose to everyone. The more people propose to their parents, the more honored they feel, which is the so-called "hundreds of women ask for more happiness." When a woman proposes to her husband's house, she will be ridiculed as "a prostitute can't get married." In the past, if both sides were satisfied, both men and women had to hold year-old stickers for each other and write down the date of birth of both men and women. The date and time are written on it, and the number of words must be even. Ask the fortune-teller to "get married" and find out whether the two zodiac signs and birthdays are "made for each other" or "contained with each other". If they are not bound by each other, they can discuss marriage.

Observe and evaluate the suitability of future spouse or son.

In the past, newlyweds could only meet when the veil was lifted in the Dong people's room. In order to prevent the woman's parents from being cheated by the matchmaker, they can only secretly inquire whether the man's appearance and age are consistent with what the matchmaker said, and at the same time inquire about the man's personality and family situation. Nowadays, blind date has become an indispensable procedure in public places.

Wenzhou marriage custom

Tao huancai

Getting married for good luck and good omen is called a red wedding, and Geng is pasted with red paper. There must be red hi eggs in the gift, which are round and harmonious like the "number one scholar", and are associated with red dates (early), peanuts (raw), cinnamon (expensive) and lotus seeds (seeds); Synthesize the gorgeous characters of "early birth, no.1 scholar". After getting married, distribute this egg and candy to relatives and neighbors. Dowry, worship of saints, doors and windows are all affixed with paper-cut with double happiness or auspicious patterns.

Please raise the flag

In the past, matchmakers ran between male and female netizens to make peace and invited Geng Tie to the public on behalf of the man. The man put Geng Tie in front of the kitchen god incense burner, and Buji got married three days later. Within seven days, the family was safe, and the matchmaker sent the man's post to the woman's house. After Buji, they agreed to hire him and not return Geng's position.

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In the old society, engagement was divided into "small engagement" and "big engagement". The betrothal is agreed before the betrothal, and the amount of betrothal determines the dowry. "Xiaoding" hired a pair of gold rings, cakes, fish and other gifts; The woman sent back a tube of ten Jiangxi porcelain bowls, which means "bowl" harmony and "stability", and "century-old harmony", as well as red dates and peanuts. As a formal engagement, "Dading" mainly gives the engagement money and the marriage certificate of Longfeng. The woman puts away the marriage certificate of the man, and the other one is filled in the original mailbox and sent back to the man by the matchmaker. "

"Dading" and "sending to Japan" often go hand in hand. That is, the man will also inform the woman of the wedding date.

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The day before the wedding, the woman gave a banquet to entertain the guests. Ji Chen is chosen to unscrew the hair from the bride's face in nave, which is called "opening the forehead". The mother gives her daughter a gift, which is called "reaching the summit". On the wedding day, the man receives the dowry first. Then the wedding procession began. Daughters, mothers and daughters, sisters and aunts cried goodbye. The content is usually: miss parents, exhort daughters or complain about grievances. The Weeping Wedding Song is circulated everywhere.

From the sedan chair to the man's house, the best man recited hymns and held a ceremony in memory of the bride according to the contents of the hymns. The bride was covered with a double-happiness new rice screen by two "stone-leaving people" and crossed the brazier with the groom to nave to worship heaven and earth. All the people sprinkled red and green rice and red flowers. After the ceremony, enter the bridal chamber, eat "rice" and drink "toast". After nave's banquet, the first table stays at the top, which is called "the first place". For example, the seat where the father-in-law or uncle sits.

A noisy room

As the saying goes, "the seven-day bridal chamber has no size", and making love on the wedding day is particularly fierce. Friends and relatives came, and the bride offered cigarettes and tea. Guests tease the bride, have problems, ask for gifts, often humiliate the bride and groom, and the host and guest break up in discord. After the founding of the People's Republic of China, the new houses were much more civilized than before. If the guests have deviant words and deeds, they will accompany their peers or elders to mediate. This custom has disappeared in recent years.

In some areas, there is a custom of singing congratulations, such as "three-character classics stand for Sichuan, and husband and wife get along well for a hundred years;" The husband and wife became good friends and lived well together. "

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That is, the mother-in-law ceremony will be held three days after marriage. The banquet was held in the middle hall, with the sky as the main theme, the seal as the bottom, and a female guest seat next to it. Play class music, the bride takes the lead, the woman names, the female guests sit down, and the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law exchange places with the music. The bride greeted the guests as the host.

Civilized marriage

After the May 4th Movement, some people followed the example of the Xiwan people and invited local celebrities as witnesses to officiate at the wedding. Parents of both sides call it the main wedding ceremony. At the beginning of the wedding, the groom wears a suit and tie, and the bride wears a white dress, and enters the venue side by side with the music. The witness, the officiant, the groom and the bride all affix their seals on the marriage book, and the married people exchange rings and bows with each other, followed by the witness, the officiant and the new address.

After liberation, the wedding letter became simpler. Cadres only serve tea when they get married. In 1970s, marriage customs became more and more complicated. When engaged, the man will give gold ornaments, and the woman will give back clothes and shoes. Both parties share wedding candy with relatives and friends. When getting married, most women bring sewing machines, bicycles and other "four big pieces". By the 1980s, some economically developed areas had a serious trend of keeping up with the joneses, and the bride price was high, with 500 grams of gold ornaments and more than 10,000 yuan. The woman came back with high-end suits and motorcycles. When she got married, the woman also brought a color TV and electric ice.

Box, stereo dual-channel recorder and other "new five big pieces".

Marriage Customs in Fujian and Taiwan-Tea Ceremony

In China, tea is closely related to marriage. As early as the Ming Dynasty, there was a record of "hiring tea". Fogg, a man of A Qing Dynasty, said in the eighth volume of Listening to the Rain: "Today, tea is used as the currency of weddings, which is also very common in Qin and Han Dynasties, and it is not necessary for the first marriage." The most interesting marriage customs related to tea are Minnan and Taiwan Province Province.

The marriage etiquette in Fujian and Taiwan is always called "three tea ceremonies". "Three teas" are "tea" when engaged, "tea" when married, and "tea" when meeting lovesickness.

In the old society, the man accompanied the matchmaker or parents to the woman's house to propose marriage and make a blind date. The woman's parents used to ask their daughter in the boudoir to serve tea to the guests. After the cup is filled, it is distributed to the relatives and guests of the man in the order of generations, thus opening the prelude to "blind date". The man's family took the opportunity to examine the girl's appearance, words and deeds, and the girl secretly looked at her future husband. When the man "sends" (betrothed) to the woman's house, the woman to be married presents sweet tea (called "Golden Silk Jujube Tea" in Fujian and Taiwan) for the man to taste. After drinking sweet tea, this person's guest will return the gift with double coins wrapped in red paper. This gift is called "pressing the tea bottle". On the wedding day, the man's wedding team didn't come to the woman's house, and the woman's house would invite her to eat "egg tea" (sweet tea has an egg boiled with sugar).

After the man's wedding reception, the bride and groom, accompanied by matchmakers or family members, hold tea trays with candied fruit, sweet wax gourd strips and other "tea matches" to invite guests. This ceremony is called "Eating Bridal Tea". After eating the "bride tea", tourists should wrap red envelopes and put them in a teacup as gifts. On the second day of their wedding, the newlyweds hold "golden jujube tea" (two candied dates are put in each small cup) and kneel down to present them to their elders. This is a famous folk "tea worship" in southern Fujian and Taiwan Province Province, and it is also the climax of tea ceremony in marriage. If relatives and elders who are far away from home can't attend the wedding, the groom's family will wrap the tea in red paper and send it with golden jujube.

In southern Fujian and Taiwan Province Province, tea trees are symbols of unity and death.