How to solve the problems between husband and wife

The problem of husband and wife's eight-character phase is more common in Baidu's "bosom friend" question. Let me elaborate on your question for the reference of all friends who can see it.

The so-called restraint between husband and wife means that there are unfavorable factors in the survival of the eight characters. First of all, we should know something about this academic field. Eight-character fortune telling is the crystallization of wisdom handed down by China for 5,000 years, which is beyond anyone's doubt. Four pillars (eight characters) divination is the most trustworthy academic of all metaphysics. Everyone should look at it from a scientific perspective. We should not blindly think that eight-character fortune-telling is superstition just because some incompetent eight-character forecasters cheat money and color under the banner of fortune-telling, and we should not foolishly think that some eight-character forecasters who are proficient in numerology are gods just because they are approved. Eight-character fortune telling is just a technique, and the key lies in the depth of numerology knowledge that this person has mastered. It can be said with great certainty that this is definitely not superstition. What is considered superstitious can only be said to be ignorance.

Marriage is a major event in life, not only related to the happiness of one's life, but also related to future generations. People have paid special attention to it since ancient times. There was a custom of marriage between men and women in ancient times. The woman's birthday was placed under the altar of the man's house. If nothing bad happens within a week (such as family members falling down, poultry dying,,), they will agree to this marriage. Although superstitious, it profoundly reflects people's respect for their ancestors, that is, let them decide.

As time goes by, birthdays are widely used in marriage. The year is represented by the zodiac and the corresponding earthly branches, and then rotates once every twelve years. They are: Yin = tiger, Mao = rabbit, Chen = dragon, Si = snake, noon = horse, Wei = sheep, Shen = monkey, You = chicken, Xu = dog, Hai = pig, zi = mouse, ugly = cow. There are some factors such as coincidence, mutual conflict, mutual conflict, mutual punishment and mutual harm. Because everyone's birth year has its own local branch, we can measure whether it is favorable or unfavorable from the relationship between two people's birth years, in which conflict is the most unfavorable and cooperation is the most auspicious, and Mr. Ba Zi takes this as the basis. Of course, there is nothing wrong with this, but it is too macro and too general. It is very inappropriate to measure only by this. In fact, it needs to be judged in many aspects.

Whether there are adverse factors such as grams between husband and wife can be accurately known from the eight characters, and the average Mr. Eight characters rarely have this level. There is a common misconception that this old gentleman is very talented. Most of the elderly Mr. Eight Characters came from the 1990s. He is in charge of three things, counting eight characters, choosing auspicious days and watching Feng Shui. These three things are related, but they are different in essence. People who are good at choosing dates don't necessarily have a deep understanding of the eight characters. Feng Shui includes Yang Zhai and Yin Zhai. There is a common misconception that people who are good at choosing dates and feng shui must look at the eight characters deeply. In fact, there is a saying: "three yuan eight-character nine-car book", which means three yuan to read an eight-character book (at that time, three yuan to read eight characters), and learning eight characters depends on reading as many books as nine trucks, which shows that the knowledge of eight characters is difficult to penetrate. In the past, burial was also carried out, so most of them didn't work hard on the eight characters, which were more important than choosing a day and geomantic omen. Moreover, it is not flexible and rigid enough, which is also a major reason why it cannot be deepened.

So how do we judge whether men and women and husband and wife are mutually exclusive or unfavorable? Generally divided into two points:

One: look at the relative situation of the eight characters of two people. In addition to the year of birth, we should also look at the relationship between the five elements of the annual column and the five elements of the annual column, as well as the relative situation of the five elements of the daily column for reference. Note that it is not bad to rush, but easy to get along with. What to rush is to be measured by the five elements of likes and dislikes. For example, when a man and a woman meet in the meridian, the child is water, the afternoon is fire, the child is submerged by water, and the afternoon fire suffers, which consumes energy. If the afternoon fire itself is not good for this person's five elements, then it is beneficial in essence. If the afternoon fire is this person's favorite five elements, it is certainly not good to rush it. This is a world of difference. Furthermore, it depends on whether there is a complementary relationship between two people's eight-character preferences and the five elements. For example, the man likes water, the woman's character is just prosperous, the woman likes fire, and the man's character is prosperous. In this case, it is beneficial to each other. If two people have such a complementary relationship, even if they are born in eight characters, there will be obstacles in the day, and so on, the situation will be different from that without complementarity.

Two: Look at the situation of the husband (wife) star in the personal constellation. Men and women take wealth as their wives, women take officials as their husbands, and Japanese support as their wives' palace, depending on the situation of this husband's "wife" star in the eight characters, whether it is prosperous or hopeless, what is the relationship between his "wife's palace", whether his "wife" star is happy or jealous of his own yen, and so on.

From what has been said above, we can know that it is not so simple to see whether the husband and wife are harmonious. The above is just general, and the situation is different in different years. To weigh the pros and cons, which is more important, and how to adjust, we should make careful analysis and comprehensive relations in many aspects.

People have an instinct of self-adaptation, which is often catered to in nature. For example, a girl is very cold in winter and likes fire, but her husband's constellation is fire. Why are you so smart? This is not a coincidence, but a natural promotion and catering, because a person with strong personality can make her feel warm and comfortable, so she will be with such a person intentionally or unintentionally. In practice, there are two kinds of situations in the horoscope of husband and wife. One is complementarity and mutual benefit. The second is synchronization. Complementarity is wonderful, which is also fate. For example, anonymous's eight-character husband is very heavy, and the yen is very weak for Ding Huo. And her husband, the yen is very strong and the fire is very strong. Just because her husband is a powerful person, he is not afraid of her, but can stand her. The wonderful thing is that it is strong in fire and good for her. Synchronization means that two people have the same hobby, for example, both of them like water and can move forward synchronously. On the other hand, if there is no such relationship, then marriage is prone to problems and even divorce. In addition, there are external factors to help and adjust. For example, the eight-character relationship between men and women is a dispute between wood and soil, and there are also consistent factors, such as separation, separation and doubt about marriage. At this time, there were children, because the relationship between children made two people finally get married. In this case, it is inevitable that the child's eight characters and five elements are full of fire, because wood and soil are at war and fire can mediate. Wood makes a fire, fire gives birth to earth, and the relationship of war evolves in the middle, so that they can reach a harmonious degree. Others were instructed to improve and make up for it.

If there is no complementarity or synchronization and no external factors, it is doomed to be impossible to be together for a long time. If you are still reluctant to be together, if you are in an unfavorable old age and change your original state, there will be problems. At this time, external forces are needed to adjust. Another example is the woman's husband. Because of the original situation, the other party can bear it, and the favorable factors such as the combination of eight characters make the marriage reach a certain age and increase the strength of the husband's five elements. At this time, the man's luck is not good for himself, so the woman will hurt the husband of the man's husband at this time. If there is no external adjustment, problems will arise.

There are many different situations, and we need to understand the relationship between them. Whether you can find someone who can really understand and give guidance depends on fate. On the other hand, in any case, two people need to understand, understand and tolerate each other when they get along, which can also alleviate the unfavorable factors of the eight characters. Thoughts, ideas and actions are interlinked, which can guide and promote the good side, but in fact, they influence each other. Just like people generally understand emotions because they are happy, smile, and think that they understand and tolerate each other because of harmony. Yes, it's true, but if I say that smiling will make you happy, do you believe it? Yes, it is true that a smile can make you happy. If you don't believe me, you can experience it now. Come on, try it. No problem. Now you grade your happiness index (1-5), then you smile, smile, smile, now grade your happiness index. You will find that after laughing, your mood is better than the previous moment. By the same token, if we can give each other an understanding, inclusive and harmonious atmosphere, it will also move towards the good side. Therefore, in any case, creating a harmonious atmosphere will enhance the happiness index between husband and wife.

Let's get back to the point. Husband's birthday 1968 April 1 1, wife's birthday 1968 October 2 1 is the date of the solar calendar or the lunar calendar? It's no good not knowing.