Superstitious mother-in-law opposes daughter-in-law having children and would rather divorce her son than compromise. What do you think of this?

Introduction: Ma Baonan, in fact, it is the mother-in-law who refuses to let her son go. If her mother-in-law can relax, how many women will refuse Ma Baonan?

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For Ma Baonan, many women's first reaction is to stay away from him.

But how did Ma Baonan get his name? It's from a married person! Therefore, more often than not, women find out that they are married to a baby boy after marriage.

Most people in love are based on each other, love each other and please each other. In fact, they don't explore the mode of getting along with each other and their families, but only pursue how deep their feelings are with this person, or whether the three views are consistent.

In this way, many family conflicts will only arise after marriage, and the marriage tragedies caused by mothers and filial men will only gradually appear after marriage.

But marriage is not love, it involves a lot of money, time and energy, as well as the expectations and responsibilities of both families. Therefore, after marriage, it is not easy to find out that the other party is a mother-in-law or a foolish filial man.

What is marriage? Marriage is 0.5+0.5= 1. Everyone weakens their own bad, tolerates each other's bad, and then two people are together.

To put it bluntly, it means mutual understanding, tolerance and growth together. Finding out that it is Ma Baonan will also give each other a chance to grow up.

However, not every baby boy knows how to grow up in this opportunity.

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My friend Xiaomei was loved by her ex-husband before she got married. Because of this love, Xiaomei married her ex-husband with great expectation.

However, after getting married, Xiaomei found that although this man loved her, he loved his mother more. Between Xiaomei and her mother-in-law, this man will choose her mother-in-law without hesitation.

Xiaomei's mother-in-law's marital status is very bad. She was abused by her father-in-law all her life, and she also had a lot of debt in three or four years.

It is said that my mother-in-law cried when she was a child. When Xiaomei's ex-husband graduated from college, her father-in-law filed for divorce on the grounds that her son had grown up. My mother-in-law persisted in her marriage for most of her life and finally parted ways.

At that time, Xiaomei's ex-husband told Xiaomei that he secretly decided to protect her every time her father hit her mother. Of course, he also did it. In order to please his mother, he studied hard and worked honestly. When the two girls lived alone, they had a good life.

Xiaomei didn't know until after she got married that her ex-husband not only put her mother first in everything, but also her mother-in-law loved her son too much, which made Xiaomei once suspect that she had interfered with their feelings.

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Xiaomei lived with her mother-in-law after she married her ex-husband. Her ex-husband chats with her mother-in-law every day when she comes home from work, from the ideal of life to the embarrassment of going to the toilet, from the people she meets on the way to work to the interesting things that happen in the company. As long as she doesn't talk once, her mother-in-law will be wronged.

Therefore, the mother-in-law usually listens to her son's narrative, smiles and helps her son to wash and cook, and keeps her son's life in order. At this time, Xiaomei couldn't help feeling like an outsider.

Xiaomei wanted to chat with this man, just like before marriage, but found it was not practical at all. As long as Xiaomei occupies her husband for a while, her mother-in-law will be unhappy. So Xiaomei can only talk to her husband for a few minutes when she turns off the lights before going to bed.

Xiaomei felt depressed at that time, but she didn't care too much about her mother-in-law's hard life.

To Xiaomei's amazement, her ex-husband bought a new dress for her mother-in-law, and her mother-in-law wanted to try it on with joy. In order to wear out the effect, she had to change the clothes that made the bottom inside into suitable ones. As a result, her mother-in-law began to undress in front of Xiaomei and her ex-husband, and she didn't mean to enter the bedroom at all.

In Xiaomei's complicated expression, her mother-in-law said calmly, "What's the matter? We are both United and don't shy away. "

Although Xiaomei didn't like the mode of getting along with her mother, fortunately, her ex-husband was still very kind to her at that time. She paid her salary and didn't want her to do housework, wash her feet and buy her favorite dishes.

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If she is not pregnant, it is estimated that Xiaomei will always be deceived by her ex-husband's gentle actions.

Xiaomei got pregnant unexpectedly after one year of marriage, which was first known by her mother-in-law.

Xiaomei thought her mother-in-law would be happy, but she didn't expect her mother-in-law to behave so abnormally that she was the first to jump out against having children.

Xiaomei was surprised at the time. Don't other people's mother-in-law expect their daughter-in-law to get pregnant? Why did she come to date her mother-in-law herself? However, in the face of her mother-in-law's opposition, Xiaomei thought: Do I need your permission to have a baby? What's the use of your objection?

But unexpectedly, her mother-in-law's opposition led to the breakdown of her marriage.

Xiaomei informed her ex-husband that she was pregnant through WeChat. At that time, in the message sent by her ex-husband, she was very happy about pregnancy and said that she was going to be a father. Xiaomei was very hard.

But when I got home at night, my mother-in-law brought her ex-husband into the room before the couple congratulated each other.

I don't know what I said. Mother-in-law's crying has spread many times. After her ex-husband came out of her mother-in-law's room, she didn't say a word, and her face was terrible.

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Lying in bed at night, her ex-husband told Xiaomei seriously that it was not suitable to have this baby now and let her abort it.

Xiaomei felt that her mother-in-law was putting pressure on him at that time. It would be fine if she figured it out in two days, but in the next few days, her ex-husband kept forcing Xiaomei to go to the hospital.

It is also under the pressure of her ex-husband again and again that Xiaomei knows that it is not that her mother-in-law doesn't like children, but that her mother-in-law is quite superstitious.

Mother-in-law calculated before Xiaomei got pregnant, and the fortune teller said that it was not suitable to have grandchildren in these two years.

According to the month of pregnancy, Xiaomei will be born next year, but next year is the birth year of her mother-in-law. Her mother-in-law found a fortune teller to calculate the divination. This child is in harmony with her mother-in-law's horoscope, and her arrival will make her restless for the rest of her life. So my mother-in-law won't let Xiaomei get pregnant now, and we'll talk about it in a year or two.

Xiaomei was suddenly disappointed, so she rode a bike, ran and did sports. The purpose is to let the children flow away by themselves. A few days later, she went to the hospital for examination. Xiaomei suddenly cried when the doctor told her that the baby was healthy. How can she stand such a strong life?

In order to save the child, Xiaomei first did ideological work for her ex-husband, and then analyzed the benefits of the child's arrival. It is really impossible to consider moving out. Finally, the ex-husband wavered and agreed to move out and give birth to the child.

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My mother-in-law learned that the two were moving out, and pointed at Xiaomei for three hours when she was alone at home. After her ex-husband came back, she was miserable and told that she was bullied by her husband in the first half of her life and by her daughter-in-law in the second half.

Seeing the mother's grievance, Xiaomei was extremely disappointed with the man in front of her when her husband asked Xiaomei to abort the child again, and decided to divorce her.

She can understand a man's respect and love for his mother, but she can't accept that a man would rather hurt his wife or even kill his children for his mother.

The ex-husband didn't agree to divorce, and Xiaomei made trouble for a whole month. When the family can't even sleep, the ex-husband agrees to divorce, which also shows that Xiaomei loves to have children, and vice versa.

This marriage, which took a year and a half, still went to the Civil Affairs Bureau. Coming out of the Civil Affairs Bureau, Xiaomei solemnly said to her ex-husband: "Next time you get married, remember to leave your mother. No woman can accept such a mother-in-law. "

The ex-husband replied disappointedly: "I won't remarry, I will accompany my mother for life."

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In fact, Ma Baonan doesn't know how to let go because his mother cares too much.

After all, a son is a son. If a mother puts too much affection on her son and seeks emotional comfort from him, it will only make her son's marriage unhappy.

As an elder, one should not bring personal feelings into the marriage of the younger generation, especially the mother-in-law. One of the reasons for the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is that mother-in-law entrusts her happiness to her son and always thinks that her son is her own, and daughter-in-law appears just to compete for her son.

After all, mother and son are mother and son, and no matter how good their feelings are, they can't be surprised by nature or cry bitterly.

Making children happy is what every parent wants most, but the happiness of children as adults is more due to the beauty they create and the people and things they meet in their lives, rather than being in their parents' arms forever.

What's more, to please parents and give up relatives, including children, is not happiness for an adult, but a disaster.

Marriage is a child's lifelong home, and parents really shouldn't interfere in their children's marriage after marriage. What you have to do is to keep a proper distance from your children, spend your old age safely and enjoy the filial piety from your children.