There is a saying in the countryside that "when you marry a Han Chinese, you should look after your shoulders, but when you marry a wife, you should look after your palms". What's the point?

Our country has a history of five thousand years, and many proverbs have been handed down from the long river of the previous history, which can help future generations avoid many risks and make us realize a better future.

These proverbs are all jingles made up by the older generation and are catchy to read.

I often hear a lot from my grandparents. There are some proverbs handed down from the countryside in the past, and even some have never heard of them, but they still have great truth. Some proverbs can't be understood literally.

Especially in the past few years, children from many families were not qualified to go to school, and most people accepted a relatively low culture. At that time, they basically all graduated from primary school.

Although most people in that era did not accept elegant culture, they were sure of these basic common sense, and rural people were particularly particular about rules.

In this era, rural people can only earn their daily expenses through physical strength, and they must have enough physical strength to solve the problem of food and clothing, which is why there was a serious patriarchal ideology in that era.

At that time, men occupied a high enough position in the right to speak, and it was also because men were physically stronger and could create more value for their families. In the past, the saying in the countryside was "marry a Han Chinese to look after the shoulders and a daughter-in-law to look after the palms". What does this mean? This sentence clearly expresses that men and women in the past had certain requirements for mate selection standards. Let's have a look.

First, look at the shoulders.

First, let's analyze the first half of this sentence. This sentence mainly means that women usually value this man's shoulder when choosing the other half.

We often use "five big and three thick" to describe a man's indomitable spirit in order to create a better life for his wife and children. At that time, men were the pillars of the family, so the taller and stronger a man was, the more he could create value for the family.

And in those days, what can show that a man can have a high sense of responsibility and can see that this man is very capable of working? Through the shoulder.

At that time, if men's shoulders were particularly thick and wide, they would attract girls' love.

In the former farming society, we could only rely on planting farmland and armor to maintain our living expenses. The more energy there is, the more farmland can be planted, so you won't worry about the living expenses at home.

In contrast, from the side, some thin people with narrow shoulders are generally not liked by girls.

This is mainly because the shoulders can't bear enough strength and can't give women a certain sense of security.

This standard is not only in the former society, but there are still many women who like men with wide shoulders.

It's just that with the development of the times, the beauty of this era is broad shoulders. Now people also know that we can't guess whether this person can create more wealth for the family just by relying on one person's shoulders.

Now the family pays more attention to it, and this man pays more attention to his sense of responsibility and personality.

Second, marry a wife and look at the palm of your hand.

At that time, men also had certain standards for women, and of course there were some bright spots that could not be stepped on. At that time, they were especially used to looking at the woman's hand when they chose the object.

In the past, there were many fortune tellers in society. Fortune tellers would look at a person's date of birth, face and palm lines.

At that time, fortune tellers generally believed that the lines on a woman's palm with a broken palm represented her future life.

Generally, a woman with a broken palm is likely to be married, so it is difficult for such a woman to have a happy family.

Just because fortune tellers were very popular in those days, men in those days were choosing, and the other half would let the woman hold out her palm first and observe it carefully. If they meet their own standards, the two sides will further communicate.

At that time, men were plowing outside, and women needed to make clothes and shoes, and do some manual work at home. We often use delicate hands to describe a woman with beautiful hands.

And most people think that if a woman has a pair of seemingly perfect hands, then that person's appearance and other aspects must be beautiful, which is what we call the halo effect.

Summary:

In fact, this statement is similar to modern blind date to some extent. Now men are also willing to do housework for women at home. Can they accept washing and cooking at home? This is also a basic standard for modern women.

The prejudice against women in this era is still great, and there are many moral standards.

It is also difficult for women to succeed, and it is difficult to get the respect of men.

Women in the new era demand economic independence and no longer rely on men's lives, which is also the general trend.