What are the "three elements" of talking in psychological counseling?

At present, psychiatrists in the psychology department of more hospitals are part-time or job-hopping. Unconsciously, they always look at psychological disorders from the perspective of psychiatry, and often prescribe drugs to patients at a cost of 200 yuan per week to 300 yuan, with little psychological guidance. No wonder there are many psychological patients in the hospital now, ranging from a dozen to thirty or forty people every day. If everyone gives 1 hour of psychological counseling, it is endless ... I think the real psychological disorder does not need to use drugs for three reasons: 1, psychological disorder is caused by the mind's temporary inability to face pressure, which belongs to the disorder of mental conditioning function, and heart disease is still treated through psychological counseling; 2. Taking medicine may quickly control the symptoms, but after stopping taking the medicine, do you still have to use your mind to adjust the dependence caused by the medicine? ! 3. Patients regard psychological disorder as a physiological disease and always feel that it is unreasonable for doctors not to give medicine, which also misleads doctors from behind. Therefore, it is logical that doctors prescribe drugs to patients when they see psychological barriers. Psychological counseling is a good way to relieve psychological pressure and improve psychological endurance. Almost everyone needs psychological counseling all his life, but there are still many netizens who have some misunderstandings about psychological counseling. Myth 1: Psychological counseling is a chat with different meanings. Although the main way of psychological counseling is to talk, psychological counseling uses professional theoretical knowledge of psychology, as well as knowledge of sociology and medicine, and has a strict and superstitious theoretical system and operating procedures, so as to achieve the purpose of dealing with psychological problems, help people alleviate psychological crisis and promote personality development. This is completely different from chatting with friends, comforting relatives and friends, educating teachers and guiding ideological and political career. Myth 2: Anyone can pay attention to a counselor, just like no one can drive at will. Psychological counselors must undergo strict training and examination and obtain the consent certificate from the management department before they can take up their posts. According to the threshold of developed countries, a qualified wholly-owned psychological counselor must have a doctorate in psychology and medicine, undergo strict internship training, have certain practical experience, pass the certification qualification examination, and have the guidance of a superior supervisor before he can start his business. Due to well-known reasons, China has not reached the threshold of developed countries, and the gap is very large. We can only lower the standard, use some talents who love psychological counseling and have basic psychological counseling qualities, and gradually cultivate senior psychological counseling professionals, so as to strive to integrate with international norms as soon as possible. Myth 3: I have a good psychological quality and don't need psychological counseling. Psychological counseling is not just about dealing with your psychological crisis and a lot of psychological problems. No matter how strong, smart, honest, enthusiastic and knowledgeable you are, you can't know yourself well. You need to know yourself from others. You can't always reflect on yourself, and you can't always look at me as an outsider. Knowing yourself from others may give you the wrong hint. Psychological counseling is a relatively standardized mirror, which can correctly understand me from all angles without deformation. Knowing yourself correctly can foster strengths and avoid weaknesses, and promote the development and success of life. Myth 4: Psychological counselors can see through my thoughts and understand my past and future. Some people make the mistake of complicating psychological counseling, while others make the mistake of over-complicating and mystifying psychological counseling. Some people equate psychology with mysticism, such as fortune telling, divination and psychic powers. At present, some people cheat people with computers under the guise of psychological examination, and some people deliberately let psychologists guess their psychological activities, so as to weigh the level of psychologists and so on. Psychologists have nothing special except their professional knowledge in psychology. After training, psychologists have a good observation ability, a clear understanding of the superstitious laws of psychological activities, and a very objective logical analysis ability, which can distinguish some subconscious psychological activities, but all this must come from real, objective and one-sided materials. Psychologists themselves cannot and cannot understand detailed ideas with the help of high-tech instruments. The most advanced lie detector can't measure the detailed ideological details. People's views on the brain are far behind the most complex electronic computers, and the complexity of the psychological world is not what the ancients imagined. See psychological counseling should have superstitious thoughts. Myth 5: It is shameful to do psychological counseling. Due to historical reasons and many objective factors, people still don't understand their psychological world, and many people still can't tell the difference between "nerve" and "spirit", "spirit", "psychology" and "thought". Fear and suspicion of psychological counseling may be due to ignorance of "mental illness". Going to psychological counseling is afraid of being regarded as "mental abnormality" and psychological problems are regarded as "mental illness" and "ideological problems". Sometimes subtle psychological problems may not be dealt with blindly, forming and eventually developing into serious psychological diseases. It is really sad to "cover up" and "hide" psychological problems and let them develop. Psychological counseling is one of the best ways to promote people's growth and development, an effective way to prevent psychological barriers, and a way to improve the quality of life and achieve success in life. The most basic criteria of psychological counseling include "confirming confidentiality". You can tell your inner world frankly to the psychologist, who will take care of it. Psychological counseling will keep you away from stupidity and feudal superstition, bear your ideals and face yourself squarely. People who think that "seeing a psychiatrist is a shame" are fragile people, people who dare not undertake their own ideals, and their psychology is not very healthy. In ancient times, people with progressive ideas once walked into the psychological counseling room without scruple and resolutely moved towards a successful future. Myth 6: Psychological counseling should not be charged or charged less. Psychological counseling is a helpful thing, helping people to relieve mental pain and do good deeds, and there is not much cost, so many people think it should be free. Although the ancients knew that time and knowledge were valuable in theory, many people needed psychological counseling because of these intangible things and deep traditional ideas, but they were unwilling to pay for it. Psychological consultation abroad is very expensive, but the domestic fees are so low that many psychologists can't make a living from it, which has become one of the reasons that affect the development of mental health in China. Myth 7: Psychological counseling should deal with difficult problems at one time. Many people who seek psychological counseling for the first time dream that psychologists can sweep away their temporary depression and pain, get rid of the fog of the soul, stay away from troubles and confusion, see the blue sky of my true self again, and give me a relaxed mood and upward fighting spirit. However, psychologists are not immortals, and there is nothing beyond the efforts of ordinary people. "You must untie the bell and the person who tied it." Psychological counseling is to help people deal with their own problems. Psychologists can't handle all problems by themselves, but can only provide some correct viewpoints, analyze problems and detailed treatment methods. Need to have the helper's own detailed practical operation to deal with it. Unless it is a very complicated psychological problem, psychological counseling can achieve the ideal effect. Many problems are "Rome wasn't built in a day", and there are also temperament problems. Some ideal problems may also touch all aspects, and psychological counseling cannot be done at once. Psychological counseling is to help seekers see themselves clearly, accept their ideals and surpass themselves. Therefore, psychological counseling needs a cognitive process, a sequence of discussion, analysis, operation, feedback, correction and practical operation, and it is usually impossible to deal with difficult problems at one time. And there is a time limit for psychological counseling at a time. It takes a long time (from months to years) to deal with difficult problems. Now, due to the improvement of theory and technology, the course of treatment has been greatly extended, but it is impossible to solve the problem at once. In China, psychological counseling is still in its infancy, and both people engaged in this cause and the masses who need psychological counseling need to have a long-term vision and undertake the process. There is no denying that psychological counseling has a broad market and bright prospects. There is no doubt that happiness psychology is very important to individuals, a nation and a country. I have done a lot of online and offline psychotherapy recently, and I am very happy to help many people. Although I am very happy, there are still many things I can't do ... There are indeed many strange sights about psychotherapy and the mainstream civilization in China. Let's talk about the following: First, is it mental illness to see a psychiatrist? More people equate seeing a psychiatrist with suffering from mental illness, so in China, there are still many people who are unwilling to see a psychiatrist. There is a county-level cadre who has been suffering from inexplicable pain for nearly 10 years and has no difficulty in introspection in major hospitals. This cadre takes medicine every day, and takes his lover seriously, thinking that it is caused by his bad lover ... This kind of disorder is called: transformational pain disorder comes from his inability to solve the pressure in life. A friend suggested that he see a psychiatrist. The cadre insisted on not going, thinking that he had a set of theories. Besides, seeing a psychiatrist is a mental illness. As a result, I finally divorced my lover, my family broke up, and my pain didn't get better ... I wanted to help him, but he wouldn't let me go, so I had to give up. Unfortunately, his lover, who has worked hard to maintain his family for 20 years, divorced in middle age for no reason. Second, the more expensive the doctor, the better? I remember a friend in the clothing business told me one thing. He has a product with a price tag of 50 yuan that he can't sell. Seeing that the season is about to change, my friend is in a hurry, so I just set the price in 500 yuan. As a result, he sold it at a good price in 400 yuan that day. God, China people don't buy the right ones, they only buy the expensive ones! In psychotherapy, more people also have this idea. The more expensive the charge, the better the doctor's medical skills. Third, the more professional titles, the better the psychologist? The older you get, the more experienced the psychologist becomes. Here, I quote Li Zixun, a psychologist from China-Japan Friendship Hospital. The following aspects are the most unreliable: 1. Title: For example, the title of professor or chief physician or even doctor can't represent anything. This is to clarify that they have cultivated some knowledge, but it does not mean that he is a psychology major. 2. Leaders of psychological societies: such as presidents, directors and members of national committees. People with busy careers can't settle down and do cases. 3. Noble people: Noble people do not represent high education. Self-righteous people always think others are worth having and overestimate themselves. 4, overseas gilded people: It is good to have a background in studying abroad, but it is necessary to find out what to learn and what gold to plate. Some people go back to China, thinking that everyone in China is a hillbilly and they can do whatever they want. I met a few very active people and sincerely hoped that she would come to do a case supervision or give a lecture. As a result, I found that the cow's head was not right. 5. People who publish books: Don't think that people who can write books are highly consulted. Ten books written by Dr. China can't be read, so that the bad guys can see their own shortcomings. 6. The elderly: Psychological counseling is a highly competitive profession. Threshold counselors must be full of spirit, full of spirit, open-minded, sensitive, advanced and have the value orientation of multi-civilization. It's hard for old people not to be rigid, think that they eat too much salt, and it's hard to restrain themselves from educating others. It is also difficult to achieve * * * affection ~ ~ This is about the "three elements" of talking in psychological counseling. The answer. 15