Venus Texas boyfriend

Is Venus a man or a woman? The photo of dance teacher Venus before she became transsexual shows that Venus is a ballerina and now she is a transsexual woman. Is Venus a man or a woman? Photo of Venus, a dance teacher before transsexuality. Venus is a Korean male who was born in Shenyang, China. Studying in a local Korean school. Hours showed a high degree of intelligence (first place in abacus competition) and enthusiasm for dancing. I have been learning dance and military skills since I was nine years old. Hours show a strong change. I once said that when it rains, she will run outside, hoping that lightning will turn her body into a woman. He won the youth group championship of the national dance competition with the Central Asian folk dance. 1996, he went to new york to study modern dance, and then went to Europe. Returned to China at the age of 26 and had sex-change surgery at the age of 28. After the operation, there was a short-term side effect of left leg paralysis, and later he recovered and went to Shanghai to do choreography and training. Adopt a son at the age of 33. 1998 went to Korea and acted in a sci-fi action movie. In 2008, he went to Thailand to perform Boxing 2.

Venus, as its name suggests, was once a result of a sex-change operation in 2006. However, with the success of her dance tour around the world, her achievements in modern dance creation and performance have attracted more and more attention. On May 14 and May 15, she will come to poly theatre with a modern dance "Tango on the Sea". In front of reporters, she will not only talk about dancing, but also talk about many topics that women are interested in. Sharp point of view and witty remarks, it seems that the tool for her to express her thoughts and feelings is not only dance, but also a language full of personality, just like her name "Venus"-a planet that rotates in the opposite direction to other planets in the universe and a unique dazzling star before dawn.

Venus: Enjoy the pleasure of a man becoming a woman. Is Venus a man or a woman? Photo of Venus, a dance teacher before transsexuality. "She" said, "I also have love. I told my boyfriend that this is my love. The first boyfriend met while dancing in new york. He is a Texas cowboy. Soon, I chased from new york to Texas. I was forced to give up dancing during two months of herding cattle with cowboys in the west. The second love was with an Italian psychologist. And now love is a secret that no one knows. " The speaker above is called Venus. At the age of nine, he was admitted to the Forward Dance Company. In 2006, 17 years old, graduated with honors from the Dance Department of Art College. The next year, he started the men's toe dance. 1960, Venus went to new york to study modern dance. In 2004, she underwent sex-change surgery. Taking away the glory of the "dancing emperor", she still didn't give up dancing. Her leg was affected by the operation, but she stood firmly on the stage again. She started a private dance company named after Venus. A few days ago, she was radiant in a program on Phoenix TV.

One afternoon in early spring of 2008, we met Venus in a bar. She dresses very gently and elegantly. In the eyes of most people, Venus is different, but she is brave and dares to change herself from a seven-foot man to a woman. Compared with her bravery, we seem to have no courage to accept her.

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Moderator: Do you still have such eyes in your life now, and are there still these whispers behind you?

Venus: No, hardly.

Moderator: No, or you don't care too much? Because, you may not care too much, your mentality is good, because you will not care too much.

Venus: Yes, I don't care, maybe I don't care, because I think it's normal for others to say (me).

Maybe from the day I left the hospital, the day I stepped out, I began to cultivate my own mentality. Because people's comments are normal, and the more I talk, the more confident I may be, because I have done what I want without affecting society and others, so I feel very calm.

Once I was in a taxi, a driver asked me, "Oh, miss, your voice seems to be very low." I said, "Yes, I used to be a boy, but now I'm a girl." He said, "Are you kidding?" I said, "No kidding, are you kidding?" "How come?" I said, "How come?"

The second time was the first time I recorded a program on TV. At that time, a child may be accompanied by his parents, who will definitely say, "Oh, this teacher Jin turned out to be a man." The child was really innocent, so he came over and said, "Mr. Jin, were you a man before?" I said, "Yes," and he said, "Then why did you become a woman?" I said, "I think I should be better as a woman, so I stopped being a man and became a woman."

In fact, I think it's very simple, there's nothing to avoid, and I'm not particularly embarrassed. So I feel very calm.

Or "glass fish"

Moderator: I know you are sitting in front of me and talking to me. Is your way of speaking and manners shaped by you as an artist or a natural expression?

Venus: No. I used to be like this. My voice, my speaking speed, my gestures and my eyes are the same as before. Therefore, people who knew me before, including my classmates, used to say, "Oh, is Venus different now?" They were particularly nervous, but after seeing me for less than two minutes, they said, "Oh, she's still the same." I'm still the same, so I have a nickname "glass fish" in my classmates' circle.

Moderator: What does "glass fish" mean?

Venus: (referring to) completely transparent, especially transparent. Bones and meat can be seen clearly, that is, you can say whatever you want.

Maybe I didn't expect what it looked like. I think this may be my most comfortable appearance. Moreover, as far as I know, many people who have undergone sex-change surgery in the world are still excellent in Europe. Some of them have changed from women to men, and they have become very successful lawyers, parliamentarians and TV presenters. But in Asia, people may be influenced by Thai culture, where many people have undergone sex-change surgery, and they may pursue another lifestyle. So when I appeared, what people actually faced was not how I faced the society, but what people usually thought people who had sex-change surgery should look like.

So now we just sit together and chat. After hearing about Venus, many people imagine that Venus must be full of makeup, especially exaggerated costumes, bright red lips and long nails, and they are very shy when walking, especially exaggerating the image of women. Then when many people see me, (they will say) "Oh, she is not like this", and they may accept it when they are disappointed.

I have long wanted to be a woman.

Venus: Actually, I had this idea when I 19 came to America. I had to have an operation and return to my female identity. But the long time from 19 to 28 is actually a process of thinking. I'm thinking about my mental state.

But the hardest thing is not that process, the hardest thing is to start with you. Therefore, this kind of mentality (needs) you to be prepared. I have been preparing for this mentality for more than eight years. I think my social skills, all aspects of my dealing with others, and my career will not be affected. I can continue to do what I like, and then I will take this step.

Moderator: So these eight years mean that you are talking to yourself every day. One person said yes, and the other said no?

Venus: Yes, I imagine that if I am about 1.8 meters tall and have a big waist, I will give up this idea and maybe find another way to balance my mind. But I think God has given me such conditions, which may only broaden my career. According to my profession, I used to be a male dancer. Now, as a female dancer, besides dancing, she also plays dramas and movies, broadening more artistic expressions in all directions. So I thought, well, I'll take this step.

The operation was filmed.

Venus: When I finally entered the operating room, I was asked "How sure are you" and I said "50%".

Moderator: He asked how sure you were. Venus: Yes. Moderator: What do you mean? Venus: He said how confident you are. Moderator: How much can you bear?

Venus: Yes, I said 50% and he said 50%. Dare you make such a big decision? I said I threw the remaining 50% into the sky, and God took care of me. He said "Oh, really" and went into the operating room. Therefore, I was not nervous when I entered the operating room, because I had already entered the operating room several times, because the whole transformation process required several major operations. Every time I walk on the stage, I have many friends, such as Bird, including some friends from many TV stations. They all filmed the whole process with their cameras.

There was an accident.

Moderator: But after you finished, you said for a while that your legs were failing and you couldn't dance?

Venus: No, it has nothing to do with my sex change surgery. It was during the operation, 16 hours, because of an accident. The nurse didn't take care of it. It was an accident. The bracket of the left leg was supported on the bracket of the knee socket and slipped on my calf. All the muscles in my calf twitched and all the nerves from my calf to my toes died. Moderator: How did it recover?

Venus: The needles inserted in the legs are all charged and get an electric shock every day. Two months in a wheelchair and a month on crutches. I changed from a crutch to a single crutch. Finally, he was diagnosed as a cripple and never thought about dancing. I didn't believe it at that time. I was in it, so I told myself that I felt a lot of things were lost. ...

Moderator: But you think you may not be able to dance. Will you never dance in your life?

Venus: I don't believe it, really. when I

I didn't believe it when I was young. I had a diagnosis meeting next door. My mother cried, my American friend.

My friend came from the United States to file a lawsuit against me, ready to sue and get back 1 10,000 compensation.

But I don't think these are important. I was lying in bed then. A week later, I suddenly saw my left leg and moved a little. I quickly said that I would drop the charges. I said no problem, the leg can recover. So I began to drag my body and take the wound to acupuncture every day. It was a miracle when I finally stood on the stage three months after I was discharged from the hospital. I can't believe it.

Compere: You never despair at that time? You think, my god, I have spent so much money and suffered so much that I may not be able to dance. You've never been so confused?

Venus: I don't think so. At that time, I just told myself that you asked too much and you didn't pay enough. To overcome this pain, what you ask is directly proportional to you.

Venus is indeed the darling of fate, but God seems to only help those who are willing to work hard. Venus not only didn't become disabled, but also won applause again on her favorite stage-this is a special performance of Red and Black performed by Venus at the beginning of the year, dragging her left leg without temperature three months after she was discharged from hospital. This is the first time that a special modern dance performance was performed in Chinese mainland, and it was packed for a time, but many viewers did not come to see Venus' dance, but to see what kind of woman Venus had become. However, at the end of the performance, Venus conquered them with her skillful dance.

Venus, a transsexual dancer: I turned 200% in Europe. Is Venus a man or a woman? Photo of Venus, a dance teacher before transsexuality.

As I said before, I won't worship anyone, but if I want to worship anyone, it must be my future husband. The person who can marry me is the one who can really appreciate me and understand my value. The person who can be my husband is really tasteful and discerning. (Laughter) Very discerning!

There are many people who get married more than once in life, but few people like Venus marry a woman for the first time and a man for the second time.

On February 1 this year, dancer Venus married her German boyfriend Hans, and since then she has completed all the roles that a real woman may play in her life-daughter, lover, mother and wife.

Besides shining brilliantly on the stage, the maverick personal life of the founder of modern dance in China has also attracted wide attention. She said half jokingly and half seriously, "I am the biggest performance art in China, and I have been doing it all my life. This performance art does not last for a day, but until I die. I use my life and my works to be a person and see how the society recognizes me and how to accept me. " Her transsexuality, her marriage and love are not deliberately created, but personal real needs. She got the share of life, and at the same time gave her comments to everyone with an open mind.

Thirty-eight years ago, a chromosome went to the wrong place. In natural law, this is an easy mistake to make, but in social law, it is a hundred times more difficult to correct this mistake. The poet Yu Jian said to Venus, "Venus, you are the most psychologically healthy person in China."

Meet Hans on the plane

Venus' German husband Hans met on the plane.

This tall and reserved German man usually only takes economy class. Just as the economy class tickets were sold out, he made an exception and sat next to Venus.

I don't know if it's familiar or amazing. Once he sat down, his eyes were tied by this unique oriental woman around him and he refused to leave. Belt of venus held his pet dog "Niu Niu" and politely apologized to him for fear of disturbing the passengers around him. The two chatted about it and hit it off very well. When they left, they left a password.

When he got off the plane and saw a dancer meet Venus at the airport, Hans realized that he had met Venus, a well-known modern dancer in Europe. After a few days, I got up the courage to fight. I was sleepy and thoughtful. I was a gentleman.

From love to marriage, it is a natural process in Venus' own psychology, but it takes a lot of careful and rational consideration to form a family, and it takes three times to analyze and discuss the law in order to give children a stable and happy home.

About living in China or German after marriage;

"Is my career important? Or is the career important? "

Hans said honestly, "Of course your career is important."

"Is China important for the growth of three children in China? Or is Europe important? "

Hans nodded again: "Of course it's important for China. Children should learn Chinese and lay the foundation from an early age. "

There is no room for discussion about the family situation. Venus told Hans bluntly: in this family, the status of children is always the first, and children are always more important than you.

Hans fully accepted the ranking. In order to create a Chinese environment for children, this rigorous and gentle husband and father went to Fudan University to register Chinese in this hot summer day in 2006. Originally, his Chinese level was limited to chasing the youngest child in the family, called Xiao Sa 'er (Xiao San). At home, Venus speaks English to Hans, Hans speaks German to the children, and Venus and the nanny speak Chinese to the children. "Messed up the children! Now that the child speaks, there will be German words in Chinese! "

Venus is a man of temperament, and the criteria for choosing a spouse are simple and clear: "As long as you are in good health, mental health, ability or wealth, it doesn't matter. What matters is your essential quality. " But when choosing a father for her children, her requirements are strict. She wants to create the best growth conditions for her children and let them grow up in a loving environment.

She is proud that she was born with the gift of being a mother. Not only can she change diapers without a teacher, but she also knows how to teach students in accordance with their aptitude: the eldest son Dudu is sensible and confident, and she can be reasonable as long as someone gives her advice; Xiao Saner's ghost is fine, and he will definitely be the material for business in the future; My daughter Nini was insecure, a little greedy and selfish since she was a child. Moreover, the little girl has a solid personality and needs strict discipline.

Venus, a mother, became quiet. Shanghai doesn't even have the names of several entertainment places. Friends are here, and I don't know where to take people to play. "I which have the kung fu! I am a mother! "

I am a mother.

On holidays, I took my children and drove my husband to the park. Venus is wearing jeans and leading the children to sit in the back seat of the car. A young girl in a mini skirt walked by the car. Hans twisted his head unconsciously while holding the steering wheel. Venus looked into her eyes and said nothing.

The next day Venus wore a miniskirt and knocked downstairs. Hans' eyes are straight. "Why are you dressed so beautifully today?"

Venus said proudly, "I just want you to know that your wife has the leg you saw yesterday!" " "

Hans said, "OK, then you can wear more miniskirts in the future." Venus said, "Yesterday we went to the park. We climbed up and down with the children. Can I wear that? " I am a mother! "She likes being a mother so much that' I am a mother' has become a proud mantra. She still remembers the feeling of limping when she first picked up her son. In her eyes, a woman has her own career, marriage and children, which is the best proof for her.

It happened that some people looked down on all these women.

Venus and Hans went out by car together, and several times someone leaned in and envied him: "madam, you are so lucky!" Marry a foreigner, drive a good car and live a good life. "

"Ah bah! This car is my own. What's wrong with my husband being a foreigner? He is an ordinary worker abroad. I earn money in our family! " She hates the faces of passers-by She scolded Shanghai for laughing at the poor instead of prostitutes. What she despises most is "Shanghai Baby".

It turned out that an Italian boyfriend came to Shanghai to see her and brought an English version of Shanghai Baby as a gift for her, thinking it was the most suitable gift for an oriental beauty. Venus immediately broke up for this book that completely violated her values. "Men with this taste don't even have to be ordinary friends."

After three true lovers, a Texas cowboy, an Italian psychologist and a Belgian politician, Venus was called "a woman spoiled by European men" by her friends. Every time she falls in love, she has to tell each other straight away that she was originally a man and later became a woman. "Make it clear in advance, so as not to be tired." Only a man who can accept this fact frankly is the real communication. And the reason why she didn't find a man in China was "China men have a heavy psychological burden, so it's hard to accept me. Even if he doesn't care, people around him will look at him differently, and I don't want others to be tired. "

At the age of 23, I married Ken Bolin for the first time.

Venus is endowed with supernatural talents and superstitious beliefs. "This is God's gift" and "Grandfather's food" are often mentioned. A fortune-teller made a fate for him (Venus was still a man at that time): he got married at the age of 23, went to court at the age of 24, suffered a mass annihilation at the age of 28, and became a mother at the age of 33 (although he will become a "mother" in the future). All these were realized in Venus's later years, and Venus believed in God.

23 years of marriage, for Venus, only legal effect, no practical significance. In her own words, "I didn't touch any girls before I changed sex."

The first "wife", Ken Bolin, was the girlfriend of Eric, Venus's classmate when she was studying dance in America. In 2006, Eric and his girlfriend wanted to live with Venus because the rent in new york was too expensive. Venus joked with Ken Bolin: You marry me, you have a free place to live, and I can get a green card. Isn't this the best of both worlds?

Two days later, the joke came true and three young people went to register with a smile. The bride completely regards the groom as a "sister", but the bride's boyfriend has become a witness. As soon as they walked out of the gate of registered marriage, the three of them burst out laughing happily. This foreign-related marriage has a typical flavor of "China people are in new york".

Speaking of getting a green card, the impatient Venus has changed her mind. Because we get a green card when we get married, we have to know each other's life stories by heart. Officials will call them out and ask questions, such as: What does your wife like to wear and what cosmetics does she use? When do you get paid every month and when do you have your period? Venus was really impatient with such torture and said to the lawyer, I don't want a green card! I won't do it!

Later, traveling in many countries in the world, insisting on not getting a green card and not changing nationality became the principle of Venus. The longer you stay abroad, the more you love your motherland. She doesn't change the passport of any country. People say: you are really troublesome! She said: Don't bother to prove that you are a man with a country.

During her days in Europe, she wore China cheongsam whenever she had the chance.

When Venus was performing in Thailand in 1998, she suddenly received a divorce request from her "wife" Ken Bolin, because Ken Bolin was pregnant and planned to formally marry her sweetheart. American black female official in Thailand looked at the divorce documents handed over by Venus. Before she knew whether the other person was a man or a woman, she asked: Do you want a divorce?

Venus said: Yes.

The black female official asked again: Are you divorced from your husband?

Venus said: Yes.

Then he raised his right hand to take the oath, and the official stamped a chapter on the document. In less than 10 minutes, the divorce procedure was completed.

Venus stood on the road and laughed for a long time. She once thought that in the United States, as long as two people don't live together for seven months, they can divorce automatically, but this is not the case. Her joke marriage with Ken Bolin actually lasted 10 years. "Life is really an absurd drama!" By the time of divorce, Venus, once a handsome boy in China, had become a daughter.

28-year-old transgender reborn

Transmutation is the rebirth of Venus.

1998 When living in Xiangshan, Venus made the worst plan. "Give my life to God, it's up to you."

She survived the painful operation and was reduced from 10 kg to 96 kg. The transsexual operation was successful, but it was difficult to recover because the calf muscles and toe fingertip nerves were all necrotic after being pressed for one hour 16. Even if he recovers, he is still a cripple. Venus didn't believe in evil, gritted her teeth and limped to exercise. After more than a year, she miraculously stood on the stage again.

She seldom mentioned the pain during that time. In her book, her recovery exercise has become the simplest and most boring section. In fact, as an excellent dancer, it is impossible to face the diagnosis of disability without despair. Venus has an almost cold intelligence. She knows that this society values results over process, and few people sympathize with the suffering of losers.

She has dreamed of becoming a woman since she was six years old. She was ready to be a woman at the age of 16, but she didn't have sex-change surgery until she was 28. She admitted quietly: I am eager to succeed in my career first. Only by being a successful person first can society accept my differences. I am luckier than other transsexuals, but I earned this luck by biting my teeth.

When he was young, he found himself different from ordinary people. He was confused, and he kept dancing to vent his anger. During the operation, she could only lie quietly and shed tears because it was too painful. She didn't, didn't shout, for fear of causing trouble to the nurse. She used to be a man with a feminine taste, but now she has become a woman with an iron will.

Venus is the most striking planet in the solar system and the only planet that rotates in the opposite direction. Women with such names also have these two qualities. From becoming a woman to returning to the stage, from adopting a child to getting married, the transsexual Venus, just as the planet corrected its derailment, is running more and more vigorously and more wonderfully.

In, she founded Venus Modern Dance Company, which is the only private modern dance company in Chinese mainland at present. She led a delegation to perform in China, South Korea and all parts of Europe, which caused a great "Venus effect" in all places. The performance was full and the curtain call lasted more than 15 minutes.

In, Shanghai Tango toured Europe, causing a sensation and being highly praised by European critics. "Just when our modern dance didn't know where to go, a dance artist from the East pointed out the direction for us."

Venus said that she does not deny that some people walk into the theater with curiosity about her transsexuality, but as long as they are willing to sit down and give her more than an hour, she will definitely impress them with dancing. When they walk out of the theater, they will remember her dancing.

This complicated and mysterious woman imagined by outsiders is as transparent and simple as her "glass fish" in life. She spent half her life correcting a natural mistake and will write another legend for the rest of her life.

Venus's artistic achievements

In 2006, he initiated the men's toe dance and won the first China Li Tao Cup invitational tournament.

In, he went to the United States for further study and studied modern dance.

In 2000, a solo evening was held in Seoul.

He was hired as the chief choreographer by the American Dance Festival in 2006, and created the dance Half Dream, which won the best choreographer award and the title of "Best Choreographer".

In, the work Red and Black won the "Wenhua Award", and the Venus Modern Dance Company was established in the same year.

In 2008, he held a solo concert in London.

1998, Shanghai Grand Theatre staged modern dances "Wind on the Sea" and "Kamina Brana".

In 2005, he collaborated with German artists to premiere the modern dance special of Forever Present Tense.

In, the large-scale modern dance "Shanghai Tango" toured Europe, causing a sensation.

Venus told Hans bluntly: in this family, the status of children is always the first, and children are always more important than you.

My return rate in Europe is 200%!

In fact, there are many kinds of femininity, some of which are particularly attractive to men and some are particularly attractive to women.

In Europe, people seldom see confident China people like me, or Asians.

You are connected. After two long tones, a man's voice said, "Hello-"

Half a second's hesitation, "Is Venus there?" -think of Venus wrote in the book, she doesn't want to change her voice, don't want to choke her throat to make a high note, she is willing to deliberately keep this low and dumb magnetism.

"I am."

10 minutes later, Venus suddenly came. Light brown sunglasses, romantic white linen dress, patchwork knitted crochet of the same color, flip-flops. The wild Mediterranean sun tanned her skin. The suspenders of the denim vest crossed her chest, outlining a nearly perfect female chest shape, with muscular arms with faint masculinity. As soon as she appeared, the guests in the cafe focused on her consciously or unconsciously.

She doesn't know, or is used to it.

"Is your turnover rate always this high?"

"high! My return rate in Europe is 200%! "

People magazine interviewed dance teacher Venus. Is Venus a man or a woman? Photo of Venus, a dance teacher before transsexuality.

People Weekly: From the photos, you seem to have many traces of men, but when I see you in person, I think you are quite feminine. What do you think of this "femininity"? Invisible and intangible, is it a bit like "Qi" in Qigong? Or, the "magnetic field" in physics?

Venus: Yes! In fact, there are many kinds of femininity, some of which are particularly attractive to men and some are particularly attractive to women.

People Weekly: What kind do you belong to?

Venus: (laughs) The kind that both men and women can eat!

People Weekly: Is the turn-around rate on the street so high?

Venus: High! Not because I am a Venus, but because of my attitude. In Europe, people seldom see confident China people like me, or Asians.

People Weekly: Is it a high-spirited attitude? The kind that looks up and closes its eyes? Or coquettish?

Venus: (Laughter) Actually, I'm not a woman at all at work. When I rehearse dancing, I'm almost neutral. When I choreographed the actors, I was very strict and fierce, and my voice was very loud. That's work, and I don't need to be a woman. But in life, when I go home, I am a woman and a mother.

People Weekly: Some people say that the better modern women are, the more they tend to be neutral. what do you think?

Venus: It is society that has put forward such a request. The development of society determines that successful people must have neutral qualities. Therefore, the more successful a woman is, the more neutral she is, but the more successful she is. Neutral personalities meet the requirements of society, so they have a greater chance of success.

People Weekly: Will your transsexuality be more helpful to your dance career? Are you more neutral? To be specific: you used to be thin and short among male dancers, but you will be tall when you become a woman. Besides, does your original male muscle make you feel more powerful when dancing than those natural female dancers?

Venus: A little, but most importantly, transsexuality makes me more accurate on stage.

People Weekly: Accurate?

Venus: Yes, that's the word! Accuracy, to me, is a very fair concept. Not particularly male or female. It's a feeling of combining rigidity with softness and finding something.

People Weekly: Your book surprised me too. I thought it would be a narcissistic book.

Venus: I'm not a narcissist, never! Being a woman is not! I never take myself seriously. There are too many people in the entertainment circle who take themselves seriously. I don't want that. So over the years, I have been a "lone ranger", running around alone. I'm an agent and a makeup artist. I don't need five or six people to follow me! I don't need anyone to serve me at all! I'll leave the professional matters to lawyers and accountants, and I'll do the rest myself! I hope others love me, people around me love me, and my audience loves me, not myself.

People Weekly: Not only the content is simple, but also the form and packaging of the book are simple, with few photos and small size.

Venus: The French version was published first, and the packaging was exactly the same as the Chinese version. I want my autobiography to be the same in every country. I want everyone to understand this process in a down-to-earth way, so I just need to take good photos of each stage, and I don't want to take any big artistic photos. I want them to read my words and imagine. If there are few photos, you can leave an imaginary space.

There are parties for marriage and divorce,