"Five chairs", sit out your outlook on life

When you face all kinds of things, you will have different mentality. It's like sitting in a chair of different colors.

Recently, psychologists have just put forward the "five chairs" theory.

The five chairs represent different special messages, because these messages are the behaviors and attitudes we bring to the world all the time.

One day, I finally took time out to watch a movie with my daughter. This film is very exciting. He is looking at his mobile phone and has no time to go to the movies. What do you think I'll do?

The first chair: red. "What are you doing? I spend money and time, and I finally go out with you to watch a movie, but you are watching your mobile phone there? "

The second chair: yellow. "This is all wet. Why did I come to watch a movie with her? He is so boring. It seems that he is not interested in this film. There seems to be a generation gap between us. He won't like watching my favorite movies. It is estimated that he is also very helpless. "

The third chair: green. "I can't be angry, I can't be angry. This is a public place. There are still many people watching, so don't jump to conclusions. Maybe it's business for her to look at her mobile phone. Relax, relax. "

The fourth chair: blue. "I don't want to spend a precious night with you happily. At the same time, it can enhance feelings, give you a sense of security and tell you that I love you forever. You are the most important role in our lives. "

Fifth chair: purple. "What is important to him? What kind of world does he care about? I sincerely hope to establish a close relationship with him. What should I do? "

The above is my mentality of sitting in five chairs respectively.

The meaning behind the five chairs:

The first red chair: the representative animal is a wolf.

Red Wolf is a smart representative, highly speculative, always looking for opportunities to attack, and we made the most mistakes in this chair.

In this chair, we like to sign, complain, punish and gossip. What we do most is to criticize others.

The second yellow chair: the representative animal is a hedgehog.

Especially fragile, it likes to curl up and protect itself from the outside world with thorns because it thinks it is evil.

What I do most in this chair is to criticize myself mercilessly.

I often say to myself, "I'm not smart enough, I can't do it, no one trusts me, and no one respects me."

Fear, fear of rejection, disappointment, failure, playing the weak.

The third green chair: the animal is a mongoose.

It's a bit like a sentry, who can stand upright for hours without moving, except that his head is around and he is extremely alert.

What we do most in this chair is to pay close attention, focus on observation and stay awake.

Subtext: "Do your own thing, don't interfere with each other, stay alert and keep your distance."

The fourth blue chair: the animal is a dolphin.

As a good friend who investigates animals and humans, we are detectives ourselves. We use a magnifying glass to examine our behavior, generate self-awareness and understand "who am I?" What should I do and know what to do? "

I'm not afraid to tell my true self. Setting self-boundaries will take care of yourself, which is very powerful.

What we do most in this chair is that we grow, we are free, we are bold and not aggressive.

The fifth purple chair: the animal is a giraffe. It's hard to sit in this chair.

Why giraffes? Because it is not only the tallest animal, but also the biggest heart animal on land. He has the widest vision and the widest mentality, and he is still dumb.

What I do most in this chair is: abandon narcissism and conceit, know how to listen, be generous and helpful, and be able to put myself in others' shoes.

I often ask myself, what does this person need most?

Seeing this, do you know how my daughter and I communicate? In fact, I didn't say anything to him either, just glanced at him secretly.

Finally, after watching the movie, he showed me his mobile phone, and she sent a circle of friends, which read: Dad accompanied me to the movie tonight, and I had a happy evening.

I especially like "live a sentence in the meaning of life"

Everything can be taken away from people, except one, which is the ultimate freedom of people-that is, to choose our attitude under any circumstances.