What kind of experience is it to fall in love with the disabled?

There are two situations to fall in love with disabled people: one is that normal people fall in love with disabled people; The other is that disabled people fall in love with disabled people. Judging from the tone of your question and the information revealed between the lines, I feel that your question refers to the former.

For the marriage and love of disabled people, most disabled people basically have nothing to do with marriage and love. Some people say that they are not worthy of good love and cannot afford the responsibility of love, family and marriage. Especially in rural areas, most bachelors refer to single disabled people. With the growth of normal people's age, it is natural to fall in love, get married and get married. But love, marriage and family, for the disabled, are all luxuries in the world, which we can't reach.

In daily life, many normal people have a good impression on the disabled. He (she) regardless of secular vision, parents' opposition, desperate to embrace the disabled, with a true love for the disabled. But in the end, it rarely comes to the end.

We put aside literary works, and the film and television dramas artistically present the plot that normal people and disabled people come together happily. Let's walk into the real life of the disabled and pay attention to their marriage and love.

In my hometown, there is a man named Zhang Yu, polio, who has to walk with crutches. He gave me the impression that he likes painting. In order to practice painting, every time he saw the children from the village school come back, he would set up an easel and paint for them. If you draw a good picture, give it to these children for free. I was also invited by him to sit on a small bench and paint a portrait.

A beautiful girl from a neighboring village passed by here, and she thought it was fun, so she stopped to watch. She summoned up the courage to ask Zhang Yu to draw one for her. In order to draw the girl well, Zhang Yu tore one piece after another, still not satisfied. It was painted after dark. Zhang Yu said shyly, "Otherwise, if you are free, come tomorrow and I will draw for you." When one day, Zhang Yu finally presented the portrait that she thought was satisfactory to the girl, it was the time when the girl took the initiative to express him.

Later, after several twists and turns, the two finally came together. She is my cousin. When I asked my cousin, why did I choose to fall in love with my cousin and get married?

Aunt said that although he has bad legs and is inconvenient to move, he is very talented, indomitable and hard-working. I stared at him.

As it turns out, my aunt has a good eye. Through her own efforts, Zhang Yu first passed the art test, then passed the college entrance examination culture class, and successfully got the notice from Zhengzhou Institute of Light Industry. After studying fashion design for three years, I returned to Luohe and became a teacher in a vocational and technical college in Luohe, teaching students fashion design.

Aunt said that if you fall in love with disabled Zhang Yu, you must have a broad mind and learn to take on more. You can't stick to him like a little woman. On the other hand, your efforts make him feel safe. Most disabled people have inferiority complex and are sensitive. All you have to do is make him feel safe.

He doesn't need your sympathy, he needs you to treat him equally. You can't show it when you're with him. I pity you. I'm here to save your sense of superiority What he needs is to have a good impression on each other, attract each other and love each other like normal people. Your choice for him is voluntary, heartfelt love, not a transaction.

In his love dictionary, like normal people, he goes to the movies together, goes shopping together, goes to his favorite shop to eat together and so on.

Regarding the love and marriage of the disabled, there is also an age gap between them. For example, an elderly married normal woman is with a disabled person younger than her. This is the "match between young and old" in the world of disabled people's marriage and love. They lived together and didn't even get a marriage certificate. You may say that this is a deformed marriage relationship, but they love each other sincerely. They don't even want anything from each other. They just love each other and live together. This is the case with a disabled friend I know.