"My mother-in-law is too bad, obviously you are too picky." Are daughter-in-law and mother-in-law really natural enemies?

0 1. Mother and daughter are related by blood, and mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are social relations.

I have heard the saying that mother and daughter are related by blood, but mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are a social relationship. The former only needs natural emotional expression to get along well, while the latter tests the contest and game of emotional intelligence.

In the final analysis, mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are also family. I don't know when they had to be tied together because of a man. So the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law has become an eternal problem.

I don't know if there are really too many "evil mothers-in-law" around me or if there are too many articles about "evil mothers-in-law". After many women marry men, they will automatically form a "hostile force" with their mother-in-law and refuse to get close.

Even in the book "The Beautiful Times of Daughter-in-law", it is said: "Daughter-in-law and mother-in-law are natural enemies, and it will be the same by 2200."

02. Are daughter-in-law and mother-in-law really natural enemies?

My aunt once worked as a short-term salesman in a supermarket. Next to her, another long-term worker named Zhao Di, older than my aunt, scolded her mother-in-law in front of others all day.

She also said that the dishes cooked by her mother-in-law were not to the taste, which must be intentional; She also said that her mother-in-law washed her coat 1000 yuan, which she couldn't wear. He also said that he suffered a lot when he got married, and his mother-in-law wouldn't let her throw away the old clothes she didn't want to wear.

People are tired of listening. Seeing that she was coming to talk, she immediately left, and she began to complain to her new aunt again.

Aunt always listens, and then smiles and doesn't respond. Until one day, my aunt sold sauce and tried to cook delicious food. When cooking, Zhao Di came over and said in surprise, why pour water? Why not just throw it in and fry it?

Aunt casually asked, "Aren't you cooking at home?" Zhao Di was surprised: "How do you know?"

Aunt smiled helplessly and said, "As soon as you spoke, I knew you couldn't cook. Who cooks in your family? "

Zhao Di replied: "My mother-in-law."

Aunt asked again, "Who washes clothes in your family?"

"My mother-in-law. My mother-in-law washes clothes at home and cleans up the children. "

Aunt asked, "after everything your mother-in-law has done for you, why do you keep saying that others are not good?" Haven't you ever seen a really bad mother-in-law? "

Zhao Di began to chant, "Hey, stop it. Speaking of which, my mother-in-law has done a lot. I have been married for more than ten years. I haven't cooked a meal at home and washed clothes once, so I don't have to worry about picking up the children. Just take care of yourself at work. "

Aunt smiled and said to her: "You, don't be dissatisfied! It's not that your mother-in-law is too bad, but that you are too picky! "

The basis of harmony between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is that both sides maintain a positive and friendly attitude.

Some daughter-in-law is like this, no one is perfect, and some mother-in-law does have some shortcomings or different living habits, but this cannot erase all her efforts.

That's unfair to grandma who has always been willing to pay, and even more unfair to her mother-in-law who wants to maintain a good relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.

The minimum basis of the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is that both mother-in-law and daughter-in-law should maintain a positive heart to maintain the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, which is fundamental.

Just like the foundation of building a house, the foundation is not well laid, and the house above looks gorgeous and tall, and it is also crumbling.

Although the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is difficult to deal with, there is no need to completely avoid it. It is not sincere to avoid talking about it. When both mother-in-law and daughter-in-law face the relationship with a positive and friendly attitude, life will not be too bad.

It is necessary to handle the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.

Mao Doudou once had a very reasonable line: "A daughter-in-law and her in-laws are separated by a layer. If you don't show some sincerity, how can you really get married in the future? "

I wonder if every newly married woman, like a hedgehog with thorns all over her body, is always hostile to others. The main object of others is the mother-in-law.

A female reader once left me a message. Let's call her Tian Tian for the moment. She said that she met a very good mother-in-law, but she was too young to know anything and was extremely hostile to her mother-in-law in all kinds of works.

When the baby was born, Tian Tian thought it was not good to use diapers for the baby. She insisted on using cotton diapers. Because the washing machine is not clean, all diapers and children's clothes must be washed by hand at least three times.

Mother-in-law washes the children's clothes and diapers early every morning, and the children's clothes and diapers should be changed frequently. My mother-in-law has never complained.

Sweetness felt that her mother-in-law couldn't take care of the children, so she invited Yueyue, and her mother-in-law agreed without saying anything. Later, Tian Tian felt that Lunar New Year was not doing well and wanted her mother-in-law to help. Her mother-in-law didn't ask anything and came directly to help.

Tian Tian herself is a black sheep, but her mother-in-law has never said anything to blame, and she respects their lives very much and will not interfere too much.

Now that five years have passed, she has seen everything about her mother-in-law. Sweets herself recalled the beginning and felt embarrassed. Why did she do that in the first place? Fortunately, her mother-in-law never said anything bad about Sweetness, which made Sweetness feel very warm.

05. The golden rule of the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law: be considerate of others.

If you have a knack for getting along with your mother-in-law, read the book "Getting along with your mother-in-law": a daughter-in-law with high emotional intelligence knows how to do it, and her marriage is happier.

In fact, no amount of tricks, fundamentally speaking, can escape a golden rule, that is, to have a heart for others.

When you have a tolerant and considerate heart, you will put yourself in each other's shoes, and you will have more understanding and tolerance for the relationship between two people.

As a daughter-in-law, you can't always think that this is your husband's mother. When you turn around like this, you feel far away. You really should treat her as your own relative and do something for your mother-in-law, not just to show yourself, but really out of concern and care.

You need to let your in-laws know that you didn't steal their son, but you got a pair of parents, your mother-in-law, and she got a daughter.

When the daughter-in-law is sincere to her mother-in-law, her mother-in-law will certainly feel it, and it is a heartfelt feeling.