There is no limit to life, and you can bloom better.

? The book begins with a preface written by Zhao Li, one of the authors. The first sentence: In the eyes of many people, I am a workaholic. When I was young, my signature was "If I can't control myself, how can I conquer the world?" . This sentence can basically explain what the preface needs to say. The author tells his experience of joining the gymnastics team-the host-the president of the enterprise from the age of 6. If she hadn't written it herself, I wouldn't believe the span of this experience. The author briefly talked about how she faced all kinds of new diseases and old injuries when she was a child, which was inseparable from the influence of her childhood family.

The whole family is a soldier, so we should use a ruler to measure the distance when growing vegetables. Experienced physical and psychological training that ordinary people can bear. "Do things right once" is the author's motto, which also made her later life. She is one of 3000 candidates who applied to host the competition.

? I know what self-discipline is and I know what freedom is. True freedom comes from self-discipline.

? Reflection? I have never tried to do my best for my job or career? . My self-discipline is always so fleeting that I have no freedom. Try your best to do everything well and do things right once. The final result will not be bad.

Chapter 1 I am not a traditional mother

When it comes to divorce, what comes to mind? Arguing, hurting, ruining the child's life and so on. Three possibilities of divorce.

1, I hate each other, I hope I will never see you again in my life, and I don't want my children.

2. Divide family property reasonably and never meet each other. Children will never know their father or mother again.

3, the division of family property, the other party is still a friend, there are difficulties or will help. Children grow up together. You can go to see the children on weekends and chat with them normally every day.

? Divorce will not hurt a family or a child, but the attitude of two people towards it. If you don't get divorced, there will be endless quarrels at home every day. Is this really good?

Chapter two? Life is deliberate practice.

I used to think that successful people are lucky to catch up with the good times, and smart people are mostly born. The author told me with a picture that life is deliberate practice, and excellent behavior can be trained to be unforgettable. No one is lucky enough to succeed, it is how many deliberate exercises.

? When I encounter insurmountable problems or difficulties, I am used to looking for fortune-tellers, because I know that it is because of my bad life that there are so many problems. Invisibly, the problem that I can't cross has become a mountain in my heart. It's only a matter of time before the mountain crosses in front of me, but in my heart.

? Deliberate practice is everywhere. During the children's winter and summer vacations, the author will take her to a world-famous university and make an appointment to attend the school, so that the children can feel and understand the school's human history, main disciplines and so on. Share with each other the feelings brought by this university, and what's the difference between field trips and information found in China. Unify thoughts and finally come to a conclusion.

? Reflection: The author fully respects her daughter as an independent person and will not interfere with her children's choices with words. I will take her to see the world, but this process is also a deliberate exercise. Let the children know what problems they need to pay attention to when making choices, why they should pay attention to them, and finally make a summary. This kind of exercise exercises the daughter's ability to think independently and consider problems comprehensively. Know how to answer and summarize, where is good? What's the matter? Finally, the judgment is given. This mode of thinking is applicable to all kinds of problems and choices.

The third chapter can control my life.

? Today, something happened. The nurses and children in the clubhouse are very excited, which makes me embarrassed in front of customers. At the meeting, I said. I can feel that she has realized the problem. I said, "It's not terrible to make mistakes. This just makes us better in the future. The terrible thing is not to admit your mistakes. "

Have you never made a mistake in your life? My husband often tells me this sentence, especially when I find that he makes a mistake in driving. I'm not allowed to drive for others, because it's terrible. Why does he think I always talk about him? Isn't it because I'm good at it? So with the above sentence, you are not mistaken? Now I know that I am angry that my mistakes will not be repeated and will not be remembered all the time, and he keeps doing the same thing every time.

? The problem is to let us know how to avoid it in the future and how to save it now. The starting point should not be to care about personal gains and losses and interests, but how to make sincere corrections.

Honesty is the sign of life. Don't take advantage at any time, because if you pay more, you will get more, and if you don't pay, you will get nothing. Buying food is always a few cents or cents cheaper. If it is 10 yuan 98 points, we expect the merchants to accept 10.9 yuan. We wouldn't be happy if it wasn't 8 cents cheaper. But why not give the merchant 2 cents more? Such a generous memory is also a person that wealth likes, and it will also become a memory of cells. Taking responsibility and mistakes is the best business. This is a responsible attitude towards your life.

Chapter IV Home is the soil for growth and nourishment.

Be the chief authority of children, see, feel and accompany them. Create a good environmental force and energy field, and home is the place that can nourish us.

Always complain that children are too annoying, especially those who need to do homework at school. There is a saying that children are copies of their parents. The parent-child relationship between the original and the copy allows parents to see themselves clearly in the mirror. There is a problem with the copy, which may be a manifestation of the original problem. This parent-child relationship will not be blamed, but will often reflect and look inward. Such a parent-child relationship will also respect children more, and mutual accusation is the biggest problem that cannot be contacted.

Next? chapter five

? The theme of this chapter is: My life has no framework. It is the saddest thing in the world to draw a prison before the heart has gone far. If you want to wear its crown, you must bear its weight and accept all the challenges given by fate!

As parents, most people often say "no". Because the child is still young, of course not. He can't, can't touch, can't play This is the subjective consciousness given by parents after their cognitive limitations and stereotypes.

? We ignore that a child is a blank life with unlimited potential, just like a piece of paper. Parents' paper has been coated with various cognitive frameworks by native parents, society and schools. A child has no cognition and can define the name of an object at will. In children's world, there is no right or wrong, and nothing is impossible. Do you think you live a meaningful life? If not, please remove your so-called cognitive framework, let your child have unlimited possibilities, let him create a circular model, and let him jump out of the original family cognitive framework.

Chapter VI I have no rebellious period

? After reading the whole book, I summed up why Xue Qi didn't have a rebellious period, because her mother Grace Zhao seldom said no to her. There is one thing: Xue Qi hopes to pass the admission of American high schools and not let the intermediary participate. If you make a mistake in this matter, you will lose the opportunity to study abroad, and this opportunity is only once. Grace Zhao trusted her daughter to make choices, submit materials, organize plans and make lists just like going to an American university. Finally, Xue Qi was successfully admitted.

Chapter seven? Ten thousand possibilities of life

? Xue Qi said, "If you believe, there will be a wonderful life waiting for you. I believe, and my mother believes, so we have created 10,000 possibilities. "

12-year-old children can start their own businesses, make official WeChat accounts, create music, design emoticons, apply for Gaomei alone and so on. These things depend on the mother's absolute trust in her children. However, the mother's trust gives the child the key to develop unlimited potential. Once this treasure house is opened, it will become a spontaneous combustion body. You don't need the urging and inculcation of adults. You will know what to do and find a way to do it.

Chapter eight? Non-standard three good families

Me: "Honey, let me see your mobile phone".

Husband: "Do I have my own privacy?"

Me: "I'm married to you. What else can't you show me?"

Have you ever experienced such a thing? We think that love is giving everything to each other without privacy, that is, it can't be separated anytime and anywhere.

? what is love ? Teacher Fan Deng said, "Love is an emotional flow." This mobility doesn't mean I love you, because I have no privacy. But you are you, I am me, and we have become better together.

Encourage and appreciate each other. You will always be the most important place in my heart. Even if we are not together, we still have deep feelings.

? Be close, but not close.

? Trust, but don't rely on it.

? Use work, self-restraint and love to get true, eternal and advanced happiness.

? At the end of the article, I found a big egg, mainly because she taught me to be grateful all the time.

The author wrote at the end that the happiness of life is nothing more than knowing how to be grateful. This content thanks all the staff who worked hard to publish this book, as well as the teachers who helped Xue Qi study and the people who helped Xue Qi successfully apply for Gomez. No name.

? Thank everyone and everything that has contributed to our cause and work. Even couriers, janitors, cleaning and the like.

I would like to thank the authors Zhao Li and Xue Qi for writing this book, and also thank my teacher Jin Hang for letting me know such excellent people and seeing this book jointly created by them. Be grateful for the people and things you meet.