How do you know you met the only thrill?

Why do many women finally have to choose between love and reality? Because she has no ability to love. Why do many people end up with money, no love and no stable and happy marriage? Because she has no ability to love.

So, what ability does it take to have love? Today, let's talk about the ability to choose a suitable spouse.

Why are divorces and infidelities increasing? Today, I will show you the cruel truth hidden in love.

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There is a powerful force endowed by nature behind love-sexual attraction. This is the power of love. You need to really see it, master it, and use it to create happiness for yourself, instead of deceiving yourself and finally relying on luck.

After all, luck is the privilege of a few people.

Today, I want to say a few words to you who are about to get married or are just beginning to prepare for love. Maybe you will call me old-fashioned or old-fashioned, but if you are eager to have a stable and happy marriage yourself, then you must read what I say carefully.

First of all, all of us need to understand a word called sexual attraction.

Sexual attraction is a natural law. Men keep showing their charm in front of women, hoping to attract the objects they admire, just as men keep showing their beautiful feathers or singing in front of women, all for one purpose-mating and reproduction.

Therefore, at this time, we should remember that the most primitive and powerful driving force between men and women comes from the ability endowed by nature, not to mention words such as love and culture. These things, which are not more than a few thousand years old, only exist in our intelligence. In physical instinct, the only driving force is this personality attraction, that is, reaching a mating agreement.

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Functional attraction of sexual attraction is a powerful function endowed by nature to screen genes suitable for inheritance, which is promoting the continuous evolution and development of all species.

For a simple example, when we enter adolescence, boys begin to have a vague emotional feeling. No matter whether he has a clear target or not at this time, he will gradually start to pay attention to his appearance, clothes, behavior and so on.

He will gradually become handsome and charming, and these motives are not that he has a girlfriend, but that he is ready to attract the opposite sex, and women will do the same during this period.

At this time, the role of sexual attraction is to make two people who didn't pay much attention to their own image begin to pay attention to their own external and improve their abilities. As a girl, you may dress up well, study hard, speak softly, quit vulgar bad habits and so on.

You see, sexual attraction makes us all better at this time.

When you are in your twenties, you really like the opposite sex that shines better than yourself. You will try to make yourself better for him and hope to attract him. No matter what the result is, this tendency is still pushing you to become better.

Therefore, we need to understand that love can promote a person to become better. (Lifting power source)

Importance of partnership agreements

Did you find any problems? Before you promised to be a girlfriend, he took care of you, spoke softly every day, was humorous and talented, and was a good young man with excellent morality, intelligence, physique and art.

But after being together, in less than a month, the other party slowly relaxed.

Then, before you moved in together, his image was still very good, but after you moved in together, your nature was exposed, you were loose, you no longer cared about each other as before, your love stories became less and less, and even they got together like family. Finally, you are not even sure if there is love between you.

This is the importance of the partnership agreement. You can rationally say that the ultimate goal of love is to go through life, but more people don't realize that even 99% people are doing animal instinct in the name of love.

Therefore, it is necessary to say a word realistically. If you think that you can't build a love like Jiang Yang's Qian Zhongshu (which requires high cognition and wisdom), then you need to keep your chips in your hand.

Once availability disappears, so does your value.

And this involves the issue of cohabitation before marriage. Premarital sex is best if you are sure you want to get married and have all the conditions ready.

Instead of self-satisfaction to meet each other's physiological needs.

A large number of surveys have found that people who live together very early are less than 3% likely to get married. Maybe you think this data is not credible. It doesn't matter. We can compare our love. If you are living with your boyfriend and having sex at the moment, you should observe whether he is working harder or relaxing quietly compared with before living together. Many times, you will find that his fighting spirit seems to have disappeared.

Premarital sex is an act beyond marriage agreement. It should have happened after marriage, but it happened before marriage So what is this man's motivation? Get that certificate? Or a fundamentally uncertain future built by each other?

Therefore, many women will say, are you not in love, or why don't you want to fight for our love?

Come on, the motive of biological struggle is to get the right to mate. If this behavior has been obtained, where does his motivation come from?

This is a biological instinct, and it is also your bargaining chip as a woman. Don't think that the essence of advocating freedom of marriage and love has never changed, especially for girls under 25 or over 30. If the other party is not prepared to get married due to social pressure, most people's feelings will eventually disappear.

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How to judge whether the other person is the right person for you? Just now we talked about the chip in a woman's hand. This chip does not mean that it is the most important thing for a woman, but it is a very important chip for a partner agreement.

If you are in love at the moment, how do you judge that the person around you is your good companion?

After you established the relationship, you both worked harder and hoped to form a better relationship. This is the most important measure.

This hardship refers to the two of you. If either of you stops fighting, it means that you are not suitable.

If he stops playing, his promotion space will not be much higher in his life. If you stop struggling, you can ask yourself why.

The best way to deal with a partner who doesn't fight or fight is to cancel the partnership agreement. If it's love, break up. If you are engaged, dissolve the engagement in time.

This has an impact. If you still want to be together, you will work harder to achieve a new balance.

But if you don't want to be together, rebuild a relationship that suits you and avoid an unhappy marriage, believe me, those who don't struggle before marriage will only drag the whole family back after marriage.

How to use sexual attraction to help each other grow since the focus is on partner agreement, can we use this chip to promote the growth of two people?

If this boy just graduated, you should give him hope, but don't be sure.

For example, you have to make the other person think that you will go with him all your life, but if things are not done well enough, you will still leave. At the same time, set a standard, such as we work together to save enough money for a house, how much money we have, what level our career has reached, and so on.

Similarly, don't give him a sense of certainty here, let alone live together before marriage. You can look at your predecessors, couples who live together without anything, and inspire each other to struggle together. Some of them finally married the man who lived together.

Therefore, learn to grasp the degree, and the fish will be eaten by others without biting your bait.

This partnership agreement, if used well, can inspire a person to become better. Of course, you should work hard yourself. Only in the end, your values remain at the same level, and you can get married after you have created enough living conditions.

If you just graduated, this time is preferably three to five years. If three to five years of growth can make you get married, then believe me, your future marriage will be more stable and happy.

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Which is more important, love or the right conditions? If you get married now, will you get married for love or for power?

Love is blind to some extent, so most people who have experienced it will tell you that suitability is the most important thing, and it is easier for you to form a warm and peaceful family with the right person after marriage.

And love will eventually disappear in the inappropriate tossing of conditions.

Of course, the conditions here are not only money, but also family viability (money), three views, hobbies and other conditions. Even the right partner, the best love period takes one to two years.

Fast-flash marriage will eventually fall into an extremely boring situation, and it will certainly not be much better without the adjustment of love.

So the best marriage is that you know how to use these skills to skillfully build your own love relationship.

For example, choose a person with similar interests and mutual attraction, make use of sexual attraction to make each other better, have the ability to enter marriage initially, and then form a family to achieve a good balance between love and reality!

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