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Marriage customs of Hakka people in Lianzhou

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In the past, Hakkas in Yang Lian implemented arranged marriages, and marriages between men and women were mainly arranged by parents according to matchmakers. Close relatives do not get married, and the same surname does not get married. Most people are monogamous. But there are also close relatives who marry uncles and aunts, and some wealthy families also marry two or three wives. However, many poor families are child brides, that is, when their sons were young, they were arranged by their parents to take a girl home and didn't get married until they were sixteen, thus reducing economic expenses and simplifying marriage procedures.

Men are old, and women are old. There are two procedures for parents to arrange, one is that the matchmaker comes to the door to match, and the other is that the man invites the matchmaker to go to the woman's house to match. With the consent of both parents, the matchmaker sends the woman's age to the man's house. The man's family asked the fortune teller to check the date of birth of both men and women, according to Jin Mu's argument of fire, water and soil. If the five elements of the two sides coexist, such as water, fire and Jin Kemu, that is, fire and water are incompatible, and water puts out the fire; Metal knives and axes cut down trees, and marriage was cut down. If you compare golden water, aquatic soil, native wood, or golden life and golden life, it is expensive and there is hope for marriage.

Then the man wrote down the good news of the two sides in red paper, sent chicken wine to the woman's house for engagement, negotiated the gift money, dowry and other matters, and finalized the marriage. Then, the man asked Mr. Feng Shui to set a wedding date, and then informed the bride's family with the Khmer Rouge to make the other party ready.

Getting married between a man and a woman is an important event in life. As the wedding day approaches, both men and women invite their relatives and friends with red invitations. They also prepare banquets, weddings, weddings and so on. And the big family has to set up a board of directors and choose a mature cultural person as the "prime minister" to command everything.

Two months before a woman gets married, she should buy a dowry, such as a box, a bucket and a footbath. The bride will make many pairs of shoes, a pair of cloth shoes for the groom and future parents-in-law, and so on. One is to show the talent of female embroidery, and the other is to show respect for the elderly and filial piety. Three days before the wedding, the woman invited several girls and sisters-in-law to gather in the boudoir to cry and marry, and arranged the specific content according to traditional songs. The essence is to sing a "Song of Marriage", which is very extensive. Some people cry for their parents and thank them for their birth and disappointment. Some people cry to their brothers and sisters and tell their compatriots about separation; Those who cry to their sisters-in-law and uncles sincerely thank them for their usual care and love; Have a love for the folks and hometown, and cry for the feelings that can't be moved in the hometown; There is also crying and cursing the matchmaker, bothering to scold the matchmaker for being immoral, meddling and cheating. In short, everyone cries, which varies from person to person. These forms and contents have formed marriage custom culture and folk art, which have been handed down from generation to generation and have important practical significance for educating new people. Their elders cried and sang and advised them that it is a good thing for men and women to marry, and marriage is a good thing. Mothers, sisters, sisters-in-law, etc. also used wedding songs when trying to persuade them to cry. When they moved each other's true feelings, they cried into a ball and were very hot.

The day before the wedding, the man sent someone to send a "bride price" to the woman's house. In addition to chicken wine, pork, clothes, cloth and various benefits, there are Gu Mi, red dates, peanuts, green vegetables and cypress leaves, which symbolize "the early birth of your son, a hundred children and a thousand grandchildren".

Early in the morning, the man and groom worship their ancestors first, and then the matchmaker takes them. He invited a "lucky" sister-in-law with children as the leader of the bride, as well as close relatives, sisters and brothers. And carried the sedan chair to the woman's house to celebrate the wedding. The bride's family has prepared a wedding banquet, and after breakfast, the wedding will be held. At this time, the bride was dressed up, dragged out of the hall by the bride-to-be's sister-in-law, bowed to her ancestors, and then dragged out in tears. On the sedan chair, she bumped into it and refused to get on it. To send her to get married, her closest sister-in-law pushed and pulled her into the sedan chair, still crying. This form has both ethical customs and true feelings, which is quite humanistic.

On the way to welcome the new year, a lucky man danced with a "demon-cutting knife" and wore a "demon-looking mirror" on his chest. In front of him, he dragged a three-foot-nine-inch-long fir tree with branches and leaves to "exorcise evil spirits" for the new couple, followed by the groom, sedan chair, siblings, gifts and dowry. Some big families invited golden lions in addition to playing eight tones, which was very lively and spectacular.

When the welcoming team returned to the men's home, some people were setting off firecrackers and accepting gifts. After some boasting, the bride's eldest sister-in-law led the bride out of the sedan chair, crossed the round rice screen with nine pairs of chopsticks and nine wine glasses, and jumped over the brazier before entering the hall, which meant wishing the couple a long life, a beautiful (finished) life and a prosperous home.

At the wedding, people were beaming, welcoming people like clouds, sending couplets, drawing mirrors, giving out red envelopes, burning firecrackers and so on.

At the beginning of the wedding reception, the bride and groom worship their ancestors, heaven and earth, parents and elders together, and the bride and groom are guided to introduce themselves to the bride. This is called marriage worship, and elders give red envelopes their blessings in return. At the wedding reception, the Prime Minister arranged for a man and a woman to invite their elders and uncles to sit at the dinner table. The wedding banquet depends on the family's economic situation. 16 to 20 bowls of delicacies. Most people have to make at least twelve bowls, of which fish balls, braised pork, tofu, bamboo shoots and peanuts are indispensable, symbolizing reunion, wealth and grandchildren.

After three dynasties of marriage, the newlyweds returned to their parents' home with chicken wine to worship their ancestors. Hakkas call it the "Three Dynasties" and then go home to live.

Although Hakka people used to have arranged marriages, they spent a lot of money on one marriage, which is the so-called "building a house after marriage and eating porridge for three years". Coupled with the constraints of the old ethics of "three obedience and four virtues" and "marry a chicken with a chicken and marry a dog with a dog", divorce rarely occurs.

Divorce, remarriage, simple marriage, generally do not invite eight tones, do not sit in a sedan chair. Those who sit in a sedan chair are sitting in a "bag" carried by two people, that is, tying a bamboo chair with parallel bars to a cage sedan chair with a cover and no bars. There are no certain specifications for wedding banquets. However, divorce and remarriage are not discriminated against.