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Question 1: How did men and women behave in ancient times? China has attached great importance to etiquette since ancient times, and many people should pay attention to wedding etiquette in their lives and marriages.

Asking names is the second of the six rituals. In other words, the man sent a matchmaker to the woman's house to ask her name and birthday. After getting Geng Tie back, Buji folded his character. "Yili? Shi Hunli: "Bin Zhiyan, what's your name? "Master Xu, guest admission." Zheng Xuan's note: "Anyone who asks his name will have good or bad luck." Jia Gong Yan Shu: "If you ask your first name, ask your female surname."

The third of Najib's six rites. After asking the name and matching the eight characters, the man informs the woman of the good omen of marriage and presents her engagement. This is etiquette. In ancient times, Naji also offered a goose feast. Zheng Xuan's note: "It's a good omen to return to the temple, and then send an envoy to tell you that the marriage is settled." In the Song Dynasty, most people were engaged by Buji in the form of marriage. In the Ming dynasty, it was replaced by the general book of the media and marriage. In the Qing Dynasty, Najib Yiyi was involved in the process of asking names and getting married. During the Republic of China, there was no Naji instrument, only a simple Buji instrument, and the woman Geng was placed in front of the kitchen god. If there is no abnormality within three days, it will be regarded as smooth, and men and women will get married. ?

Levi is also called "Nacheng" and "Nabi". The fourth of six ceremonies. It is the man who gives the bride price to the woman. Book of rites? Confucius Ying Da's Diligence and Confusion: "The money collected is also collected by those who receive it. Sign, into also. Hire money before getting married. "It was not until Najib learned that the woman agreed to get married that the man felt that it was feasible to receive the bride price. It is the only etiquette among the six rites that does not use geese, which shows that the ancients have distinct righteousness and etiquette. Gifts collected in past dynasties are all customized, and many items such as jewelry and fine silks are used by the people for women's employment, which is called collecting money and later evolved into gifts.

Invitation date is also called notification date, commonly known as date selection. The fifth of the six ceremonies. It was the man who sent someone to the woman's house to inform her of the wedding date. "Yili? Shi Hunli: "Please use the goose, the host says goodbye, and the guest tells the date as a gift. "Invitation ceremonies have always been like this, that is, the male family sent envoys to the female family to invite the date, give gifts, then give a speech to explain the wedding date set, the female father accepted it, and finally the envoys returned to me. In the Qing Dynasty, the date of invitation was often called a letter or telegram, that is, the date of ceremony, wedding date and other related matters were written down by the man's family in red paper, and sent to the woman's home by the matchmaker or himself to discuss the wedding matters with her family.

Kissing is also called welcome. The sixth of the six ceremonies. It is etiquette for the groom to marry the bride himself and go home. The Book of Songs? Daya？ Daming: "A great country has a son, a heavenly sister, and a female general, Quexiang, who knows Wei." The wedding began in the Zhou Dynasty, and the queen was also pro-Weishui when she got married. This ceremony is the beginning of the wedding. There are various forms of welcoming ceremony. In the Qing dynasty, the groom greeted him personally, wore red flowers, rode horses, or took a sedan chair to her husband's house, and the best man praised her parents and relatives. The Yue family wrote an essay with double flowers and red flowers, sailed for three weeks, and then returned first. The bride was wrapped in brocade by her brother and others and carried on the sedan chair. After getting off the bus, several relatives of the bride's family accompanied her and said "farewell", and the groom greeted her at home.

From the Zhou Dynasty to the end of the Qing Dynasty, in the marriage according to the Six Rites, except for the invitation (engagement) ceremony, the other five rites required the man's envoy to hold the goose as a gift for the woman's family. Because geese are migratory birds, they migrate from the north to the south every once in a while with the change of climate, and their spouses are fixed. One dies, and the other no longer chooses a spouse. The ancients believed that the flying geese from south to north conformed to yin and yang, the fixed spouse conformed to benevolence, righteousness and propriety, and the marriage was based on geese, symbolizing the harmony between yin and yang of a man and a woman, and also symbolizing the loyalty and singleness of marriage. Later, because geese became more and more rare, people used woodcut geese instead. In modern times, three kinds of live birds, goose, duck and chicken, are used to replace the ceremony of giving geese to ensure the harmony of marriage. With the gift of goose, North Korea and other countries also use it.

Discussing marriage is also called discussing relatives. On the initial stage of marriage, that is, the three stages of accepting gifts, asking names and Najib in the six rites. The man sends someone to the woman's house to propose marriage, and then goes through the formalities of job exchange, auspiciousness, marriage, blind date, etc. until the engagement. Strange Tales from a Lonely Studio? Frog God: "Although I forgot, I dare not discuss his surname."

Obtaining relatives with permission is the first of the six rituals. Yip Wong's Preface to Gui Zhexu in Yuan Dynasty? Answer "Song": "I'll ask Ken a hundred cups of tea, and then I'll ask him dozens of poems. "

Marriage is also called eight characters, and it was called Buji in ancient times. It is understood that marriage is one of the procedures in the name-asking ceremony. At the beginning of marriage negotiation, after writing the eight characters, review the names and birth dates of both men and women. Ancient people went their separate ways, asking ghosts and gods and suing temples. Modern teachers of Yin and Yang are invited to talk about whether the life of men and women is consistent. If they are consistent, they will get married. If we contain each other, marriage will fail. The birth dates of both parties will be returned.

Pressing Geng is also called pressing posts. It is one of the contents of the Six Rites Naji. After matching the eight-character posts of both parties, the man's family put the Geng post in the gift box, pressed the card and gave it to the woman's family. Also, put the other person's eight-character stickers under the memorial tablet of the family temple or ancestors or under the incense burner for giving the case, and invite people first ... >>

Question 2: What does the joy of framing mean? I wonder if there is any difference from place to place. We are going to have a baby here, because the baby needs to buy furniture after birth. In ancient times, wardrobe boxes and cribs were generally made of wood. So some implicit people say that it is a pleasure to add a box when you come to congratulate.

Question 3: What is the "boxed gift" in the wedding custom? I need an answer urgently. Thank you for your help. The day before the wedding, the woman's family sent gifts such as jewelry, clothes and furniture to relatives and friends, and prepared dried fruits and pancakes as a farewell.

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Question 4: about the custom of "sending the day" to fix the wedding date! When preparing for the wedding, the man chooses an auspicious day (calculated according to the lunar calendar) in advance, writes it in red paper, prepares gifts, and sends them to the woman's home by the matchmaker, which is also called "sending day", "sending day post", "sending day list" and "sending day list". Similar to the "invitation period" Geng in the ancient "Six Rites"

In the old days, we attached great importance to the date of marriage, so we must choose good luck to avoid evil and choose an auspicious day. People often ask fortune tellers or astrologers to "pick the date". Mr. Wang uses the dates of birth of both men and women, or the dates of birth of parents and grandparents of both men and women, to comprehensively calculate the auspicious day of marriage without mutual assistance. Some people also look through the imperial calendar and choose the date with reference to things that should be avoided. In Daejeon, the suggested marriage date should be based on the date of birth of both men and women, but also on the date of birth of other family members (except daughters) of both parties. If a person's horoscope conflicts with it, he will choose a new date.

In addition to the mysterious fortune-telling theory and the taboo precepts of the old imperial calendar, the folk custom of good or bad wedding dates is also popular in Fujian. Some places avoid getting married in spring. A year without spring refers to a year without beginning of spring Day, which is called "widowed year" in some places. Obviously, it is unlucky, because the word "widowed" is related to words such as "widowed", "widowed" and "widowed lonely". In many places in eastern Fujian and northern Fujian, it is forbidden for women to get married at the age of eighteen or twenty-four, and some only avoid one. Because the legendary Mrs. Chen Jinggu (a folk goddess) got married at the age of eighteen and begged for rain at the age of twenty-four, eighteen or twenty-four is an ominous age for married women. As for the season and month of marriage, Fujian people generally like autumn and winter and mid-spring (especially autumn and winter), and summer is rare. In southern Fujian, it is forbidden to say May, July and September, which means "May is wrong" (May is homophonic with "wrong"), "Marry a ghost in July" (July is a ghost month) and "September is a dog's head" (September is homophonic with "dog"), so marriage is unfavorable. When Shaowu people choose to get married, it is usually on Saturdays, Wednesdays, Wednesdays and Wednesdays, and the months are mostly in autumn and winter after the harvest of crops (that is, from September to the first month of the following year), avoiding August. Autumn and winter are the golden seasons of autumn harvest and winter storage, and also the days of slack farming. After the autumn harvest, the family is relatively well-off and suitable for men and women to get married. There is also a folk saying that "harvest in autumn and store in winter, and marry a wife to worship heaven". And get married before the Spring Festival, "marry a daughter-in-law for the New Year", which adds to the festive season. In summer, the weather is hot, the food is perishable, people are easy to get sleepy, busy with farming, and the life of husband and wife is inconvenient. Try to avoid holding a wedding. In some places, people choose to get married on two days to avoid getting married on a single day; Many places also have the custom of getting married every two months and two days. Respond to the saying of "yes man"

The woman usually accepts the wedding date sent by the man. In Yongding, Taining and other places, after the woman agrees, she will give a "permission period" post. In Dehua, if the woman has no objection within ten days, the man will get married as scheduled. In Fuqing, Luoyuan and other places, when a man chooses a wedding date, he must inform his wife's family first, and then formally write a red post as a "send-to-Japan" gift after obtaining the consent. In Songxi, the man will send two or three "auspicious days", and the woman will decide one of them. In Shaowu, "Day" is written on red paper, and the matchmaker is asked to deliver it to the woman's house on the seventh day of the seventh lunar month. If the woman agrees with the auspicious day chosen by the man, she will accept this red post; If you don't agree, don't accept it and return it to the man's house. The man's home must be delivered on the Tanabata day after the re-election next year.

The "date sheet" should not only write down the date of marriage, but also indicate the time when the bride gets on the sedan chair and enters the door. In some places, it is even necessary to list the wedding year, coronation time, bed making time, clothes cutting time and its taboos. In Hui 'an, two copies of the wedding "daily list" should be prepared, one for the woman and the other for the ancestral hall or residence hall of the man.

When the man sends his date, he should also give the last unpaid dowry and other gifts to the woman, which is called "pressing the date post" and "pressing the date list". In Fuzhou and its surrounding counties, such as Changle, Fuqing and Pingtan, employment is often divided into two stages-the first half ceremony and the second half ceremony. The "first half gift" is given at the time of engagement, and the "second half gift" (the other half dowry) is paid on the "delivery day". In Changle, when the man goes to talk about the wedding ceremony and sends it to the "second half ceremony", he needs to give a gift cake, commonly known as "fixed day cake". The constant of the gift cake is 100 Jin, and the woman gives the cake to her relatives, which indicates that the auspicious time is coming. There is a local folk song: "Tianbing is round and sweet, and my cousin likes the edge of winter solstice." Please welcome Yi, please invite farmers, please welcome friends and relatives from all walks of life, and congratulate you. " Relatives eat cakes on fixed days and know the wedding date. They all give gifts before the wedding ... >>

Question 5: 200 points. Ask what to prepare for marriage. /kloc-married in May of 0/3. Now that I think about it, it's really terrible. It only needs to be done once. Very tired

The most important thing is that the husband brings red envelopes, door seals and cigarettes, so he should prepare more. My door has been pushed crooked by them, really crooked! ! !

Red dates and lotus seed soup? We have red dates, fruits, cakes and dumplings. They should be solid, with 6 in each bowl and even numbers. Drink brown sugar tea

After picking me up at my house, that is, after picking up the bride, we met a beggar on the way back to his house. . . pay

Then there were beggars in front of the hotel. We should communicate with the hotel before this matter.

There are many, many firecrackers when crossing the bridge, because there is a bridge god. . . . Of course, according to different local customs, some places don't. The day before the wedding, we went shopping and bought electric firecrackers. I didn't buy it. Many things need to be prepared in advance.

I only think of these for the time being, hoping to help you. .