There are three keys to life: accept, change and leave.

"Life is like a flood, and it is difficult to stir up beautiful waves without touching the islands and reefs."

After all, our life is not a lake, and we can't stay calm forever. On the contrary, it may be rough and broken at any time.

But it is the ups and downs and the intersection of sadness and joy that expand the width and breadth of life and make our life more three-dimensional and diverse.

In the face of these ups and downs, your mentality also largely determines your future direction.

There are three keys in life: accept, change and leave.

If you keep these three points in mind, you can cope with life more calmly and usher in a wider world.

The first key: accept

Many times when something goes wrong, people will habitually complain and spit out the injustice of fate to themselves; Or escape the crisis that has happened and start to retreat.

In fact, at this time, the most important thing is to accept.

There is a famous saying:

"Any situation in the world has its advantages and fun, as long as we are willing to accept the reality."

When you choose to face and accept, your inner fear will gradually disappear and your anxiety will gradually be put down.

After a calm analysis of the present situation, you may find that everything you are worried about is just a paper tiger. On the contrary, sometimes, it is their own escape, which invisibly magnifies the panic.

Xin Wei, a college classmate, asked me to give her a hard job and asked me how to get rid of it.

After a detailed understanding, I learned that the boss sent someone on a business trip for two months to dock new projects. Old employees are unwilling to take over this hot potato. Finally, she was squeezed out as a newcomer.

Knowing this, I patiently comforted her:

"When you were in college, you were often praised for your initiative. Why are you flinching now?

If you don't do it, how do you know it must be hard work? "

Xin Wei suddenly realized, settled down to analyze the current work content, and did a lot of homework and preparation for the new work in advance.

Sure enough, after completing this new project, she was promoted to department head because of her good work performance, which attracted the envy of many people.

In fact, life is like this. Except for a few "unbearable burdens", most of the problems can be solved by us.

But the premise is that we don't escape, don't deny, don't become deserters in life, but take the initiative to accept and face it calmly.

The second key: change.

I have heard such a story:

A donkey accidentally fell into a dry well.

Poor guy, he is too old to do anything but scream for hours in pain, expecting someone to save him.

Who would have thought that people filled the well with a shovel of dirt?

The poor donkey immediately realized what had happened and began to growl even more desperately, trying to win a little sympathy from everyone.

However, the people who fill the soil are still indifferent.

The donkey gradually calmed down and made an unexpected move: it would knock the soil off its body, shake it off quickly and step on it hard.

In this way, in a short time, the accumulated soil actually carried the donkey to the wellhead, and it jumped out of the dry well and ran away quickly in front of the gaping crowd.

The reason why the donkey can find such a wonderful solution in the predicament is, in the final analysis, because it has learned to change its negative mentality, and even in the predicament, it can flexibly use the resources around it and try its best to jump out of the status quo.

Life throws us difficulties and setbacks unlike that shovel.

Pessimism and despair sometimes follow. But if you want to survive from this dry well, you must shake them all off and step on them hard.

Difficulties are also a stepping stone to life. If you want to survive in the jaws of death, you must learn to change the status quo and fight the desperate situation.

Every time we overcome difficulties, we are one step closer to success.

You may encounter a crisis, but it is more likely to be a turning point.

We can never know whether there are opportunities hidden behind the crisis, and it may turn into a new world.

Everyone who dares to change can always find opportunities in challenges, turn the corner and save the day.

The third key: leave

We must admit that not all relationships can have results, and sometimes they will drift away;

Not everything you want to fight for will get what you want. Sometimes you have to accept that there will be some shortcomings in life.

If something you hold too tightly breaks, don't hold it again, it's yourself who gets hurt;

Those who can't stay, don't stay when they leave, and the happiness they persist in will not last long;

If what you don't want to accept comes true, don't be sad anymore. Life always goes on.

The ancient Greek philosopher Plato once said:

"If you are unhappy, if you are unhappy, then let go; If you are reluctant to let go, it will be painful. "

Don't over-consume yourself when you should give up, and don't be reluctant to part when you can turn around.

Indulging in the past will not change what has happened, but will make your life more and more difficult.

Time is not medicine, time hides medicine.

One day, everything that has hurt you can be said indifferently.

Life is in your own hands.

There is no need to compromise your heart for others, and there is no need to sacrifice your happiness for the past.

If you can't accept it and change it, you might as well leave smartly.

Little monkeys in tropical forests put their paws in people's special boxes, and they can hardly pull them out.

Just because there are nuts they like to eat in the box, but their mouths are too small, they have to give up the nuts if they want to pull out their claws.

If they don't give up, they can only lose their freedom.

Dare to love, dare to hug, dare to leave.

Let go of things and feelings that are no longer suitable, and make room and mood for things that are really important.

When life is no longer burdened, the future can come as scheduled.

Life is like a cup of tea, it won't be bitter for a lifetime, but it will always be bitter for a while.

After suffering, there may be a beautiful waiting ahead.

In the face of difficulties, you feel that life is miserable and hopeless. Don't regret what you have done in the past, don't be afraid of the thorns on the road ahead, take courage and stride forward, and maybe you can get out of the vitality and see a bright future.

As Lin Qingxuan said:

"I'd rather be a partner with my smiling self than live with my troubled self.

I want to race with the sun, cross the muddy road and see the light in the distance. "

Encourage with friends.