The Jing nationality has formed a unique fishery culture and many customs. What are the marriage proposal customs of Jing nationality?

1. The Jing people are monogamous. Most of the traditional marriages of the Jing nationality are intermarriage within their own nationality, and rarely intermarry with the neighboring Han and Zhuang nationalities. Generally, the same surname is not married, and it is strictly forbidden for cousins to get married. If you violate it, you will be punished by clan rules. Most marriages between young men and women are arranged by their parents, which is the so-called "parents' orders, matchmakers' words." "Some families, in order to meet the needs of the labor force, either recruit husbands or buy child brides ("consummation "when they grow up). Of course, there are men and women who fall in love freely. Because we often collectively cook in the sea, especially in the grand traditional festival of "Ha Festival", young men and women get together for fun and sing to each other to enhance mutual understanding, establish feelings and even fall in love. However, regardless of the relationship between men and women,

In the eyes of Jing people, engagement is a lifetime thing. Once a marriage is settled, it is generally not easy to go back on our word. Therefore, people are very cautious about engagement, and their manners are quite complicated. The general process is: (1) "year of birth". Tell the fortune teller the age of both men and women to see if their lives match and they can get married. If it matches, leave the woman's age; If it doesn't match, give it to the matchmaker and send it back to the woman's house. (2) fix the color head. The age of left-behind women is put on the ancestral sacred case to test their symptoms, and the cycle varies from three days to seven days. During this period, if someone in the family is sick, livestock dies or dishes are broken, it is considered unlucky and the young man must be returned to the woman; If it is safe, it is considered auspicious, and with the acquiescence of ancestors, you can get married. (3) Life is good. After winning the lucky lottery, please ask the matchmaker to report to the woman's home to discuss the bride price. Generally, the prices of wine, rice, pork, chicken and body are discussed. Then the man's family gave the bride price to the woman's family, thus confirming the marriage.

3. Obviously, the engagement mode and process of Jing nationality are influenced by the feudal marriage custom of Han nationality. According to the betrothal method circulated by our own people, it is another extremely simple and interesting practice, that is, "Blue Ocean" spreads songs and flowers. As a bridge or clue, "Lan Mei" sends songs to men and women (one for each side). If the color book delivered by both parties is just right, it is considered as fate and providence, which can be combined; If you don't pair up, you think that life is incompatible and you can't be together. This practice completely obeys the rule of the gods and believes in the arrangement of fate.

? 4. In the distant era, "antithesis" is sacred and mysterious, and it is "God's will" for both sides not to cheat or disclose information in advance. But this custom is different in inheritance. In the story of Ji Shu, a clever figure of Jing nationality, there is a story about Ji Shu's "smart flower tile", which allows a flower on the left to be exchanged for a water treasure on the right. In this way, no matter "Lan Mei" gets any one from both sides, it must be in pairs when it comes to flowers. This custom has changed from "God-made" to "man-made" in the inheritance. Lan Mei matched it. When it comes to flowers, it will inevitably be paired; If the woman's parents don't get involved in this marriage, they will also take this form as a flexible social way and dismiss the matchmaker without hurting their feelings. In the 1980s, the concept of "divine determination" became weaker and weaker, and "Lan Mei" spread songs only as a traditional form of national love. Young people regard it as a process of love, and it doesn't matter to them whether the clogs match or not. Many young people simply gave up this scene.

5. After love songs and clogs, "Lan Mei" chose "uniting relatives" during the missionary period.