Is it better to have a boy and a girl, or two boys or two girls? Is it better to be an only child?

230th day of 20265438 +0-202 1 1009 noon 1:50(202 1 the countdown to going home for the New Year is 102 days).

In my opinion, people who have no pressure to have children are naturally better off having more! However, if having children is a little stressful, I think it is best to have two children of the same sex and grow up!

I recently learned a book called Fear of Death, and I understand that the lowest reason for human choice is that people and animals are different-animals only live in the present, and people understand that people will eventually die, so people are lonely after all, and people are afraid of loneliness. Therefore, everything people do is to fight loneliness and overcome their inner fear of death. Giving birth is one of the measures.

So it's better to have a boy and a girl? How about having two boys? Or two girls is better? There are still three? Or is it better to have only one child?

I talked to my cousin about having a baby today.

She asked me if I planned to have three children, because both my children are girls, it is our custom to have boys, and it is generally believed that a man and a woman are the best.

I replied that if I suddenly have too much money to do, I might be willing to have three, four or five children ~ but the truth is, I don't plan to have another one at present.

Before I had children, like everyone else, I thought that a man and a woman had the best spelling, so there was no need to raise children in life!

Later, I gave birth to Dabao and started to take care of my baby full-time. After three years, I can't imagine having a second child at all! A child has exhausted himself!

It was not until Dabao was about to go to kindergarten that I began to consider having a second child.

I thought that with Dabao's experience and Dabao's assistance, I was also well prepared. Who knows, I can meet all kinds of unexpected new situations! Constantly refresh your cognition!

For example, red buttocks, dry eczema, eczema, white spots, overweight, waking up, etc ... These are not the time to raise Dabao! Everything seems to have to be learned again from the beginning!

For example, Dabao is not as willing to take care of the baby as he imagined, but often makes his sister cry ... I am physically devastated by Bao Xiao, and I have to work hard mentally to take care of and guide Dabao to think positively and love my sister.

All this makes me deeply miss the time when I only raised one child!

If you only have one child, you just need to raise and teach her well. Things are scarce, you are willing to buy her anything and take her to play. Even if she does something wrong, she can spend half a day teaching her and then end it happily.

Two children, in addition to raising their own, should also find ways to make them understand that their actions are not biased against either of them, otherwise they are afraid that they will grow up in misunderstanding and have a wide range of influences and implications.

Nevertheless, I still think two children are better.

I have seen this sentence on the internet-having a baby is a game! After giving birth to a second child, I was impressed! With my second child, I really feel more optimistic about the future, even though I am a little tired now.

My sister asked me again, what do you think of a man and a woman? She thinks these two girls seem to be very good, too! Two boys are under too much pressure! She went to tell a fortune and said that she would have two sons and three children as daughters. She just wants to have two children. She wants to spell better.

I said, it is better to have two children of the same sex.

She asked me why.

I said that I thought about two girls before having a second child, although I quite agree with the general view that a man and a woman are better. Because I think, if there is a family where one man and one woman are more or less patriarchal, if the family conditions are average, then my sister must be very wronged! I don't want my girl to be wronged! If the family conditions are average, the first child is a girl and the second child is a girl, then both sisters can take care of it!

Although I think it is better to have a second child, a few days before the second child cut out a baby girl, I was still a little disappointed-I felt incomplete and didn't have the opportunity to experience the experience of having a baby boy!

However, after returning to China, slowly, up to now, especially when I had a good chat with my sister and had more than half a sentence with my husband and brother, I was super grateful to Bauer because she was a girl! Just because she and Dabao are the same sex!

Girls are naturally gentle, emotional, caring and chatty.

And boys' thinking and ideas are different from girls'. For example, the way they cope with stress makes girls very puzzled. They don't communicate with girls either. Maybe, they don't care about these! ?

So, do boys and girls have the same topic? It's hard, okay? Stop hurting each other, okay? Don't say having a younger brother to accompany your younger sister, or having a younger sister to accompany your younger brother, okay? Don't speculate at all!

Therefore, it is better to be of the same sex!

Which is better, two men or two women?

Whether it is two men or two women, there is a high probability that their thinking logic and personality habits can be consistent (at least higher than the probability of male and female collocation), so the collocation of two men and two women is very good!

What if you have to choose one?

I think it's best to have two men. Boys can't afford to lose, but they can also be raised in poverty, which is cheaper and better. Girls dare not be poor, even if the family conditions are not very good, they should empty their minds and educate her positively! Who let girls be vulnerable groups no matter what! Of course, people in the city are not so chaotic, while people in the countryside are more patriarchal, so it will be easier to live according to customs.

Of course, if both of them are small cotton-padded jackets, it would be so sweet if the children are well educated! Now, Dabao and I have endless days! Growing up must be more exciting!

My cousin asked again, "Would you like to have another boy?"

I think it may be better not to be born unless you really get rich suddenly!

There are two reasons,

First, as mentioned earlier, the husband's family is more or less patriarchal. There are already two girls here. If there is another boy, those two girls will be treated coldly! After all, the family's economic conditions are general, and resources will inevitably be tilted. I don't want two children to be left out in the cold.

Second, boys are not responsible for families with multiple births and only children. Or because of more or less patriarchal thinking, sisters at home will give way to male treasures, bow and scrape to male treasures, easy to be spoiled and arrogant, but in fact they are nothing!

So, in a word,

I think it is better to have two children, preferably of the same sex!

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