Transparent Mosuo people

Colorful Yunnan has always been my yearning tourist destination. After several planning, I finally realized my dream for many years. I had the opportunity to come to Yunnan for the first time, and I was even more fortunate to get close to the Naxi Mosuo people in the daughter country of the East. .

? A-mei personally told us about the customs of Mosuo people.

The Mosuo people in Lugu Lake live a primitive matriarchal life, which can be said to be a paradise for men and a world for women. The marriage custom adopts the way of "men don't marry, women don't marry, monogamy", and maintains the relationship between the two sides with the belief of the holy spirit in their hearts and restricts each other's behavior.

? Grandma will prepare a greenhouse for her daughter 13 years old, so that she can date her brother. The way of heart-to-heart communication is to clasp her favorite brother in the palm of her hand three times when attending a bonfire party. If her brother takes a fancy to A-mei, she will also clasp hands three times, and each other will be considered as two of a kind, so they can start dating. A-mei values his younger brother's health more than material things, because the traditional education they receive is that "a woman's mission is to spread branches and leaves for the family", and the genes endowed by a healthy younger brother are more conducive to passing on to the next generation. My brother will climb the greenhouse after dark. Once a person is promised, he will only date one brother. The child born is raised by his mother and uncle after his mother's surname. On the day of birth, his biological father can see his children at A-mei's house during the day, and seldom see them at other times.

? The noblest person in the family is grandma who is in charge of money. She lives in her grandmother's house with a small room. People who want to have children at home go to live, and the dying old man goes in. Those who can get out live, but those who can't get out die, so it is called "the door of life and death", which means the cycle of life and death. After death, people stay at home for 7749 days at the longest, and then they are cremated into ashes and scattered in the forest, which means returning to the earth, turning into spring mud and protecting everything.

? The family culture advocated by Mosuo people is that people who are related by blood live together, live together and work together. Respect for the elderly and rude upbringing of children will give priority to the elderly, and children will be released like cattle and sheep in the morning and go home to eat hundreds of meals at night to grow up. Old people don't rely on selling their old age, they think they can, so they live to the old age until they really can't walk, and they face life and death with a clear conscience.

? When you are sick, you should rescue those who can be cured, and not treat those who can't be cured. Believing in Tibetan Buddhism, believing in life and death, I usually accumulate more virtues and do good deeds, and the result is not forced. Their outlook on life and death is very shocking. Looking back at them, there are many people who will do anything to save their lives. Even if you know that it is an incurable disease, even if you have no savings, you will not hesitate to borrow money everywhere. Even if they take medicine, injections and chemotherapy, they are willing to bear it, just to prolong their limited lives.

? Cultural differences lead to different coping styles, and there is no right or wrong. While respecting each other's cultures, we are thinking about how to face life and death. How to deal with this eternal problem that afflicts the soul?

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