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Zaozhuang is the hometown of Confucius and Mencius, deeply influenced by feudal traditional ethics. Especially in the old society, wedding etiquette was more solemn, and marrying a wife was called "small graduation". Entering the wedding night, you need to go through "six rituals", that is, accepting color, asking names, Naji, accepting a levy, inviting the sun, and welcoming in person.

Accepting talents, commonly known as marriage proposal, matchmaking and matchmaking, is called "talking about wives" for the man; For the woman, it is called "talking about her husband's family". The previous marriage proposal paid attention to the matchmaker's words, the parents' life, and the door was right. Most men are older than women, even at the same age. There are also women who are older than men, but not too big.

Zheng Na is commonly known as "betrothal". Once they agree to get married, both men and women will first issue an "engagement letter", that is, a small red paper sticker of the man's proposal, commonly known as the "engagement letter". Generally speaking, there is no need to send a "general book" as a gift. The man takes poultry, wine, candy, cloth and silk, and jewelry as the bride price. The woman returned to Four Treasures of the Study, shoes and socks. After the "Shu Tong" is issued, an engagement will be formally signed, commonly known as "April Deed" or "Chuan Deed". The ceremony was even more grand. Both of them hosted a matchmaker, a brunch for men and a luncheon for women on the same day.

After the "Apocalypse", it means that the engagement is officially effective and has legal effect. If one party breaks the contract, it must be renegotiated by the parents, the head of the household and the matchmaker, and the two parties can return the stickers, bride price and tokens before the contract can be terminated. After the "next revelation", both of them agreed on the date of the wedding and prepared to marry the couple.

When the wedding date is fixed, it is a wedding, commonly known as "holding a happy event". For the man, it is called "marrying a new wife"; For the woman, it is called "going out". Before marriage, the man should make all the preparations for marriage. For example, invite guests, deacons, chefs, bands, bridesmaids, sedan chairs and decorate new houses. Everything about the wedding is handled by the deacon. Before you get married, you should put on bedding, that is, a green mattress and a red quilt, which means crossing, crossing.

Ask a woman with two children for help when covering the quilt. Put safflower, chestnuts, coins, etc. when covering the quilt. There are four corners, which means "early birth." The man also needs to wear a red cotton-padded jacket and red cotton trousers, commonly known as "wedding clothes". The day before the wedding, cotton-padded jacket and trousers are sent to the woman's home, which is called "sending wedding clothes". Put the new bed into the new house according to the direction specified by the "date check", commonly known as "making the bed". The person who makes the bed must be husband and wife, and both sides have children.

When making the bed, put a knot and bean straw under the red reed mat, which means knot and a bean. One student (one child) is born every year. When making the bed, the groom's brother, cousin or nephew will roll around in the new bed or sleep all night, commonly known as "rolling the bed."

On the day before the wedding, the groom's house was decorated with lanterns, with big red and double happiness characters on both sides of the door and couplets on the door. The groom will also go to the tomb of happiness. The groom is wearing a wedding dress, a black hat or an old blue hat, and a red line is wrapped around it. Blue robe, purple socks, blue cloth shoes. In the Qing Dynasty, braids were tied with red cloth.

The girl's house also posted red couplets and red single jubilee words the day before. Married women were "hungry" the day before or three days before and did not eat. Before the wedding, the relatives and friends of the bride's family came to congratulate her and sent some clothes, quilts, jewelry, snacks and so on. In the evening, menstruation, my nurse and other relatives "filled the box", covered the dowry lamp, washbasin, urinal and other double happiness words cut with red paper or round "twisted ancient coins" (cut into round flowers), and put them in the cabinet or box with the snacks sent by relatives and friends. Dowry varies with the wealth of the woman's family.

Mostly cabinets, cabinets, tables, chairs, toiletries, etc. Common small houses are a wardrobe, a stool (sitting on the bed), a basin frame and a copper basin, which are called "small five pieces". There are also "small eight pieces" and "big eight pieces". Take it away with the bride on the wedding day.

The bride begins to say goodbye to her family and get into a sedan chair to go to her husband's house. This is called "marriage". Before getting on the sedan chair, the bride dressed up and put her braids in a bun. Regardless of spring, summer, autumn and winter, you should wear red cotton-padded jacket, red cotton trousers, trouser legs and red soft-soled shoes. When a rich man marries a woman, he should also wear a rockhopper, a headdress, a pair of jade bracelets and a gold ring, and pin gold hairpin and jade hairpin on his bun.

Before noon, the sedan chair married by the man arrived at the woman's door. When the auspicious time came, the married woman got out of bed, put her shoes on her brother's shoes, sat in a chair, and then took off her brother's shoes. Your shoes can't touch the ground, thinking that the married shoes touch the soil of your mother's family is to touch her wealth, and her family will be poor in the future. After the bride sits in the chair, she is carried by her uncle or brother, sitting in the chair crying and being sent to the sedan chair, which means "falling golden beans" for her family, and the sun and the moon will be richer in the future.

When the sedan chair enters the village and arrives at the door of the man's house, firecrackers will be set off when the sedan chair falls, which is called "welcoming the sedan chair whip". The red carpet is spread from the table to the sedan chair. Poor people's homes, red carpets without reed mats. The mother-in-law, aunt and aunt opened the car door, and the bridesmaid helped the bride out of the car and stepped on the red carpet or reed mat to the table of heaven and earth. In the meantime, a pair of "Xi Niang" in the husband's family led the way, and another pair of "Xi Niang" carried a red basket and sprinkled wheat bran, red dates, chestnuts and peanuts on the head and body of the bride and groom.

Put a grain bucket on the table of heaven and earth. The bucket is filled with grain and sealed with red paper. Put a steelyard on the bucket, put trays on the left and right, put a pile of money on the left, and put wheat bran and red dates on the right. Put a censer and a candlestick in front of the barrel, light a red candle on the candlestick, and stand a bronze mirror in front of the censer. When worshipping heaven and earth, the master of ceremonies sings a ceremony, and the mother-in-law sprinkles salt in the brazier of pine and cypress, in order to make the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law decree by destiny. After worshipping heaven and earth, the groom put the bucket and scale into the bridal chamber and the scale picked out the blush. If there are more than two weddings in a village, each family will strive to worship heaven and earth early. I believe that people who come in early and worship heaven and earth early are more satisfied than those who worship heaven and earth late.

Into the bridal chamber, first worship the bed owner and mother, and then go to bed. The newly-married bride sprinkled red dates, peanuts and chestnuts on the bed, commonly known as "spreading the account". At night, two sisters-in-law (the groom's sister or distant sister) light a red candle, which is called "lighting". Singing while lighting the lamp: red and green, a pair of sisters to light the lamp, and a child named girl (aunt).

Sister-in-law lit a fire and put it on the table. Sister-in-law, uncle and sister-in-law accompany the groom and bride to eat and drink "heart-to-heart wine". After drinking the "heart-to-heart wine", the groom's sister-in-law urged the newlyweds to go to bed early, commonly known as "sending the house".

After handing over the house, the newlyweds still can't rest. The bride opened the cupboard and took out snacks for menstruation menstruation. She seized the opportunity to grab snacks and candy, and the more she grabbed it, the more auspicious it became. Especially friends and classmates clamor for sugar and cigarettes, and they won't leave until they give it. Some will go to the bride to look for the key, open the cupboard to look for cigarettes, and take off the bride's shoes to change the key. The bride couldn't stand it, so she had to take out candy, cigarettes and snacks. This is the so-called "noisy marriage" and "noisy happiness".

As the saying goes, after three days in the door, no matter how big or small, even distant relatives and elders can quarrel and quarrel. "Noisy" left, and the bride and groom went to bed, but they couldn't turn off the lights. If they blow out the lights themselves, the husband and wife can't grow old together. The bride and groom and other "lively" people left, and the young couple whispered something. Friends, relatives and young people in the neighborhood posted windows outside the new house to eavesdrop on "whispering", commonly known as "listening room" As the saying goes, the bride and groom don't whisper, and the child is dumb.

The next morning, after the bride gets up, she goes to pay New Year greetings to her parents-in-law, brother and sister-in-law. This is called "inquire after her". After breakfast, we pay homage to our ancestors, burn incense in the ancestral hall, and pay homage to our ancestors in the ancestral grave, commonly known as "Kexitou".

The bride returns to her family for the first time after marriage, which is called "returning to the door". Huimen was picked up by her mother's uncle, uncle and brother at her husband's house. In order to show respect for her mother's family, her husband's family should buy good wine and food, find someone who can talk and drink, and ensure that her family eats well. Living in her husband's family for a month after marriage and then returning to her parents' home for a month is called "opposite month";

After nine days of marriage, I stayed at my husband's house and then went back to my mother's house for nine days, which was called "drinking wine"; There are also "three to four", which are called crossing and crossing; "Seven to eight" is called "crossing more and more".

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Although it advocates changing customs, it still retains some customs. Young people wear wedding dresses when they get married, following the old ceremony, which is quite a combination of Chinese and western.

Taierzhuang News Network-Marriage Customs in Zaozhuang Area