Physiological reasons for children's timidity?

What are the reasons for children's timidity and how to exercise their courage?

The reasons why children are timid are as follows:

1. Congenital factors. Parents are introverted and not good at communicating with others, and children inherit their characteristics. Parents should understand their children's personality, let them have a gradual adaptation process, and at the same time give them as much care and love as possible, and encourage them to interact with others. Parents should be role models for their children, and don't show timidity in front of them whenever something happens.

2. Environmental factors. Nowadays, most people live in commercial housing, and the closed environment of one household makes children lack living space to communicate with their peers, which leads to their withdrawn and timid personality.

3. Improper education. When children cry, parents often use "ghosts" and "monsters" to scare children; There are also some parents who, when their children want to go out to play, use words such as "there are liars outside, they will cheat you away" to dispel their children's thoughts and leave a shadow in their hearts; Others expect too much from their children. Once children do something wrong, they will be reprimanded or beaten, which will make them flinch for fear of failure. Some children are timid and lack courage. One of the most important reasons is that parents pay too much attention to their children and even spoil them, replacing them in every detail, depriving them of the opportunity to try.

4. Personal experience. When children express themselves confidently in front of their parents, they get ridicule and sarcasm instead of praise, which makes them very depressed; Or when the child has an injection, the pain of touching the skin makes him afraid to go to the hospital next time. ...

After finding out the reasons, we should pay attention to the methods of education. For parents, they should be patient and careful when educating their children. When children are crying, we should educate them positively and don't scare them. Children should not be treated as "adults" and should not be asked to do things beyond their power with too high standards. Parents should spend as much time with their children as possible, play with him and inspire him to play new tricks. If parents can't play with their children because of something, they can agree where to play and how long to play under the premise of paying attention to safety. It is worth noting that when parents want to stop their children from going out to play, they must not scare their children with terrible stories. When the child comes home, let him tell the story of the play, and then evaluate the child's behavior, praise more and criticize less, which not only exercises the child's courage, but also cultivates the child's oral expression ability. If conditions permit, it is also a good way to cultivate children's courage to ask them to help buy some odds and ends or borrow things from neighbors. When a child encounters difficulties and setbacks, parents should tell him an easy-to-understand story in due course, telling him how human beings are not afraid of difficulties.

When cultivating children's social skills, parents are advised to create more opportunities for their children to communicate with others. When parents teach their children some communication skills, they should let their children undergo various exercises. For preschool children, cultivating their brave qualities mainly means: learning to endure and face when falling or having minor injuries; Disputes between peers should be resolved by themselves; Cultivate and encourage him to speak and perform when there are many people; Actively participate in sports activities, etc.

For most one-child families, only by boldly letting children do things and exercising in life can children become brave and strong and gradually grow into a brave person.

How is the child's timidity formed?

There are three main reasons for the formation of children's timidity:

First, the desire to communicate is suppressed.

After a child is born, he needs to communicate with others, first of all, his parents, then his relatives, friends, neighbors and small partners, and gradually he has the desire to communicate with others. Therefore, it is very important to organize reasonable exchange activities.

Second, the development of autonomy is blocked.

Psychological research shows that 8 months to 3 years old is the key period for children to achieve autonomy. Children in this period learned to walk and talk, showing their psychological initiative, such as asking questions, imitating and playing games, which produced their initial self-awareness. Behavioral characteristics, like to do their own thing, want to do it according to their own ideas, and behave naughty and disobedient. This is the performance of independent development and the "first negative phase" in the process of children's psychological development. If parents don't realize this feature, they are afraid that their children will not do well and do everything for them. In this way, they will suppress the development of children's autonomy, make him doubt his ability and form a timid psychology.

Third, self-esteem is frustrated.

Parents' inappropriate criticism and accusations make children doubt their abilities and become timid. Another situation is that parents blame or make fun of their children's physical problems or bad behavior habits, which will also dampen their self-esteem and make them timid.

What is the cause of cowardice? 50 points

There are both genetic factors and environmental factors.

Genetic factors are easy to understand. If both parents are timid, it is easy for children to be timid, but not all.

Environmental factors refer to the environment of study, work and life. Living in a relatively quiet environment, with little contact with the outside world, it is easier for a person to develop a timid character.

Generally speaking, there are the following types:

1. Not confident. I habitually feel that I will do something wrong before I do it, or I will be laughed at by others if I don't do it well.

2. Strong sense of self-protection. You are afraid that your body or dignity will be hurt, so you would rather choose cowardice than resist.

3. Self-affirmation is not enough. For example, let you give a speech. You have stage fright, right? Are you sure you think you have this ability? Should I stand there and talk? Give you pressure.

4. I am afraid of being shy. This is what people are born with.

Are there any particularly timid children?

A child's timidity has a lot to do with his growing environment. If you do the following, you will gradually improve.

1, let children communicate with their peers more.

"Courage comes from communication." Parents should provide their children with opportunities to communicate with friends from an early age, go to their children's homes as guests, be guests, and play with their neighbors' children.

Children especially need to communicate with their peers, which is irreplaceable for children to communicate with adults. When children go to kindergarten, the most important thing is not to learn knowledge, but to go through the process of socialization, so that children can learn the skills of interacting and communicating with others. Children's communication ability is gradually improved with the increase of communication opportunities.

2. Listen to the child's voice to remind parents, pay attention to the child's voice and don't take it for granted. On the surface, China's family is centered on children, but in fact it is centered on parents' will. Many parents want their children to learn this and that, ostensibly for the sake of their children, but in fact, parents do not stand in the position of their children and carefully consider what they want and what they are willing to do. Give children a chance to express themselves, not take it for granted.

For example, a father likes to take his children to the supermarket, but the children don't want to go every time. Dad can't figure out: there are so many goods in the supermarket, why don't the children like them? Until one time, the child fell and his father squatted down and picked him up. He suddenly understood the reason why children don't like shopping in supermarkets. From the children's sight, the supermarket is full of shelves, trolley legs and customers' trouser legs, which is not fun at all. From then on, dad went to the supermarket and carried the child on his shoulder.

3. Correct parents' mentality

Parents must have a correct attitude and never pass their pressure on to their children. If parents encounter unsatisfactory things in their work and life, they will get angry and nag their children, then their emotions will also be affected. When a child is under more pressure than he can bear, he will show behavioral deviation, such as repeatedly checking his homework, always forgetting to bring something, not sleeping well and so on.

What if the child is timid? What elements are still missing?

My son just turned one year old. Not long ago, he was like your daughter. When you suddenly hear a loud voice, you will be very scared, and you will be a little scared when you meet strangers. Later, his mother and I specially took him to some crowded places, such as supermarkets and playgrounds. Now he looks much better. He is not as scared as before. You can try.

What should the child do if he is introverted and timid and his attention is not concentrated?

Hello, correcting this situation is a systematic project. There will always be many setbacks and failures in one's life. Parents should pay attention to cultivating their children's tough character. First of all, I should teach my children to correctly look at the reasons for my failure. Can parents often analyze the problems they encounter with their children and teach them to look at things around them from different angles and grasp the key to the problem? Secondly, cultivate children's self-confidence, so that children can understand and play my strengths. There are no perfect people in the world, and growing children need more time to experience setbacks, enjoy success and get to know me. Parents should not only teach their children to correctly analyze and understand the causes of setbacks, but also help them prepare for difficulties. As long as parents pay attention to cultivating children to deal with everything around them with a positive attitude from an early age, children's lives will always be full of sunshine, and they will not always feel inferior when encountering difficulties. The following aspects can provide you with reference: first, the affection with children. Friendship plays an important role in cultivating happy personality. Therefore, parents should encourage their children to play with their peers and let them learn happy and harmonious interpersonal communication. Second, give children the opportunity and power to make decisions. The cultivation of happy personality is closely related to the guidance and control of children's behavior. Parents should try their best to provide opportunities for their children to know how to use my decision-making power from an early age. Third, teach children to adjust their mental state. To make children understand that some people are happy all their lives, the secret lies in having a very adaptive psychological state, so that they can cheer up from disappointment very quickly. When a child is frustrated, let him know that the future is always bright, and teach him to pay attention to adjusting his psychological state and restore his happy mood. Fourth, limit children's material possessiveness. Because giving children too many things will make them have the illusion that "acquisition is the source of happiness", we should educate them with examples that happiness in life cannot be equated with possession of material wealth. Fifth, cultivate children's broad interests. Pay attention to children's hobbies on weekdays. Provide children with a variety of interest choices and give necessary guidance. Children have a wide range of interests and hobbies, and naturally have a happy personality. Sixth, maintain a happy and harmonious family life. Family harmony is also a major factor in cultivating children's happy personality. Some data show that children who grow up in happy families live happier lives as adults than children who grow up in unhappy families.

What if the child is timid? Six things parents shouldn't do.

Children sometimes have some "dare not" behaviors, afraid to meet strangers, afraid to show themselves in front of others, afraid to talk, and afraid to sleep alone. In the face of these "dare not" behaviors of children, parents will always be earnest or try their best to encourage their children to be brave. I tell you, there are six things that parents should not do in the process of this child's "dare not".

1, the negative sentence is derived.

Some parents will inevitably think that their children are shy or even timid when they dare not behave. Watching other children twitter with others, or playing musical instruments boldly in front of adults, parents are annoyed that their children dare not do this or that.

2. Use "Mom doesn't love you" * * *

When children say "Mom, I am afraid" and "Mom, I dare not", some parents will threaten their children with "If you do this again, mom will not love you". Children are still young, and they don't know how to tell the truth of their parents' words. They think what my parents said is true, so there will be a feeling that my mother really doesn't love me. Such a mother's unconscious lip-synching will make children have all kinds of psychological thoughts. They are afraid that their parents will not love him because of this, so that their children will always be swayed by considerations of gain and loss, or force themselves to "be brave" to do what their mothers like him to do.

Parents should pay attention to what they say to their children. Maybe you are just joking, but if the baby believes it, it will put pressure on his psychology. And something like this actually implies that your mother will love you only if you do this. It is easy for a baby to feel that his parents' love for him is conditional. The unconditional love of parents can make the child feel safe at all times, and the baby will become more brave and positive.

3. Always compare with others

Children are psychologically sensitive and fragile. If you always compare him with other people's children, he will be even more embarrassed and even transfer his grievances and even hatred to other people's children.

So learn to be a wise parent and give positive affirmation to children. When children say they dare not do it, parents should have full confidence in their children and say "you can do it". The affirmative eyes of parents will make children feel confident. Parents should also change their mentality of always loving horizontal ratio. Discover the advantages of children, learn to appreciate children, encourage and praise children more, and find a little progress of children. Parents should affirm their children in time.

4. Push the children onto the stage.

Some powerful parents think that children dare not do it, so they force their children to think that their potential can only be exerted under pressure. But in fact, it's not sweet. The more parents force their children to do it, the more contradictory their children are psychologically. Even if your child is successfully put on the stage this time, he still has 10 thousand kinds of unwilling feelings in his heart. This kind of negative experience makes him even more afraid next time, avoiding performing on stage, and the child becomes more insecure.

Adults have things they dare not or don't want to do, let alone children who are wet behind the ears. If the child really doesn't want to give a speech or performance on stage, parents should not force the child, let alone call him a coward, and give him more tolerance. Mothers should learn to say, "It doesn't matter if the baby doesn't dare, mother still loves you", so that children can feel that even if they are "disobedient", parents still love themselves and respect their children's decisions. With more tolerance and encouragement from parents, children will be more self-respecting and confident, and one day they will be able to stand confidently on the stage and make you proud.

5. Don't give a chance to "try again"

When children are afraid to perform on stage in an activity in kindergarten, parents will feel that their babies are shy and afraid to show themselves in public. In order to "respect" the child's decision and prevent the teacher from "reluctantly" the child to do some performance activities again, parents told the teacher to give the child as few opportunities as possible to avoid embarrassing the child. Parents mean well, but this is not the best way to educate.

I have repeatedly stressed that personality should be respected, and children should not be forced to do things they don't like, but they should be based on a full understanding of their psychology. Maybe the baby is just angry at the moment, or can't be brave at the moment, it doesn't mean that the baby doesn't want to do it next time, or doesn't like to do such a thing. Parents' "going their own way" may cut off many opportunities for children to exercise and learn.

So I think parents can communicate with their children more and know what their children's personality is and what the reasons were at that time. If it is just an accident, then parents can encourage their children to say that they must seize the opportunity to express themselves next time for what they like to do; If the child can't give specific reasons, then ... >>

What are the reasons why boys are timid and have no self-confidence?

● Cultivate optimism. One of the psychological roots of children's timidity is pessimism. Optimists regard difficulties as nature, and think that difficulties are that you are strong and weak, and you are weak and strong, full of confidence, determination and perseverance to overcome difficulties; Pessimists artificially exaggerate difficulties and give up without a fight. Therefore, children should always be encouraged to look at problems from the favorable aspects, make more progress and see their own achievements, so as to have confidence in themselves and develop an optimistic attitude.

● Start with small things. Lack of perseverance is another psychological root of children's timidity. A person with weak perseverance will flinch when he finds it difficult to overcome difficulties. But accumulating victories to overcome small difficulties can gradually cultivate people's perseverance to overcome big difficulties. Therefore, it is necessary to ask children to start from small things, especially the things that he ignores most and is most likely to expose the weakness of will, and cultivate perseverance. For example, get up on time every day, keep a diary and do morning exercises. Under no circumstances can you be sloppy, persistent and make no excuses. Over time, you can gradually cultivate tenacious perseverance.

● Encourage communication with others. Timid children tend to be introverted and withdrawn, so parents should create more opportunities, encourage their children to actively communicate with others and get emotional support from their peers. For example, let children take the initiative to greet people, invite companions to play, introduce guests to children to play together, and so on. Cultivate children to act boldly.

● Don't criticize irony. Timid children have high self-esteem. Parents should never criticize and satirize their children's shortcomings, which will deepen the influence of their children's bad emotions. Parents should give their children more words and eyes of encouragement and appreciation, enhance their self-confidence and reduce their psychological pressure.