Revealing the family life of transsexual Venus, is she happy after transsexual?

There are many people who get married more than once in life, but few people like Venus marry a woman for the first time and a man for the second time. On February 1 this year, dancer Venus married her German boyfriend Hans, and since then she has completed all the roles that a real woman may play in her life-daughter, lover, mother and wife. Besides shining brilliantly on the stage, the maverick personal life of the founder of modern dance in China has also attracted wide attention. She said half jokingly and half seriously, "I am the biggest performance art in China, and I have been doing it all my life. This performance art does not last for a day, but until I die. I use my life and my works to be a person and see how the society recognizes me and how to accept me. " Her transsexuality, her marriage and love are not deliberately created, but personal real needs. She fought for a freedom for her life, and at the same time gave everyone the freedom to comment. Thirty-eight years ago, a chromosome went to the wrong place. In natural law, this is an easy mistake to make, but in social law, it is a hundred times more difficult to correct this mistake. The poet Yu Jian said to Venus, "Venus, you are the most psychologically healthy person in China." I met Hans Venus' German husband Hans on the plane and met him on the plane. This tall and reserved German man usually only takes economy class. Just as the economy class tickets were sold out, he made an exception and bought a first class ticket and sat next to Venus. I don't know if it's familiar or amazing. Once he sat down, his eyes were tied by this unique oriental woman around him and he refused to leave. Belt of venus held his pet dog "Niu Niu" and politely apologized to him for fear of disturbing the passengers around him. The two chatted about it and hit it off very well. When they left, they left their phone number. When he got off the plane and saw a group of dancers coming to the airport to meet Venus, Hans realized that he had met Venus, a well-known modern dancer in Europe. A few days later, I got up the courage to make a phone call. I was sleepy, thoughtful and very gentleman. From love to marriage, it is a natural process in Venus' own psychology, but it takes a lot of careful and rational consideration to form a family, and it takes three times to analyze and discuss the law in order to give children a stable and happy home. About living in China or German after marriage: "Is my career important? Or is the career important? " Hans said honestly, "Of course your career is important." "Is China important for the growth of three children in China? Or is Europe important? " Hans nodded again: "Of course it's important for China. Children should learn Chinese and lay the foundation from an early age. " There is no room for discussion about the family situation. Venus told Hans bluntly: in this family, the status of children is always the first, and children are always more important than you. Hans fully accepted the ranking. In order to create a Chinese environment for children, this rigorous and gentle husband and father went to Fudan University to register Chinese on this hot summer day in 2005-his Chinese level was originally limited to chasing the youngest child named "Little Sa 'er". At home, Venus speaks English to Hans, Hans speaks German to the children, and Venus and the nanny speak Chinese to the children. "Messed up the children! Now that the child speaks, there will be German words in Chinese! " Venus is a man of temperament, and the criteria for choosing a spouse are simple and clear: "As long as you are in good health, mental health, ability or wealth, it doesn't matter. What matters is your essential quality. " But choosing a father for her children is strict. She wants to create the best growth conditions for her children and let them grow freely in a loving environment. She is proud that she was born with the gift of being a mother. Not only can she change diapers without a teacher, but she also knows how to teach students in accordance with their aptitude: the eldest son Dudu is sensible and confident, and she can be reasonable as long as someone gives her advice; Xiao Saner's ghost is fine, and he will definitely be the material for business in the future; My daughter Nini was insecure, a little greedy and selfish since she was a child. Moreover, the little girl has a solid personality and needs strict discipline. Venus, a mother, became quiet. Shanghai doesn't even have the names of several entertainment places. Friends are here, and I don't know where to take people to play. "I which have the kung fu! I am a mother! " I am a mother who drives her children to the park with her husband during holidays. Venus is wearing jeans and sitting in the back seat with her children. In front of the car, a young girl in a miniskirt passed by. Hans held the steering wheel and turned his head unconsciously 180 degrees. Venus looked into her eyes and said nothing. The next day Venus wore a miniskirt and knocked downstairs. Hans' eyes are straight. "Why are you dressed so beautifully today?" Venus said proudly, "I just want you to know that your wife has the leg you saw yesterday!" " "Hans said," well, then you can wear miniskirts more often in the future. Venus said, "Yesterday we went to the park. We climbed up and down with the children. Can I wear that? "I am a mother!" She likes being a mother so much that "I am a mother" has become a proud mantra. She still remembers the feeling of limping when she first picked up her son. In her eyes, a woman has her own career, marriage and children, which is the best proof for her. It happened that some people looked down on all these women. Venus and Hans went out by car together, and several times someone leaned in and envied him: "madam, you are so lucky!" Marry a foreigner, drive a good car and live in a good house. " "Ah bah! I bought this car myself. What's wrong with my husband being a foreigner? He is an ordinary worker abroad. I earn money in our family! " She hates the faces of passers-by She scolded Shanghai for laughing at the poor instead of prostitutes. What she despises most is "Shanghai Baby". It turned out that an Italian boyfriend came to Shanghai to see her and brought an English version of Shanghai Baby as a gift for her, thinking it was the most suitable gift for an oriental beauty. Venus immediately broke up for this book that completely violated her values. "Men with this taste don't even have to be ordinary friends." After three true lovers, a Texas cowboy, an Italian psychologist and a Belgian politician, Venus was called "a woman spoiled by European men" by her friends. Every time she falls in love, she has to tell each other straight away that she was originally a man and later became a woman. "Make it clear in advance, so as not to be tired." Only a man who can accept this fact frankly is the real communication. And the reason why she didn't find a man in China was "China men have a heavy psychological burden, so it's hard to accept me. Even if he doesn't care, people around him will look at him differently, and I don't want others to be tired. " At the age of 23, Ken Bolin, the first married wife, was endowed with supernatural and superstitious Venus, and "God gave her" and "Grandfather enjoyed food" were often mentioned. A fortune-teller made a fate for him (Venus was still a man at that time): he got married at the age of 23, went to court at the age of 24, suffered a mass annihilation at the age of 28, and became a mother at the age of 33 (although he will become a "mother" in the future). All these were realized in Venus's later years, and Venus believed in God. 23 years of marriage, for Venus, only legal effect, no practical significance. In her own words, "I didn't touch any girls before I changed sex." The first "wife", Ken Bolin, was the girlfriend of Eric, Venus's classmate when she was studying dance in America. 1990, because the rent in new york is too expensive, Eric and his girlfriend want to live with Venus. Venus joked with Ken Bolin: You marry me, you have a free place to live, and I can get a green card. Isn't this the best of both worlds? Two days later, the joke came true and three young people went to register with a smile. The bride completely regards the groom as a "sister", but the bride's boyfriend has become a witness. As soon as they got out of the gate of the city government where the marriage was registered, the three of them burst out laughing happily. This foreign-related marriage has a typical flavor of "China people are in new york". Speaking of getting a green card, the impatient Venus has changed her mind. Because getting married and getting a green card, each of us should know each other's life stories by heart. The immigration officer will call them out and ask them questions, such as: What underwear does your wife like to wear and what cosmetics does she use? When do you get paid every month and when do you have your period? Venus was really impatient with such torture and said to the lawyer, I don't want a green card! I won't do it! Later, traveling in many countries in the world, insisting on not getting a green card and not changing nationality became the principle of Venus. The longer you stay abroad, the more you love your motherland. She doesn't change the passport of any country. People say: you are really troublesome! She said: Don't bother to prove that you are a man with a country. During her days in Europe, she wore China cheongsam whenever she had the chance. In 2000, when Venus was performing in Thailand, she suddenly received a phone call from her "wife" Ken Bolin, asking for a divorce, because Ken Bolin was pregnant and planned to formally marry her sweetheart. The black female official of the American Embassy in Thailand looked at the divorce papers handed over by Venus. Before she knew whether the other person was a man or a woman, she asked: Do you want a divorce? Venus said: Yes. The black female official asked again: Are you divorced from your husband? Venus said: Yes. Then he raised his right hand to take the oath, and the official stamped a chapter on the document. In less than 10 minutes, the divorce procedure was completed. Walking out of the embassy, Venus stood on the road and laughed for a long time. She once thought that in the United States, as long as two people don't live together for seven months, they can divorce automatically, but this is not the case. Her joke marriage with Ken Bolin actually lasted 10 years. "Life is really an absurd drama!" By the time of divorce, Venus, once a handsome boy in China, had become a daughter. The 28-year-old transsexual rebirth is the rebirth of Venus. 1995 When she was admitted to Beijing Xiangshan Hospital, Venus made the worst plan. "Give my life to God, it's up to you." She survived the painful operation and dropped from 120 kg to 96 kg. The transsexual operation was successful, but it was difficult to recover because the calf muscles and toe fingertip nerves were all necrotic after being pressed for one hour 16. Even if he recovers, he is still a cripple. Venus didn't believe in evil, gritted her teeth and limped to exercise. After more than a year, she miraculously stood on the stage again. She seldom mentioned the pain during that time. In her book, her recovery exercise has become the simplest and most boring section. In fact, as an excellent dancer, it is impossible to face the doctor's diagnosis of disability without despair. Venus has an almost cold intelligence. She knows that this society values results over process, and few people sympathize with the suffering of losers. She has dreamed of becoming a woman since she was six years old. She was ready to be a woman at the age of 16, but she didn't have sex-change surgery until she was 28. She admitted quietly: I am eager to succeed in my career first. Only by being a successful person first can society accept my differences. I am luckier than other transsexuals, but I earned this luck by biting my teeth. When he was young, he found himself different from ordinary people. He was confused, and he kept dancing to vent his anger. During the operation, she could only lie quietly and shed tears because it was too painful. She doesn't moan or shout for fear of causing trouble to doctors and nurses. She used to be a man with a feminine taste, but now she has become a woman with an iron will. Venus is the most striking planet in the solar system and the only planet that rotates in the opposite direction. Women with such names also have these two qualities. From becoming a woman to returning to the stage, from adopting a child to getting married, the transsexual Venus, just as the planet corrected its derailment, is running more and more vigorously and more wonderfully. 1998, she founded Venus Modern Dance Company, which is the only private modern dance company in Chinese mainland at present. She led a delegation to perform in China, South Korea and all parts of Europe, which caused great "Venus effect" everywhere. Every performance was packed, and the curtain call lasted more than 15 minutes. In 2004, Shanghai Tango toured Europe, which caused a sensation and was highly praised by the European Community. "Just when our modern dance didn't know where to go, a dance artist from the East pointed out the direction for us." Venus said that she does not deny that some people walk into the theater with curiosity about her transsexuality, but as long as they are willing to sit down and give her more than an hour, she will definitely impress them with dancing. When they walk out of the theater, they will remember her dancing. This complicated and mysterious woman imagined by outsiders is as transparent and simple as her nickname "glass fish". She spent half her life correcting a natural mistake and will write another legend for the rest of her life. Venus' artistic achievement is 1985. He initiated the men's toe dance and won the first China Li Tao Cup invitational tournament. 1988, went to the United States to study modern dance. 1989, held a solo evening in Seoul. 199 1 was hired as the chief choreographer by the American Dance Festival, and created the dance Half Dream, which won the best choreographer award and the title of "Best Choreographer". 1998 The work "Red and Black" won the "Wenhua Award" of the Ministry of Culture, and the Venus Modern Dance Company was established in the same year. 1999, held a solo concert in London. In 2000, modern dance specials "Wind on the Sea" and "Kamina Blana" were staged at the Shanghai Grand Theatre. In 200 1 year, the modern dance special of Forever Present Tense was premiered in cooperation with German artists. In 2004, the large-scale modern dance "Shanghai Tango" toured Europe, causing a sensation.