To be a good person, you must also have a plan. This plan is not to hurt others, but to protect yourself.

To be a good person, you must also have a plan. This plan is not to hurt others, but to protect yourself. A man without a plan is like a puppet with a dull head. They lack autonomy in life and are at the mercy of others. Of course, there is no harm in scheming here, not calculating other people's hearts, not playing tricks and cheating. To be an upright person, there is no room for a little haze in your heart. Such people are pure people. On the contrary, people who specialize in politics and deception will eventually suffer the consequences.

Have a little ingenuity and draw wisdom from life. Never experienced the baptism of society, never experienced the tempering of life, such people are always simple and natural, without the slightest intention. Being wet in the world for a long time and having more experience will naturally produce scheming, so scheming is also the concentration and refinement of life.

It is also the need to protect yourself from harm to keep a little scheming in dealing with people. The scheming is not used to harm people, but to protect yourself. As the saying goes, harming others is not good for yourself. Human feelings are warm and cold, the world is cold, and things in society are complicated. In the face of such a world without any hidden secrets, how can we properly safeguard our own interests?

In addition, the mentality should be maintained not only in interpersonal communication, but also in the long journey of life. On the one hand, people are communicating with the world, on the other hand, they are communicating with themselves. One is "social self", which should bear social responsibility and communicate with the outside world; The other "me" is the "individual me", which is connected with one's own heart and is responsible for absorbing life experience and condensing life wisdom. The scheming left by this "individual self" will affect a person's life and destiny.

Once upon a time, two hungry people were blessed by an elder: a fishing rod and a basket of huge fresh fish. One of them asked for a basket of fish and the other asked for a fishing rod, so they parted ways. Those who get the fish build a bonfire with dry wood and cook the fish on the spot. He wolfed down the fish, but didn't taste the meat of fresh fish. In a flash, he ate all the fish with soup. A few days later, he ate all the fish. Soon, he was starved to death by the fish basket.

Another man who got the fishing rod walked towards the sea with it. He walked hungry for several days. When he finally saw the blue sea in the distance, he exhausted his last strength and couldn't walk any further. In the end, I can only fall next to my fishing rod, leaving the world with endless regrets.

Two hungry people were also blessed by their elders: a fishing rod and a basket of fish. But they didn't go their separate ways like the previous two times, but agreed to look for the sea together. The two of them embarked on a journey with fish and fishing rods. On the way, they only cook one fish at a time. After a hard journey, they finally came to the seaside. Since then, the two began to make a living by fishing. A few years later, they built their own house, had their own family and children, had their own fishing boat and lived a stable and happy life.

Similarly, in the face of fishing rods and baskets full of fish, the four people have different performances: the first two people only pay attention to immediate interests and get only temporary satisfaction and long-term regret; The latter two are very scheming, knowing that the wisdom of life lies in aiming high but being based on reality, so they cooperated and played the dual roles of fishing rod and a basket of fish, and finally lived a happy life they expected.

Sometimes, a muddled situation can really make people lose a lot of things that originally belonged to them. Turn a blind eye to the things in the world, do not pay attention to observation and in-depth analysis, can only be confused for a lifetime. Drawing strength and wisdom from life and reality is a gift of fate.

People often discuss the most important topics in life. In fact, the most important thing for people is the right to live. Without the right to life, nothing can be said. The existence of conspiracy is the inevitable guarantee of the right to subsistence. It may be exaggerated to say it, and it is not too much to think about it. Only those crafty people can save themselves from harm in all kinds of dangers and threats.

In ancient times, there was an emperor who especially liked fortune telling. He keeps a fortune teller in the palace and worships him very much. One day, the fortune teller calculated that a concubine in the palace would die within eight days. When the prophecy came true, the emperor was frightened. He thought that if the fortune teller didn't murder concubines, he would be too accurate. The magic of fortune tellers threatened the emperor. In either case, the fortune teller will die.

One day, the emperor will summon a fortune teller. In advance, he ambushed the soldiers and told them to wait for his signal. As soon as he broke the cup, the ambush soldiers rushed out to catch the fortune teller and pushed him out to behead him.

When the fortune teller arrived at the palace, the emperor asked the fortune teller one last question before giving the signal. He wants to see how capable the dying fortune teller is and whether he can really predict his future. He asked, "You claim to be a fortune teller, and you know the fate of others, so tell me what your fate will be and how long you will live?"

The fortune teller was taken aback. Why did the emperor suddenly ask this question? He noticed the smile on the emperor's lips. He calmly replied, "Your Majesty, I will die three days before you."

The emperor held the glass tightly and never gave a signal. The fortune teller's life was saved Not only that, the emperor generously rewarded him and sent a clever doctor to take care of his health. Finally, the fortune teller even lived a few years longer than the emperor.

Fortune-tellers live longer than emperors because they work hard to survive. The emperor was jealous of the fortune teller's skill and wanted to harm him, but the fortune teller's scheming helped him tie his life with the emperor's. In this way, the emperor wanted to kill the fortune teller, but at the same time, the fortune teller saved and expanded the living situation for himself.

In order to survive, you have to keep your own scheming. Only those who are open-minded and open-minded can be called wise men. Trick is a means to help us win a happy life. It protects us from harm. This kind of scheming is also indispensable.

Planning is part of strategy. People who are good at planning are schemers, but don't think that scheming is calculating others. More often, I try my best to survive. The scheming is the expression of wisdom and the symbol of self-protection. People who have no scheming will be hurt differently by the outside world and themselves. Life lies in planning, and scheming can also ensure the success of planning. Only in this way can life not be wasted and can make a difference.

Make good use of it-a few words of life advice

Planning is to be prepared; Winning a thousand miles is to implement the strategy.

Smart women can cook without rice. Without rice, she can look for it, but she can't wait for the fire to go out.

A wise man needs a little, not a lot, but a little.

Introduction to the content of The Mind Necessary for Success;

No matter how superior the socialist society is, there will always be its dark side! We can only try to adapt to this society, not let this society adapt to us! You may fall into a trap if you are not careful, so it is very important to have a plan. What is said here is to protect your ordinary things, such as being kind to others, embarrassed or humiliated, and leaving room for everything. For example, being kind to others, being tactful and accommodating, and learning to give up ┈ being kind to others are the noble character of people with all intentions, a kind of communication in the heart of the wise, and a broad inner world of the benevolent. Mencius once said, "a gentleman is nothing more than being kind to others." Being kind to others is a basic principle that people should follow in the process of seeking success. Those who give generously and expect nothing in return can often succeed faster and more easily. People don't come for suffering, and it's no fun to live a sad and troubled life with a straight face all day. Trouble, like history, has become the past, future and reality, and it is the life you want to go. It is wise to face the future bravely! To have an open-minded life, you must learn to give up. Someone once said, "if you choose the tranquility and comfort of the countryside, you must give up the dim lights of the city;" If you choose the indifferent and ordinary, you give up the glory of fame. "Knowing how to give up will make people feel bright and clear. Give up those wild ideas in your mind, "delete" the "junk files" in your body's "hardware" and "software", and get rid of those "burdens" big or small, light or heavy, so that you can face life easily and enjoy the happiness of life. In short, we should savor it. With these opportunities, your life will be open-minded and rich.

Be a man and do things with a plan.

Chapter 1: Excellent personality is the basis of being a man and doing things.

First, cultivate their excellent character.

Excellent personality is like a treasure hidden in the body, which is an intangible and priceless resource that a person has. It is more valuable than gold, silver and precious stones. Neither panic nor failure can affect its existence. Even if all our worldly possessions are swept away, it can still bring us rich returns.

Second, honesty is what people keep and what things are based on.

When you are honest with yourself, no one in the world can cheat you. Honesty is the core of the machine. There is an invisible force that is better than stone. "If you are sincere, the stone will open." Deception can never overcome honesty. Honesty can help you roam anywhere in the world, whether it is light or dark.

Third, honesty is our main reason.

To be a round person, the purpose is to work more smoothly, expand my career and achieve greater success in life, instead of being opportunistic and unscrupulous, which ultimately goes against my goal of pursuing personal and career success. If this is the case, it is really the opposite of each other.

Fourth, to forgive others is to forgive others.

Tolerance is tolerance for others' mistakes and forgetting others' injuries. Tolerance is a kind of letting go and being kind to yourself.

Intolerance is actually unwise. Intolerant people ignore the most basic common sense of human beings: others are not only your hell, but also your mirror.

Verb (abbreviation for verb) is kind to others.

"Give it to the defendant and deprive it; Trust will be trusted, doubt will be suspected; Love will be loved and hate will be hated. " People should respect and care for each other. If you are kind to others, others will be kind to you. Helping others is actually helping yourself. This is the most direct and useful conclusion of the platinum rule of interpersonal communication.

Sixth, know how to share with people around you.

Only by being good at sharing with employees, customers, relatives and friends, or like-minded people, can we work together in Qi Xin, help each other in the same boat and work together for a better cause.

Chapter II Insight and Insight

First, we can learn from microscopic observation.

You know autumn when the strings move and the leaves fall. Experienced people can know the wind and rain by observing the sky, while most wise people know how to observe the details. Smart people don't passively wait for the natural result of things. They can play it by ear, judge the development trend of things according to the subtle changes of things, control the direction and speed of things in time, seek good fortune and avoid evil, and make the ship of life move forward smoothly.

Second, pay attention everywhere and gain insight into each other's psychology.

When we observe a person, we should pay attention to his special habits. What does he care about most? What does he often ignore? What is he dissatisfied with? As long as we can master his personality characteristics, we can also understand, master or contact this person.

Third, examine its character and strength and understand its intentions.

We should be good at penetrating into the hearts of others and be indifferent to their intentions. When something unusual happens and you don't know the opponent's situation, then you should seize the time, seriously investigate and study, pay more attention, take the initiative to attack, and try every means to detect the strength and details of the other party in order to clearly understand its intentions.

Fourth, identify others' promises or deception

Whether in daily life or at work, we should keep our eyes open, never let go of the subtle changes of things, and be vigilant immediately when encountering abnormal phenomena. Don't be careless, neglect prevention, and let people with ulterior motives take advantage of it, thus putting themselves in a difficult or dangerous situation and causing losses to their careers and lives.

5. Don't be a tool used by others.

"There is no such thing as a free lunch." Therefore, if we want to eat lunch hosted by others, we should at least pay attention to the following two points: first, it depends on what kind of person the host is; Second, the host's intention to invite you to lunch.

6. Beware of greed and the hook in the bait.

Be careful of your greed and don't be blinded by immediate interests. If you have no desire, you should stick to your own principles and grasp your own heart; Have a long-term vision, don't be blinded by immediate interests, and don't see distant dangers; Don't be greedy for small and lose big, especially when "small" is full of temptation and "big" is far away.

Chapter III Control Your Tongue

First, say what you say, and don't talk nonsense if you say it improperly.

If you want to be unknown, you must do it yourself. As the saying goes, "there is no windtight wall in the world", and there are still ears in the wall, let alone telling people face to face. So talking to outsiders casually and spreading it to your boss or colleagues will make you more passive. Really feel depressed, hold back panic, go home to vent, go home to talk.

Second, speak hard and soft, and don't go against people's wishes.

The same meaning, expressed in different ways and languages, will have different effects. How to express your true meaning skillfully and accurately without offending the other party needs a wise heart to understand it slowly.

Third, avoid arguing with others.

People always turn fierce language communication into a war of words, and sometimes two lips and one tongue are worse than real bullets. But unless the two sides stop communicating in the future, such tit-for-tat will not bring us any benefits. As Benjamin Franklin, a wise man, said, "If you always argue, argue or allow, you will occasionally win!" But this kind of victory is empty, because you will never get the favor of the other side. "

Fourth, make up for careless slips of the tongue in time.

As long as we find out the slip of the tongue, we can find ways to make up for it in time, or apologize, or resolve it, or make mistakes and get rid of the predicament, so that the negative impact brought by the slip of the tongue can be minimized. This way, you won't set obstacles for yourself because of a little slip of the tongue and add unnecessary trouble to yourself.

Verb (abbreviation for verb) sincerely admits your mistake.

Take the initiative to admit your mistakes and express sincere apologies to others. In doing so, you will have subtle psychological changes in the other person's mind, and the other person will gain a sense of self-esteem and superior satisfaction, thus expressing understanding, tolerance, trust and affection for you.

Who do things not to touch others but to touch themselves? Le Jia said to a very good person the other day: "There is a kind of person who often does things, sometimes not necessarily to touch others, but only to touch himself." Sometimes we love someone and touch ourselves, and it feels great. In fact, this mentality is problematic.

Ruthless indifference is not to hurt others, but to protect yourself ... The purpose is not to hurt others, but it really hurts others. There is no need to make such an excuse. Please take care!

Is the thorn on the rose for self-protection or for stabbing others? The thorn on the rose itself is to protect itself, but those who love the rose will be stabbed if they get too close to the rose, and so will we!

I want to lose weight, not for beauty, but for health. I think the shell fiber is very good. Go to the slimming mall to see how your effect is.

Fitness is not about losing weight. It's for health! Haha, it's very simple. If you really want to exercise your body better and get a tall, strong, capable, well-proportioned, chic and graceful figure and physique, according to my personal successful experience, I suggest you modify your exercise method and adopt the following overall exercise methods:

The first thing is to get into the habit of getting up 40 to 60 minutes early in the morning;

Second, after getting up in the morning, go out for a run and run your body to a slight heat, which is a necessary preparation before exercise every morning;

Third, do broadcast gymnastics, or learn simple martial arts routines or some basic movements of practicing martial arts. Note: the first time you learn martial arts, you don't need spiritual similarity, but you must pursue similarity. In order to ensure that your gestures conform to the martial arts practitioners' shots;

Fourth, when exercising every morning, after taking a deep breath, try to shout at the sky in one breath (it can exercise, improve vital capacity, self-confidence and voice). Do more in-situ take-off, in-situ take-off and touchdown, run-up take-off and touchdown every day (which can effectively promote the growth of your body, the strength and beauty of muscles in all parts, and at the same time improve your jumping ability, explosive power, endurance, running speed and starting speed), and do more exercises on horizontal bars and parallel bars (preferably reaching or exceeding the physical training standards of high school);

The fifth is to prepare a cup of boiled water before going to bed every day. The first thing after getting up in the morning is to add some hot water to cold boiled water and drink it on an empty stomach (one is to dilute the blood viscosity in the body after sleep; Second, it is beneficial to avoid the bad state of insufficient blood supply and oxygen supply during exercise; Third, it has the function of cleaning up the garbage in the body, improving the digestive function of the body, which is beneficial to how much meat, especially how much gluten; Fourth, it can eliminate all kinds of physical discomfort that may occur when you get up in the morning. After getting up on an empty stomach in the morning, you must drink more than 400ml every time.

Sixth, be sure to eat well every morning and at noon. Chicken, duck and fish can be eaten at will. However, dinner: First, it is best to eat less or no pasta (steamed bread, bread, noodles, biscuits, snacks, etc. ); Second, it is best to eat less chicken, duck and fish; Third, just eat well and don't eat too much. Because these three things are the most favorable conditions for long meat, you must control them well, so as not to form the main reason why too much intake leads to long fat meat (fat meat) without gluten (lean meat);

Seventh, two hours after dinner, you can go out for a walk, do push-ups, hang the horizontal bar and parallel bars, or do handstands, push-ups and sit-ups at home and in the dormitory until your body is hot, and then increase your exercise after you get used to it. Note: Before the age of 23, you can't do weightlifting and ultra-intense exercise (including push-pull rod, weight-bearing exercise and squat), which will affect your height and cause obesity in your legs. Remember! Remember!

Eight, go to Xinhua Bookstore and online to buy or download some books on physical exercise and martial arts physical protection and protection, as well as the technical essentials, precautions and martial arts routines of physical exercise, and then carry out specific exercise and implementation.

Above, your perseverance.

As long as you can stick to it for a long time and form such a living habit. Especially if you can exercise strictly according to rules 4, 5 and 6, I believe you will see the effect in two or three months.

If you can persist for a long time, you will certainly develop yourself into a tall, capable, handsome, elegant, graceful and graceful situation in less than three to five years, and the elegance of the seven fairies is revealed in your gestures, so that all the handsome guys and beautiful women around you like to be sought after. Wouldn't it be better?

Wish you success!

Why are some scheming bitches for money and profit, and some scheming bitches for their own imbalance and revenge on others? Because they are either insecure, loveless, or short of money ... Anyway, all the scheming bitches I have ever met are all alone in the end. ...

Some people say it's not to make money but to be happy? It is common for ordinary people to work hard and study to make money. After all, food, clothing, housing and transportation all need money.

Of course, it cannot be ruled out that some people are not trying to make money but to be happy. For example, Ma Yun and Chen Vernier.

A friend who steals someone else's car but doesn't sell it is playing with the law. Whatever your purpose is, as long as you break the law, you will be punished!

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