Why does the old saying say, "It is better to live next to the grave than to face it"?

There are many old sayings circulating in the countryside so far. Thousands of years' experience as ancestors embodies the wisdom of ancestors. It's not superstition, it's wisdom accumulated in practice, but it's just put on some mysterious coats, which makes people have superstitious fantasies. In fact, as long as you know the truth, you will feel infinitely useful.

For example, there is an old saying that "it is better to be next to the grave than to face it". There used to be a story: in a family, the owner always felt that his luck was bad, his business was going downhill, and his family was riddled with diseases, so the owner found a fortune teller and hoped to tell his fortune. The fortune teller calculated a divination on the spot and said, "There is a grave in the southeast of your gate. Just dig it. "

The master thought, no, there is no grave in the southeast of his house. The fortune teller said you should think again. The master thought about it, but still saidno. The fortune teller said, "Think far." On second thought, the master suddenly realized that there was indeed a grave in the southeast, a few miles away from home. The owner spent a lot of money to ask someone to move the grave, and then he was really lucky.

The story itself is about the fortune teller fooling people, because in the southeast of almost all families in rural areas, if there is no distance limit, you can find graves. However, this story also illustrates a truth, how much psychological effect has on people. As the saying goes, a letter is not a letter. If you firmly believe that doing one thing can change you, then the effect of constant hypnosis is very powerful.

Looking back, why does the old saying in the countryside say that "it is better to live in front of the grave than to live in front of it"? In rural areas, especially in mountainous rural areas, many graves are close to the village and may be close to a family. However, if you don't see it often, even if you live close to the grave, the influence of many people is limited. However, if the grave is in the opposite direction of our house and you can see it every day when you go out, the impact on people will be obvious in the long run.

Imagine being in a good mood when you open the door to welcome a new day every day, but seeing a grave standing opposite you will probably affect your mood. People with strong concentration may be fine, but people with weak concentration often pop up in their minds. As the saying goes, "out of sight is clean", people don't want to calm down every day. Every day, my mood is affected and I am unhappy. In the long run, people have a high probability of getting sick and their health is worrying.

In addition, there is an old saying that "there is water in front of the grave and behind the house, and you will not return home". When you arrive at the grave, your relatives and friends will definitely be afraid of influence, so you rarely go, and people will have less wealth and opportunities, and people-to-people communication will also be affected for a long time. In short, it is very unfavorable.

Of course, this sentence does not mean that "next to the grave" is good, and "facing the grave" is not good. On the contrary, many people prefer "next to the grave" to "facing the grave", at least they won't see it every day when they go out.

As the saying goes, "it is better to live next to the grave than to live opposite" is not superstition. What our ancestors want to tell us is how much psychological influence it has on a person. For example, a person who is good at self-encouragement will be very strong, optimistic and passionate inside, so it is difficult for such a person to succeed. And a person who often denies himself and is depressed and pessimistic will not only affect his fortune, his life and work, but also do great harm to his health.

Many proverbs are like this, which is the crystallization of the wisdom of our ancestors for thousands of years. Just to see if we can really understand them. If we can't understand them, they will become superstitions, and if we understand the truth, we will benefit immensely.