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Do not persuade people to divorce (transfer)

Bai Fei:

Siming has a scholar named Godinney. Every time he goes to school, he passes a land temple. One day, the temple in the temple dreamed that God said to him, "When the champion Ge passed by, I must stand up. Please build a barrier for me and cover it. "

According to God's command, the temple is preparing to start construction. On this day, he dreamed that God told him, "Don't build it. Ge Sheng wrote a divorce letter on behalf of others, and his reputation was broken. " It turned out that a fellow countryman wanted to divorce his wife and could not write, so he called Ge Sheng as a ghost writer. I didn't expect this to hit Ford so hard. When Ge Sheng realized the truth, he felt very regretful and tried his best to make the couple get back together. Later, he won the list, and as an official, he only served as an agreement.

Ge Sheng committed the crime of estrangement, and the husband and wife were at odds. Someone should persuade them to make up. In fact, writing a divorce letter is in favor of other people's family breakdown. This result will not bring happiness to both husband and wife, so it is very unfavorable to Ford. At first, Ge Sheng had Fu De, who won the first prize in the exam. The temple god had to stand up and pay tribute, but after writing the divorce letter, his reputation was broken and the temple god was too lazy to pay attention to him. Therefore, the induction is rapid, and every word and deed has cause and effect. If you accumulate virtue and do good, people will become more and more noble, while if you create evil and harm others, people will become very humble.

During the Shunzhi period of the Qing Dynasty, there was a filial piety in Zhejiang. His friend is greedy for someone's wife's beauty and wants to possess her. Xiaolian advised him to spread gossip and provoke his husband, saying that his wife was having an affair with an outsider. Hearing this, the man decided to divorce his wife, so he discussed it with Xiaolian, who helped him write a divorce certificate. The draft was written, and the man copied it and left. At this time, a pen seller came and Xiaolian went to buy a pen. When he came back, the manuscript was gone. Later, he took the exam and entered the examination room with a pen. Unexpectedly, the draft of the divorce certificate fell out of the pen tube. The searched person found it was cheating. He shouted injustice in front of the invigilator and was finally punished and removed from the list.

Both of the above situations are related to destroying people's marriage or participating in destroying people's marriage, which will soon reduce the fortune. Investigate its reason, let's do some analysis:

There are two kinds of relationships between all beings: harmony and separation. According to the theory of discrimination, the common feeling of all sentient beings is to increase each other's upper edge. When they are in harmony with each other, they are in a good state of flow, which is beneficial to both sides. If the relationship between them deteriorates and deviates from each other, it must be mutual loss. And because the industry has increased, there is no reconciliation. In the infinite life and death, both of them are rebellious. Therefore, our intention is that couples, brothers, friends, fathers and sons, ministers and ministers all over the world can live in harmony with each other and all living things can live in harmony with each other. If all beings are in conflict, I am glad that they are unwilling. What did they do from it? Being a murderer who destroys the relationship between people will have serious consequences.

In interpersonal relationships, husband and wife are important. Destroying the relationship between husband and wife will do great harm to Ford. On the surface, it's just that two people are separated. In fact, once the relationship breaks down, it is difficult to be around for the second time, causing deep pain for both sides. And with the breakdown of the family, a series of interpersonal relationships will be damaged, such as father and son, mother and child, in-laws, etc. The whole set will be damaged. For example, the family is like a combined machine, which will run when it is not broken, and will play a role to avoid the consequences of deformity. Once broken, it will become incomplete like a machine, which will cause defects for children, parents and themselves. So the cause and effect is a heavy industrial debt.

We are unlikely to deliberately provoke the relationship between husband and wife, but we may feel that we can't destroy a harmonious couple, but in a family where husband and wife quarrel all day, it is better to break up and regroup. In fact, this is already alienating the industry. Why? Because this is a heart that gloats and wants to break people's hearts. People are determined by their careers, and fate goes with them. If you don't do it, you won't meet, and what you have done won't be in vain, so you can't force it because of personal separation.

For example, marriage is meant to be:

At the end of the Song Dynasty, there was a Linchuan man named Wang. His wife was snatched away by soldiers of the Yuan Dynasty, and she died because she kept her virginity and refused to yield. After more than ten years, Wang wanted to marry again, but he never succeeded. One night, he dreamed that his dead wife told him that I was born in a family and I was seventeen years old. In seven years, I will marry you. The next day, he sent someone to look for it, and it happened. He cut to the chase, made a polite engagement, and succeeded in one sentence. Therefore, the marriage of husband and wife is predestined, and there are two kinds of marriages, namely, good karma and bad karma. If it comes from good karma, the concept of harmony will not stop until you get married. If it comes from bad karma, the feeling of resentment will not stop until it is over, and both will change with karma. In this way, we know that marriage cannot be destroyed by manpower. If it's a good fate, I just hope it can last. If it's bad karma, I just hope it can be resolved. This kind of intention is good and can produce good results. On the contrary, if you use the wrong heart, you do it for the good of the other person. May it be broken and you be evil to each other. I'm glad it will break. This is evil and will hurt your fortune. Therefore, under any circumstances, there is no alienation, and there can only be one kind of heart, that is, I hope everyone can make up.

It says that the relationship between husband and wife cannot be alienated, and so on. All ethical relationships, such as brothers, friends, teachers and students, master and servant, cannot be singled out for alienation. If you use alienation, the consequences will be very serious.

The above text was transferred from the Third Lecture of Bodhi Daoism, which was narrated by Dakanbuyi Xipengcuo.

As Buddhists, we actually sometimes can't see divorce clearly. If there is no special explanation, I used to think that the two sides have been at odds, and I should leave each other when I leave. I may even think that such a divorce is good for both sides. However, Kampo has already preached the meaning that persuading people to divorce is actually a bad thing. Therefore, as a Buddhist, we should tear down a temple instead of a home, as the ancients said (this is also a neutral proposition).

I think I used to agree to others' divorce, but now I repent repeatedly in front of all buddhas and bodhisattvas, and I will persuade them repeatedly in the future for any divorce.

Emerald:

There was such a discussion. Thank you, Brother Bai Fei, for your kindness. However, there is one thing I don't understand. Since it is fate, why are there several marriages in the picture of life? For example, my friend, the fortune teller said that she had been married twice or more. So, are there two marriages in fate? Isn't this against fate?

Tashi Dorje:

I think what Brother Pu Yu and Brother Bai Fei said is right. Since all laws cannot be divorced from the law of cause and effect, marriage cannot be ruled out. Multiple marriages do not violate the law of cause and effect. Whether you maintain a marriage or break it up, you will receive your own results in the future. The purpose of Kampo's enlightenment here is to tell people that no matter whether marriage ends in good or bad karma, we should try our best to maintain it and let the karma run out. Otherwise, old karma will be left behind (good or bad), and new karma will be created (definitely bad karma), which of course cannot be an increase. In addition, the causal relationship is very subtle, and only the Buddha can fully understand it. It is not reliable to reveal it by fortune-telling in the world.

I also want to say that in addition to the factors of past life karma, from the perspective of the world, we can look at this problem like this:

Marriage is a matter for two people. The woman herself is radiant, shining on her husband's body and mind.

This man, under this light every day, gradually becomes disgraceful, which is inevitable.

This man, in front of his wife, has no feeling of being needed. The only place where he can feel the value of existence is children. This is also the reason why he refused to give up the child.

Even so, I believe that this man's love for his wife has never changed. However, between him and his wife, he suddenly lost the way of communication.

If we find this way of communication, everything will change back to its original position and trajectory.

Who can say that this kind of communication will never be found?

Therefore, as an outsider, don't persuade others to divorce at any time and for any reason.