Engagement etiquette in Changxing county

In the old society, marriage was decided by parents. On the basis of successful matching, the central matchmaker will send the man's birthday to the woman's house first, and the woman's house will ask someone to sign it and notify the man within half a month to January. If the woman's parents agree, the man will ask the woman for a "month" and get the "eight characters" of the man's fortune telling. Only when the "eight characters" of both men and women are combined can we choose an auspicious day for the engagement ceremony. Give the lucky money to the man's family, which is called "Give the lucky money to the woman's family". The unmarried daughter-in-law will come to the door and be accompanied by the next of kin. The elders give "meeting money", which is commonly known as "calling Yue" in places like Liu Xing. When the condition of the female family is good, the unmarried son-in-law is also invited to the door, and the elders also give "meeting money", but it is slightly lower than that of the male family. After buying clothes, the man's family will send money to the woman's family to buy clothes, and the woman's family will prepare a dowry. Hengsha is ok. The man's family gives gifts to the woman's family according to the annual festival. When getting married, the man usually holds a banquet for three days. On the first night of pouring wine for the matchmaker, a banquet is held to invite the matchmaker. This is called pouring wine for the matchmaker. The day after the wedding, the groom took a group of people and greeted the bride at the woman's house with wooden trolleys or sedan chairs. The bride cried when she went out, saying that she counted pearls to make her rich, and at the same time she was carrying a dowry. The bride went to the man's house before dark. Go to the men's house, go to the first one. The bride has to pass the "three lights" and then enter the house alternately with two bags. This is called "Dai". After entering the house, we will hold a wedding, pay homage, enter the bridal chamber, sit on the bed, eat and enjoy the reunion. After the banquet, you should make trouble in the new house and say, "Three days without age, uncles can make trouble." The waiting period and the third day of ancestor worship are "waiting period" and "ancestor worship" As the saying goes, "there is a family banquet at home, and it is like a family to worship the ancestors." "Meet the elders, who gave the gift. On the fourth day of the full moon, the newlyweds go back to the woman's house together to visit their parents, which is called "receiving the full moon". When the local bride gets married, the woman's family still needs "stomachache money" and "diaper money". When the bride comes home, Changxing will choose a double date, which is called "Ji Man Ri". Those who get married on a four-person date will return home overnight, often late at night. Hengsha returns to the door in the Three Kingdoms. There are interesting things about new houses and public places. The newlyweds of the two islands also plant evergreen flowers and trees together on their wedding day (or the next day), symbolizing the loyalty of love and growing old together.