What is giving up?

Sadness is more terrible than heart death.

Before a relationship can reach the end, countless moments of disappointment are squeezed into knots, so that even the last moment, no matter how insignificant, may become a straw to crush a camel.

What is giving up?

That is, you have no illusions about a person, don't want to waste any time and energy on the other person, and even have no strength to quarrel.

From caring for each other to parting ways, there must be many bad moments that we are not aware of. If we don't look for details from each other's emotional experiences, how can we have a better intimate relationship?

Share with you today what it feels like to let the other person give up on you.

1. Bad check

"When I have money, I will take you to the best restaurant, stay in the most luxurious hotel and travel around the world!"

"On the weekend, let's go to the park you've always wanted to go for an outing and set up a tent for a picnic!"

"This year's birthday, I want to send you a most surprising gift!"

It sounds like a beautiful blueprint, but once expectations are full, it is difficult for people to accept disappointment and disappointment.

Looks like a promise. If it doesn't come true, it will become a bad check. The speaker is not interested in listening. After waiting for a day and a night, I finally found that it was all empty talk. Only when they are true, the taste is not as good as it was at the beginning.

2. Silent communication

"Every time I have something new to share with him, he doesn't return my WeChat. I thought he was busy with work and had no time, but later I found that he was just too lazy to return. "

"There is almost no communication between us. He is either playing a game or brushing a video. Talking to him is like casting pearls before swine. "

"As long as I do something that is not suitable for her, she will ignore me. No matter how much I coax, cold treatment is poison to feelings. "

Feelings can't stand the cold, cold will be cold, people can't stand the cold, and cold will give up.

Once we reduce the desire to communicate in front of the other half or replace the answer with silence, then our feelings begin to decline. Maybe one day the other party can't wait and chooses to leave.

You think there is no big contradiction between each other, but it is these poorly handled communication that crush love.

3. Not recognized

"We have been together for 3 years and have never seen him send a circle of friends. Do I really make him too much? "

"Once we went out for a walk after dinner, we were holding hands, and suddenly he let go. When I saw his colleague opposite, I said that I was afraid that my colleague would see a bad influence. What's the bad influence? I just wanted to set up a person. "

What does it feel like not being recognized by the other half?

Probably talked about a love, like being a thief, like sneaking around, like cheating, never brought each other into their own circles, and never planned each other into their future lives.

We are all adults, why do we have to go behind everyone's back when we are in love?

Those who don't openly admit their irresponsibility will break the other half's heart sooner or later.

4. "ordinary friends"

"He transferred 520 yuan to that girl, but told me that she was just an ordinary friend ..."

"I am tired of his circle of friends. Every time those ambiguous information tips make me feel like a knife, but his excuse is always: ordinary friends. "

"When she was eating, she kept chatting with others on WeChat. She watches her mobile phone three times a minute for fear of missing the news or being slow. I asked her and she told me that she was an ordinary friend. "

How common are "ordinary friends"?

Ordinary enough that you are willing to spend time and energy to please, smile and pay the price.

In fact, your little trick is not impeccable, but the other half has chosen to forgive.

However, there are limits to their concessions. If you repeatedly test the bottom line of ta, people will only leave without looking back.

Feelings will not go bad overnight, and people's hearts will not get cold instantly. Every time I "die", I sprinkle salt on ta's wound.