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Marriage Customs in Shixing County, Shaoguan, Guangdong Province

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First of all, wedding equipment

The marriage of villagers in Donghu Ping, Shixing County is very particular and grand. There are many instruments used, and they are arranged strictly and orderly. Most of the utensils are made of finely carved wood and painted with gold. The specific equipment and order of the wedding team is roughly like this:

(1) with wine. A lucky man with many children carried a wooden "crane pot dragon" and put a clay pot full of sweet glutinous rice wine. At the other end is a wooden chicken coop with in-laws chicken, meatballs, firecrackers, bacon and 10 eggs (only 1 0 eggs can be taken, and the remaining 9 eggs can be taken back).

(2) color enhancement. Two boys aged l4 and l5 each carry a red cloth flag, which is about 1.9 meters long and 0.3 meters wide.

(3) Dragon and phoenix candles. 1 The young man took a pair of dragon, phoenix and red wedding candles. Candles are red, with dragons and phoenixes and happy characters.

(4) playing gongs. By 1 lucky man carrying a large and a small to touch the gong, while walking, the voice is "hug, touch, hug, touch".

(5) Eight tones. Eight drummers, each with 1 musical instrument: drum, gong, cymbal, Gao Hu, banhu, suona, Qin Yue, flute, etc. , played all the way.

(6) matchmaker. A wooden sedan chair carried by two people is covered with tarpaulin to shade the sun. It is called "Cape Peng Li". The matchmaker in the sedan chair took the little boy who wanted to get an extra red envelope.

(7) The groom's sedan chair. A wooden sedan chair carried by four people. Similar to today's bamboo chairs.

(8) sedan chair. Four or eight people carried the bride's sedan chair.

(9) gunner. A lucky man with a "cannon" fired three shots when he left the man's house and his mother's house.

(10) Yuancheng wine. Two lucky people chose two cars of original good wine. One of them is reserved for the bride to take back to the man's house to drink when she gives birth to a child.

(1 1) mention the prisoner's reed. Two lucky people carried a wooden container with the bottom sample of 1:3, in which a whole pig with its internal organs removed was put, and the whole body of the pig was painted red.

(12) food basket. A man with a good life carries a burden, and there are several gifts such as rice cakes with good conditions.

(13) basket. A lucky person will bring one or more packages of gifts, such as fruits, peanuts and rice cakes.

(14) chicken house. The number of chickens, geese and ducks carried by a lucky person is generally 12 and 16. Numbers 3, 4, 7 and 8 are not allowed.

(15) Send a dowry. The woman's family sent many people to pick and deliver footbath, urinal, mosquito net, quilt, dragon (wooden box) and so on. There are many gifts and many people to bear, but the number must be even.

Sedan chair is the most important tool for marriage. It is a cuboid. Generally, the height is1.88m, and the width is 0.55m to 0.66m. A padded roof. Using exquisite carving arts such as through carving, round carving, intaglio carving and relief, various patterns and auspicious words are carved and pasted with gold foil. It looks solemn and magnificent. On the top of the sedan chair is painted a red cirrus cloud like a "black hat", which means soaring. Couplets are engraved on the front door of the car body, the content is unknown, and they are all auspicious words. The patterns include Yuanyang playing in the water, Guanyin sending the son, the champion and his younger brother, Mei Zhu (Four Seasons Peace), bats, running deer, bees, monkeys, elephants (meaning blessing, wealth and sealing the auspicious future), cypress trees (longevity) and birds (Baijue). I hope the official will give me a title, not a back alley. There are pomegranates (many children), even lotus flowers (twins), bergamot (five children in the family go to school) and so on.

The groom usually wears a hat, robe, mandarin jacket and black cloth shoes. The bride wears a rockhopper and various silver pins, floral ornaments, pins, multi-treasure strings, red sedan chair shirts, red pleated embroidered skirts, red embroidered ropas, red embroidered shoes and red embroidered cloud shoulders.

Second, marriage customs.

Most of the Hakkas in Shixing County migrated from Fujian, Jiangxi and Meizhou in Guangdong during the Ming and Qing Dynasties. Because they didn't migrate from the same place at the same time, their marriage customs are different, and they have their own marriage customs. As the saying goes, a hundred miles is different from the wind and a hundred miles is different from the customs. However, when they moved to the same place and lived together with their local ancestors, their marriage habits influenced and infiltrated each other.

From the Qing Dynasty to the Republic of China, the marriage of Donghu Ping in Shixing County was arranged by parents. The average marriage age of men is 16 to 18, and that of women is 13 to 16. Some people marry kannika nimtragol, that is, they raise other people's little daughters and stay as daughters-in-law when they grow up, commonly known as child brides. Some buy back their handmaids, stay with them as little wives, or get married when they grow up, depending on the needs of the main family. If there are triplets, it is to find a matchmaker to introduce a baby girl to the home and raise it first, and then get married when a son grows up.

Marriage customs from the Qing Dynasty to the Republic of China mainly experienced the following stages:

Set the age. The age of the year is decided by the parents of both men and women according to the agreement of the matchmaker. Please ask the matchmaker to act as matchmaker first, otherwise the matchmaker will take the initiative to act as matchmaker. After mediation by the matchmaker, the parents of both men and women initially think that the conditions of both sides are OK, or "suitable for each other". The man asked the matchmaker to go to the woman's house and got her "age", that is, the time when the woman was born. Then, the man sent the ages of both men and women to the fortune teller to calculate the "ranking eight characters", that is, "He Kun" and "Ding Niangeng". Let's see if the hostess is good, whether it is "mutual birth" or "mutual control". The fortune-teller wrote according to The Complete Book of Wedding and Funeral System, "A white horse is afraid of a green cow, and once the sheep and rats retreat. Snakes and tigers are like knives, and dragons and rabbits communicate with tears. " A golden rooster is afraid of five dogs, and a pig and a monkey can't make it to the end. "Such as the so-called" criminal phase "standard to identify the truth of the phase. Any woman who finds a tiger or a sheep will get married and become a widow. For example, Yuan pilgrims are considered to be "a natural couple" and can get married. If there is "mutual help", you can turn adversity into luck and make a fortune in Qin Jin's time by giving fortune tellers more red envelopes. If the fortune teller has a plan and fails to achieve his goal, then no matter how good the zodiac is, it will not last for a hundred years. The so-called "the male character is not fake, and the female character is not true." A woman's horoscope can be pushed back and forth until she is combined with a man. In the late Republic of China, the "meeting" began. After the fortune-teller confirmed that the two were in agreement, both men and women, under the arrangement of the matchmaker, took their parents to meet in a suitable place, mostly on the day of the party. After the meeting, it doesn't matter whether the two sides are willing or not, but the parents have the final say. Say yes, but no, no, young men and women have no right to decide. Parents or matchmakers of both sides manage their lives well, that is, they pay a "down payment" to the woman, commonly known as engagement.

Engagement is a gift from the man's family to the woman's family. Both sides can bargain on the gift money. There are big and small gifts. Dading has rich deposits and more "gifts". The gift of 1 is silver 16 yuan. 1 Give gifts to the few and give gifts to the many. Generally 8: 00 to/kloc-0: 00. But some have the number "3". You can use the numbers 3, 4 and 5 to mean "three cardinal guides and five permanents" and "three obedience and four virtues". Such as pork 300 kg, rice 400 kg, 500 yuan. More pork is carried by prisoners' baskets, and less pork is selected by food grids. Besides pork, there are wine, rice, chicken, duck, goose and all kinds of rice cakes. After the woman's family received the deposit, she invited her in-laws to have a meal and told everyone that her daughter was engaged. If the woman reneges on this marriage, she must redeem the "Niangeng" from the man's family and return all the gifts before the marriage can be dissolved.

After the engagement, the man chooses a specific wedding date, uses all the stickers, and prepares wine and meat gifts for the woman's home.

After engagement, the woman will be busy making wedding gifts, such as embroidered handkerchiefs, embroidered shirts, embroidered skirts, embroidered shoes and so on. The younger ones are all helped by relatives such as mothers, aunts and sisters-in-law. The woman's family is busy preparing all kinds of dowry, while the man's family prepares all kinds of property and utensils in the room. Both families are busy with their marriage. Generally speaking, the woman should know how much the bride price of the man is, and the man should also buy the corresponding dowry to accompany her. If one party can't honor it, both sides can't understand it, and there will be contradictions when welcoming the bride, and even "in-laws become enemies." This is a very individual phenomenon. Of course, there are also some men who are more than women as compensation for women. It depends on the financial situation of the man's family. There is a local saying that "the superior family pays to marry a woman, the middle family pays to marry a woman, and the inferior family makes money to marry a woman" is a good example. After a period of time, the two sides thought that the property of marriage was available, so they asked Mr. Feng Shui to choose "auspicious day of the ecliptic", and after obtaining the consent of the woman's family, they issued an invitation to treat guests. Weddings are often held in the off-season in winter, which is called wedding reception.

The wedding ceremony is that the man goes to the woman's house to pick up the bride. In the morning or afternoon before the wedding, the matchmaker takes a "Peng Li sedan chair" to lead the way from the man's house, and delivers food such as pork, chicken, goose, fish, wine and other gifts and cash gifts agreed by both men and women to the woman's house, which is called "delivering wine and meat" or "unpacking boxes". The matchmaker stayed at the woman's house for one night and took the bride and others to the man's house the next day. Before dinner, guests from both sides should go to the home of both men and women to have dinner together, which is called "Qi Ke". After dinner, the man put the fire bucket lit with charcoal and awn stalks into the sedan chair and took it out after a while, which is called "warm sedan chair". In the early hours of the night when the rooster crows, or at the time designated by the fortune teller, a ceremony of "combing the hair" will be held for women to show their marriage. Burn a pair of big red candles in the ancestral hall, with five colors of red, blue, yellow, cyan and black, wrap rouge and gouache in handkerchiefs, and two fertilized boiled eggs. After setting off firecrackers, a lucky woman or the bride's mother rolls eggs up and down on the bride's face, commonly known as "opening her face". Then comb the bride's hair, and the bride sits on the bench with her face facing east, saying auspicious words while combing her hair, such as "one comb is long, two combs are long, three combs pass through the column", "one comb is long, life is good", "one comb is left, one comb is right, and five sons are admitted to the exam, which is the top scholar", "the hair is long and long, and the early birth of your son is the top scholar" and so on. After combing, insert headdresses such as silver indenter flower, double-character silver flat hairpin and silver needle paper flower. Wearing a collar includes locks, bowls, men's and women's shoes, bells, knives, scissors, triangular rulers, square tables and other small and exquisite decorations, commonly known as "multi-treasure strings" and wearing earrings. Before dawn, the bride finished dressing and went back to the boudoir to wait for her marriage (some returned to the boudoir to comb their hair after setting off firecrackers in the ancestral temple). At this time, peel two eggs for the bride to eat. The little girl wore braids when she was thirteen or fourteen, and didn't comb her hair until she got married. They comb their hair more frequently, but less frequently. If a child bride marries, it is called "superior". A woman can't shave before marriage, but she can twist her face hair with thread after marriage.

On the morning of the wedding, the woman's family must first send the dowry to the man's family. The higher-grade dowry is called "Haitanghong", which consists of 24 dragons (big wooden boxes), flower beds, dressing tables and two square tables. On the table, the bride and groom's clothes, shoes and hats and other complete sets of clothes, cabinets, high and low chairs, washstand, ancient bucket (urine bucket) and thousand sun pots (footbath) are placed. The Dragon is full of clothes and bedding. Some of them are "three blue and three hot" fabrics, and three blue fabrics are sold in the market, also called guest fabrics, which are shipped from other places and sold locally. "Three heat" refers to three pieces of linen woven by local farmers, also known as "home machine cloth" and "hot cloth". Low-level dowry generally has 2, 4 or 6 "dragons", and there are few other things. At the same time, the bride's younger brother and sister were sent to the man's house to "invite" the groom to visit her parents-in-law and other relatives, and then take back the bride, commonly known as the turnstile. At this time, the groom walked to the woman's house with the wedding team such as Bayinban, blowing and joking. The total number of people in the team must be single when they go, and even when they come back, which means "yes man".

After the "wedding team" had lunch and dinner in advance at the woman's house, the groom left the woman's house accompanied by the best man, waiting for the arrival of the bride. Then, the bride wore a dazzling headdress, a string of jewels around her neck, embroidered clouds on her shoulders, a red sedan chair shirt, embroidered red skirt, embroidered red cloth shoes and an embroidered red handkerchief on her head. Mostly at dusk. Before going out, the bride sadly "cried goodbye" to her parents, grandparents and other elders and brothers and sisters in the private room. While crying, she said that she could not forget the kindness of her parents, the brotherhood of her brothers and sisters, how she missed them with concern after leaving, and hoped that they would take good care of themselves in the future, and so on. At this time, parents and others will comfort and warn their daughters that when a man is old and a woman is old, they should honor their parents-in-law and brothers and uncles and be harmonious when they arrive at the man's house. At the same time, as soon as the bride kneels to say goodbye to her relatives, they will hand her a red envelope when they help her up. After saying goodbye, the parents put the embroidered Ropa on the bride's head. The bride was carried by her brother or younger brother (or cousin or brother of a well-off family in the village), left home to say goodbye to her ancestors in the hall (ancestral hall), then carried to the gate and sent to the sedan chair. Never let the bride land on the way, otherwise it will be considered unlucky. This is the "wedding custom of elder brother carrying younger sister to sedan chair" which is still popular among local people (see later).

After the bride gets on the sedan chair, the sedan chair bearer locks the sedan chair door and hangs "gossip" on the sedan chair to show evil spirits and bless peace and good luck. Then, accompanied by the bridesmaids and the music of the Eight Music Classes, I happily carried the sedan chair to the men's house. Some people say that the sedan chair door key is brought by the sedan chair bearer, while others say that only the matchmaker can stop at the man's door to unlock it. No matter how far the journey is or what happens, you can't untie it. Otherwise, the man will be held accountable, make trouble, or even break off diplomatic relations. There is a saying called "sedan chair, the sedan chair bearer is in the sedan chair, no matter whether the bride poops or urinates", which can explain the importance of the sedan chair door not being opened. If you meet the bride's sedan chair of another wedding team on the way, the two brides will exchange handkerchiefs from the sedan chair window to show their good luck and happiness. If the woman's house is too far away from the man's house, the man's house will send someone with a torch to meet the bride halfway and show the way to the wedding procession. When the bride is carried to the parking lot in front of the man's house, she has to be "served" for a while. All the men, women and children in the village gathered around to watch. There are ancient auspicious couplets posted at the gate, such as "Seeing a wife as a good wife, a strange man will have a husband from now on", "Jade Hall has two walls, and there are thousands of precious trees", "A hundred years of songs are good, but five generations are not prosperous" and so on. There are four words with male and female surnames, such as "Ceng Li married" and "Zeng Zhang married". If you marry a woman, couplets are often written as "celebrities like to marry, talented women like to meet talented people", and they are horizontally approved as "spring embroidery pavilion" and so on. The gunner fired three shots as soon as the bride entered the door. The sedan chair bearer opened the door. Two lucky women (must be the original wife, full of children and grandchildren) lead the bride out of the sedan chair, which is called "leading relatives". At the same time, another lucky woman is holding a "rice sieve" (bamboo products, originally used to sieve rice) on the bride's head, with symbols drawn by wooden ruler, soybean, Yijing, onion, Shu Tong or fortune teller, which means to know books as a gift, ward off evil spirits and give birth to a baby early, which means that you are smart and promising. Entrust men's good wishes, commonly known as "supporting the screen."

The bride was led to the gate and could not go in at once. You must wait for the fortune teller standing at the gate to finish the "seal" ceremony before you can go in. The fortune teller holds a sword or a kitchen knife in his right hand and catches a rooster in his left. He muttered to himself ... The gods will go to heaven and the demons will hide in the ground. If there are evil spirits and demons, chickens will bear this heavy responsibility. "After reading it, cut a little off the rooster's crown with a knife and drop the chicken's blood on the threshold. This is called" chopping ". It means that along the way, the bride will inevitably bring all kinds of "evil spirits", which will be eliminated by slashing. Then, the bride was brought into the ancestral hall to worship her ancestors with the groom. Dragon, phoenix and red incense are lit on both sides of the ancestral temple altar. After paying homage to their ancestors, the two sides entered the bridal chamber and closed the door. The groom patted the bride's head three times with a ruler, then lifted Ropa and drank the bride's wine together. Knocking on the bride's head means "hitting" her, so that she can't be violent and lose her temper when she gets married. About 65,438+00 minutes later, the cave door opened and the women were ordered to help the bride "make the bed". While making the bed, they said auspicious words, such as "laying a stalk, laying an egg" (straw was used as a mattress), "a mosquito net has four corners, and the bride gives birth to a table (eight children)" and "a pillow is pricked three times, and she wakes up once. There is a red envelope for the bed-maker in the bill. At the same time, a group of children broke into the new house and asked for candy. There must be an elf boy who found a red envelope in the urine bucket of the bridal chamber and then peed in the urine bucket, indicating that the bride had a baby. Then have dinner in the hall. Dinner is called "dinner", which is rich in dishes, including sea cucumber, chicken, fish, meatballs, squid, plum beans, spring (eggs), insects, vermicelli, braised pork and so on. (Ten big and ten small), and "four dishes and eight bowls" l2, 14, 14. Before eating, the bride takes a piece of cloth to arrange a seat for the most senior person in the family and guests, which is called "sitting seat", that is, symbolically wiping the seat, putting chopsticks on it, pouring wine, then bowing to the seated person and asking him or her to sit on the seat. Generally, the elders are in class and the younger generation is in class. During the dinner, the wife took the bride to the lobby to introduce her daughter-in-law, and frequently poured wine for the guests with the bride and groom. The host and the elders who are close relatives of the clan also take turns toasting the foreign guests to show the hospitality of the host family. Eight-tone classes play different music according to different stages of the banquet. The music is cheerful and clear.

Make trouble with the bride after dinner, usually in a private room. The groom and the audience guess boxing, and the loser drinks. The villagers figured out a way to ask the bride and groom to do or say something that made them very embarrassed. If the bride is carrying a long bench, ask others to drink and smoke according to the generation of the bride's son, for example, uncle XXX wants to drink and grandfather XXX wants to smoke. Most of them are open until one or two in the morning. The morning after the wedding, the bride and groom went to the ancestral temple to "pay homage". Put a straw mat in the ancestral hall and kneel on it to worship. Eight-tone class plays "Sacrifice to Heaven", and guests prepare "red envelopes", ranging from several yuan to more than ten yuan. The "master of ceremonies" named the groom's parents, grandparents, uncles and aunts, from in-laws to in-laws, from elders to peers, from old to young, and finally to the matchmaker. Worshipers will say some auspicious words such as "early birth of your son", "twins of your son", "growing old together", "longevity" and "a hundred children and a thousand grandchildren", and then hand in red envelopes. Instead of giving a red envelope, the matchmaker gave the bride the key to the dowry box. After visiting the church, we have a "church visit meal", which is breakfast. After breakfast, everyone leaves separately, which is called "individual traveler". The gifts returned to the guests will depend on the number of gifts sent by the guests. The bride and groom will escort the guests to the door. Finally, send the matchmaker. The gift to the matchmaker depends on the generosity of the host. It's usually a sip of wine, a few kilograms of pork or dozens of kilograms of pork. Give her children a red envelope ranging from a few yuan to dozens of yuan.

After breaking up, the mother, aunt and other close relatives of the woman's family visit the married daughter at the man's house, commonly known as "being two dynasties" or "being three dynasties". One is to visit my daughter, the other is to see the wealth of the man's family, and the third is to see whether the man treats people warmly. Men will treat them with the best wine and meat and stay for one night. There is a local saying, "Get married for three days and two nights". This is the last day of the wedding. 10 days later, the bride went back to her family for 20 days to a month before coming home, commonly known as "new chat".

Third, the legend of marriage.

In Shixing County, there is also a popular wedding custom of elder brother carrying younger sister to sedan chair. The process is roughly as follows:

When the bride gets married, she must first say goodbye to her grandparents, parents, brothers and sisters and other relatives at home. At this moment, she often cries bitterly, that is, to say goodbye to her relatives, to talk about the kindness of her elders, to talk about the brotherhood of her brothers and sisters, to talk about how she can't bear to leave, and so on. Then, the elder brother, younger brother and cousin without brothers carried the bride to the ancestral hall in one breath, told the groom to say goodbye to his ancestors, and then carried it to the gate and put it on the sedan chair parked there. The distance from home to the sedan chair, no matter how far or near, can't let the bride put it on the ground. Otherwise it will be considered unlucky. Now, although the sedan chair is out of date, the custom of elder brother marrying younger sister is still popular. However, when I cried goodbye, I didn't cry as much as before. Some of them are just symbolic expressions. Cars have also been replaced by modern means of transportation, such as bicycles, tractors and cars. So, how did this ancient marriage custom come from? One of the legends is very interesting.

According to legend, during the Three Kingdoms period, Sun Quan, the emperor of Wu, had a sister named Destiny Sun. She was spoiled from childhood and developed an uncompromising character. Her family is a mansion, so she also learned a good martial arts and likes to dance with knives and sticks. The whole family dotes on her, and even the emperor's younger brother Sun Quan should give her some credit. It is often said that the emperor's daughter is not worried about marriage. However, Destiny Sun as beautiful as flowers and pure as jade can't get married. Because her "delicate" reputation has become "famous all over the world", everyone is afraid, and no one in our country dares to ask her to be a wife. Look at her age, there is no matchmaker to visit. Her mother Wu Guotai is worried that her daughter will become an unmarried old maid.

Soon, Zhuge Liang, a strategist in Shu, was very happy to learn the news. In order to unite Wu against Wei, he wanted to marry Liu Bei, who was forty or fifty years old. In this way, Shu and Wu became in-laws, and they were not afraid of the powerful Wei State. Liu Bei was so happy that he couldn't wait to get married at once. But he has a wife, and Destiny Sun is the daughter of Huang Hua, and the sister of the Emperor of Soochow. How can he just marry someone else as a concubine? Liu Bei had no idea, but Zhuge Liang had a well-thought-out plan and sent someone to Wu to find a matchmaker. Wu Guotai, who was worried about her daughter's marriage, originally wanted to find a son-in-law. She was very happy to hear that Liu Bei was the overlord and a talented person, and thought that her daughter had nothing to lose by marrying Liu Bei. He readily agreed to the marriage. On the other hand, Sun Quan knew that it was difficult for his sister to get married. Now that Liu Bei volunteered to visit relatives, he agreed to his mother's request. However, Destiny Sun is no ordinary girl. She is very calculating. I think, if I marry Liu Bei as my little wife, if I don't have a generous dowry, I will be looked down upon and laughed at by the Liu family. So, she was ingenious and came up with a way to ask for a special dowry, and vowed not to marry until she reached her goal.

One day, Destiny Sun said to his mother and brother, "You can propose to me, but Liu Bei doesn't even have a decent place at present. Should I marry him and live a wandering life? " If your mother and daughter are in love, please give me Jingzhou's territory as a dowry. "We settled in Jingzhou after we got married. On the one hand, we can often come back to see my mother, on the other hand, we can't let people look down on me, Destiny Sun! " Sun Quan was greatly annoyed. Without letting his mother talk, he couldn't wait to say, "No, no, you want to fight for the property left by your grandfather before you get married? Hey! " As I said before, Destiny Sun is a man of his word. She must get what she wants, and if she can't get it, she will cry and make a fuss, turning the Sun family upside down. Wu Guotai dotes on her daughter so much that she makes a fuss and nods in agreement. Sun Quan is a famous dutiful son. After seeing her mother's consent, I couldn't think of any way at the moment, so I hurried to Zhou Yu and Lu Su and said, "Your sister is strong-willed. If you don't agree to her request, something will definitely happen. Would you agree? Since ancient times, where has someone cut land for dowry? " Zhou Yu said with a smile, "Since she wants Jingzhou, your master might as well give it to her, as long as you do that ...". Zhou Yu quietly told Sun Quan his thoughts.

On Destiny Sun's wedding day, Sun Quan took out the population book and atlas of Jingzhou and handed them to Destiny Sun in front of Liu Bei who came to marry her, saying, "Sister, brother, marry Jingzhou to you and make it a safe place!" Then, avoiding Liu Bei, she quietly handed the dowry list to Destiny Sun to take with her. After you marry the Liu family, see how they treat you. If it's good for you, we'll hand it over. If it's not good for you, we will never pay it, so as to avoid bad luck in the future. Destiny Sun listened to the truth and put the gift list on him. When it was time to get married, Sun Quan suddenly burst into tears at Sun Jiao. While crying, he said a lot of good things to his sister, saying how he could not bear to leave her, fearing that her sister would suffer from marriage, and hoped that her sister would be happy in the future. I really cried my nose and tears. It is often said that men don't flick when they have tears. Destiny Sun saw and heard his brother cry so sadly that he really touched his feelings. She thinks her brother is always obedient to himself on weekdays, and now he is so generous. She really gave Jingzhou to her as a dowry, and now she wants to break up. She is very worried about her future. Thinking of this, she felt even worse. She couldn't help crying and cried very sadly. She will also talk about how good her mother is to herself, how good she is, how much her brother cares about herself, how much she doesn't want to leave them and so on. At this time, it's time to go out, but Destiny Sun has become a crybaby, in a daze, unable to walk. When Sun Quan saw you, he said, "Sister, my brother raised you since childhood. Now that you are getting married, my brother can't love you anymore. Now let me carry you to the sedan chair and give you a ride, as a brother! " Say that finish, immediately picked up my sister, took the opportunity to steal the dowry list back quietly. Without delay, Sun Quan carried his sister from home to the hall in one breath, then carried her out of the door and put her in a sedan chair. I didn't even stop on the road. As soon as the bride got on the sedan chair, Sun Quan quickly ordered the sedan chair to be locked and not allowed to open the sedan chair door until the man's house. At this time, guns sounded, drums and music played together, and the bride was quickly carried away. Sun Quan breathed a sigh of relief when he saw the fading sedan chair.

After a while, Sun Quan, Zhou Yu and Lu Su agreed to take Jingzhou back. Lu Su was sent to find Liu Bei. After Lu Su explained his purpose, Liu Bei was very unhappy and said, "Didn't Sun Quan say Jingzhou would marry me with her sister? Why should I take it back? " Lu Su smiled and said, "You are mistaken. Sun Quan said that he would lend Jingzhou to you and her sister instead of marrying you. Our host is from Jiangdong. You know Jiangdong people,' borrowing' and' marrying' sound similar. At first, maybe you didn't hear clearly? Please think about it. Since ancient times, who has married his daughter and even married his own land? " The two embraced for a long time, and no one said that they were dissatisfied with each other. Finally, Lu Su said, "Well, you'd better take out the dowry list. It says Jing Ke, I-on it, I will leave Jingzhou to you. If you don't write, Jingzhou will be returned to Zhao intact. How about it? " Liu Bei had no choice but to ask Destiny Sun for a gift list. Who knows, even if they searched the boxes and cabinets, there was no sign of the gift list. I was so anxious that Liu Beizhi stamped his foot. Zhuge Liang smiled when he knew it. He knew that this was Zhou Yu's trick and secretly thought that he must grieve Zhou Yu in the future. This is the reason why Zhuge Liang wants to be Zhou Yu. Zhuge Liang thought that Liu Bei was in a hurry, so he said to Liu Bei and his wife, "Don't look for it, don't look for it, this gift list is still in Soochow!" But don't worry, master. Just borrow it. When a son-in-law borrows something from his mother-in-law, he will return it if he can, and if he can't, he won't. "This is also a joke that we often say now: Liu Bei has a reason to borrow Yuan from Jingzhou.

Later, people in the state of Wu did not understand the secret of Sun Quan carrying his sister in a sedan chair, thinking that the emperor Lao Zi respected his sister's marriage so much, and they did so. Over time, it has become a custom for my brother to carry his sister in a sedan chair, which has been passed down to this day.

Date of receipt: 2005- 12- 15.

Author brief introduction Liao (1954-), male, from Meixian County, Guangdong Province, vice chairman of Shixing County of CPPCC.

(The article is taken from Journal of Hakka Studies of jiaying university Hakka Institute,No. 1 2007).