Why "get married before your mother-in-law"?

If you marry a wife, you must take a good look at your mother-in-law.

How do you say this? The meaning of this statement is not to see whether the mother-in-law is beautiful or not, but to see her character, personality, ideas and word of mouth.

Why? Family complex, teacher-student complex and homesickness structure have become the three emotional cornerstones of China society. There is an old saying in China: "The thread in the hands of a loving mother makes clothes for the body of her wayward child", "There are three unfilial things, and there is no great future"; There is also an old saying: "One day as a teacher, life as a father"; The third sentence of China people, don't teach yourself, don't pass on the old saying: "When a fellow villager sees a fellow villager, his eyes are full of tears". Also, China people talk about the three great pleasures of life: "When you become the first, you will meet an old friend in your hometown". Do you think it has something to do with your wife, teacher and old friend?

In family culture, the mother has the greatest influence on a person. So we can see that Meng Mu moved three times and chose his neighbor to live; So we see that the mother-in-law is tattooed: loyal to the country;

In the traditional culture of China, family culture is a cultural core that has never wavered. Each of us has been taught to listen to our mother. No dynasty education requires children not to listen to their mothers, right?

There is an old saying among ordinary people: "Look at the old at the age of three", that is to say, a person's personality is influenced by his family since childhood. Furthermore, in China's traditional culture, there is also a cultural tradition of "men are the masters outside and women are the masters inside". The children in China's family are under the "direct management" of their mothers. In a family, the biggest influence on a person is undoubtedly the mother.

Let's go back to the specific question of men marrying wives. Of course, marrying a wife depends on looks, figure, job and income, but what men care about most is their mind, housekeeping, financial management and personality. Of course, personality is not all formed in childhood, nor is it all formed under the influence of family members, especially mothers, and it is closely related to later school life, personal reading and making friends. However, if you want to graduate from school, teachers will change, so the influence of teachers is limited; Students will eventually be separated, so their influence will be more limited; Colleagues can change. In today's society, colleagues change rapidly. Friends are made by themselves, which can be deep or shallow, good or bad, and can be recognized or denied. However, all girls, only the mother will have, only the mother always has a heart-to-heart relationship, especially with her life.

In this sense, the widely circulated lyric: "A child with a mother is like a treasure house, and a child without a mother is like a grass" is more scientific and reasonable. From this perspective, when a woman becomes the mother of her daughter, she must know that her moral behavior has a lifelong influence on her daughter's happiness (and of course it also applies to her son). Similarly, in a sense, if a woman is not ready, she should not be a mother, especially a daughter's mother. Summing up the above arguments, we can draw a marriage experience that can be used for your reference, but it must be useful, but not necessarily all effective. If you marry a wife, you should see your mother-in-law. After meeting your mother-in-law, you will change the old saying in China: "The more a mother-in-law looks at her son-in-law, the more she likes it.".