The Folk Wedding Custom of Sending Zi Shan to Zongyang

The word "Zi Shan" is a local dialect, and I don't know if it is these two words. Just use it like this: get married on the eighth day of the twelfth lunar month and send it to Zi Shan on the sixth day. There is also a day to send Masako to get married. Mainly to reduce expenses and save trouble. Considering that the banquet was held too late on the wedding day, the woman sent Masako in advance. Seeing Yamako off is in the first day or two of marriage, which is called reciprocity. According to the number of people who send the bride price, determine how many tables of banquets should be placed at the woman's home on the wedding day. Banquet needs: cigarettes, wine, fish, meat, cakes, candy, balsam, handkerchiefs, etc. , all provided by the man. The woman only needs to add some vegetables, tofu and other side dishes. The man prepared Zi Shan the day before, and the next morning, he cooked it in a pot. Matchmaker, pick the mountain and have a good meal. Enough wine and food, let's go! The contents written on the gift basket need to be changed. It should be written: a hundred years of harmony, a full moon night, holding hands, growing old together and so on. Set off firecrackers when you go out, and bring more cigarettes and candy. If someone wants cigarettes and candy on the way, give them some. The woman took Masako and treated her to a meal at noon. In the afternoon, the gift basket is still full of cakes and red eggs.

Speaking of which, you think it should be enough. No! The customs and etiquette on the wedding day are the most complicated and exquisite. The preparations made by families of both men and women for this day can be said to be varied and complicated. Here, I can only talk about it in the most conventional and general way.

Women's preparation:

First of all, the dowry, of course. My daughter has been married for so many years that she can't go home empty-handed. The old man said: Once upon a time, the daughter of a landlord in tanggou married a family in a big mountain village. What do you mean, married? First of all, there are two coffins in front, representing promotion and wealth. Dozens of acres of land, two cows, plows, waterwheels and six animals are all available ... except for a house and a bed, everything you can think of will be used in the future. There was a long line to see the bride off. The front coffin has reached Dashan Bridge, and the back coffin is still in Qi Jing. Nowadays, many men buy home appliances at the woman's house first, and put a happy word to take home on the wedding day. But it is essential, there must be a place: a mosquito net, at least two quilts, a pair of pillows, a suitcase, a big basin and a small basin. The last one is absolutely necessary, a toilet (now use a spittoon). Why? Luo Zhang: It used to be made of brocade embroidered with auspicious patterns. Thick! You can't see inside from the outside. The girl said, etiquette, honesty and loyalty. On the wedding day, Luo Zhang was the first person in the dowry to get on the bus. Quilts and pillows: Of course, the woman's parents want the husband and wife to be one, which is why "one bed does not cover two people". Box: It contains some girls' favorite things at home, as well as clothes. The most important thing is to put a pair of shoes on my husband today. Girls used to do it themselves. If the bridal chamber is in trouble, you can take this. If you take it, you won't leave. There are dates, peanuts, longan and red eggs in the toilet. Moral: Give birth to a son early.

Second, please hire someone. The people mentioned here are not just people who treat people, give gifts and drink. It is the person who washes and dresses girls, orders (sews) quilts and sees them off (now called bridesmaids). There is a saying: On the wedding day, the bride and groom who take a shower first can control each other later. In the past, the night before the wedding, just after midnight, I began to take a shower. Put on the new clothes that the groom has bought. It's new from the inside out, or it's not a bride. I need to comb my hair! I can't comb my hair by myself this time. I'd like to ask someone with a glib tongue to comb the bride's hair. Menstruation is usually a girl, but she must be a blessed person: she has children and her husband is still alive. One combs love, the other combs grow old together, and the third combs children and grandchildren ... and secretly teaches the knowledge between men and women. The quilt in the dowry should have been ordered a few days ago, of course, for the lucky people. Be sure to use the red line, the woman is ready. The bridesmaid can be the bride's sister or good friend, but she must be unmarried. The woman's banquet is called sedan chair rice, also called wedding wine. They are all cooked at noon, so we should greet the guests in advance. Comb your hair, no matter whether you give a gift or not, you should pick up the wine when you eat, and give a red envelope on the day you do it, no matter how much it costs. This is called love of money.

Some people may ask, "Zi Shan" contains so many balsams, handkerchiefs, sweets, biscuits and cakes. What is it for? Of course not.

Third, thank you. The girl is getting married, and she has been a neighbor for so many years, and she usually has a good relationship. Little girls also "go to court" and often help them do things, which is very popular. Now that she's leaving, we'll see each other less. What do you mean? In the first few days of marriage, neighbors began to send "tea and rice". The woman cooked five eggs and a bowl of noodles at home and brought them to her home: "Nothing, just slap your eyes and the door will kill you." You act like a bitch! Nan! My cousin's cooking is not delicious, and it is also a snack for me. Bao Ga, Niang Ga, all in the first place, often come here! "So, you are a girl, you must not mind your own business, be" decent "and be diligent, or no one will send you tea and rice in the future. Ha ha! It doesn't matter whether you eat or not, save face! ) "tea and rice" is finished, and the bowl has to be returned to others. Can't I return the empty bowl? (Because it was delivered in advance, everything came, or we would have waited for the wedding day. ) Cousin has a daughter, so send some balsam and handkerchief. Candy, biscuits, cakes, give some. " Thank you very much for being so polite! Thank you! Nan! I'll give you an empty bowl after eating. ""kind of so polite, Hong Kong is still empty. "That cousin will send it when the bride goes out tomorrow! A family, neighbors are like this, and the wedding day is lively. " A married woman, a farmer who sold her land, thanks to more than 20 years' upbringing, is about to become a daughter-in-law. This is a kind of happiness, isn't it?

Fourth, the bride should know manners. After washing and dressing, the maid of honor accompanied her. The bride covered the embroidered bed in the boudoir with a quilt and felt the warmth of the mother's house again. You can't go to your husband's house with cold! Cry if you are a little reluctant! Mother also accompanied her to cry. This is called crying. The more you cry, the more dissatisfied you are with your family. Sister-in-law was overjoyed: "Little girl, I didn't know I could remember her when I was six years old, and I didn't even miss a drop of water." Sister-in-law put a rice-drying "loafer" in front of the bed, which contained new shoes for marriage. Brides can't wear them everywhere now! Sister-in-law is watching the bride's feet are too low to be stained with ash, ash is soil, and soil is wealth. You can't take away the wealth of your family. Before the sedan chair is issued, the bride's parents will send a bowl of eggs in sugar water as a farewell. To put on new shoes, the bride must stand in the prodigal son and bow down to her parents. In any case, I will shed a few tears to express my gratitude for more than 20 years of parenting. Eggs in sugar water make the bride feel the sweetness of past lives again. After eating, put the bowl in the "prodigal son", stand up, throw chopsticks behind her, and don't look back to show your determination not to eat any more.

Everything is basically ready, just waiting for the groom to pick up the people. Don't worry! Don't worry! The groom is more anxious than you! Go and see how the groom's family is getting ready.

First, decorate the new house. No matter what the family conditions are, you need a room and a bed is essential. Completely married and don't want to accompany the bed. The words "Big Red Double Happiness" are pasted on the windows and walls, and the quilt was ordered by the blessed eldest sister-in-law. "Red embroidered mandarin ducks, dragons and phoenixes are auspicious and beaming. Today's couple deserve a pair, and future generations will be full of happiness. Love in the City is really good. Yeah, yeah, I have loved her for a long time. The red line is connected with a new quilt, so I take red envelopes and candy ... "Ordering the quilt and making the bed, my sister-in-law is busy again. Tell my nephew to pee quickly and raise a sister-in-law of the same length next year ... what a good sister-in-law Please also ask the old gentleman to write a pair of wedding couplets: gold and jade are a couple, and husband and wife love each other for a hundred years. Horizontal batch: spend a good full moon. The hall is full of red envelopes from guests. Everywhere is beaming!

Second, I killed two big fat pigs and hired a chef to prepare wine! Let the groom start inviting guests from door to door! "Big ye! Menzi, come to my house for a wedding bar tonight! " "good! All right! Grandpa, I'm embarrassed! " Uncle, aunt, the old man must invite him personally. Can't you see my uncle's red batch hanging on the biggest side of the hall? When a son marries, except the matchmaker, the mother-in-law is the oldest. "Nephew is the root of my mother's uncle!" If the guests invited once don't come, relatives and friends will urge them to invite them three times and receive them four times tomorrow.

Third, prepare for tomorrow's wedding. I used to hire a sedan chair, but now I have to take wedding money, two packs of cigarettes and two cakes. Don't forget, we need a car and a dowry Send more people to move the dowry. Rest assured! Two packs of cigarettes each. Some people ask that a person can only move a dowry once and not move back, saying it is unlucky. Hey! Generally, the woman will ask relatives for help. Let's call a few more people to rest assured. Ha ha! All three media and six certificates are here. Now that they are all fired, generally only two matchmakers are invited, one for men and one for women. Last reminder: there will be more robberies tomorrow, so bring more cigarettes and candy.