Who is more suitable to be Baoyu's wife, Daiyu or Baochai? Why?

Baochai's repeated persuasion just explained her "downtime". She is a perfect woman praised by feudal society for her three obedience and four virtues. Many such women choose to be wives, but it has nothing to do with love at all. Dai Yu, in the eyes of the ancients, may have led Baoyu astray and made him accomplish nothing, but she is a person with personality and self and a spiritual companion. Xue Baochai is a good wife. She is healthy and has no problem raising children. She can serve the elderly and young people at home well. She is worldly. She is her husband's wife.

Broad-minded, I'm sure I can handle the relationship with my in-laws, at least on the surface. At that time, the criteria for choosing a spouse were health, competence and no tossing. But she hasn't seen a dream of red mansions. Zhihu has another problem, that is, he has three incorrect views on Hai's daughter. Some people tell children that no one is worth your life. I'm a little in distress situation. The fairy tales I read in the third grade moved me so much that I cried every time I read them. I remember this was translated by Ye Junjian. The same is true of A Dream of Red Mansions, where Bao Dai reads the Romance of the West Chamber and the Mid-Autumn Festival couplets of Daiyu and Xiangyun. How touching these scenes are. Do you have to pull several characters together to make a movie "If You Are the One"?

Nowadays, there are always people who look at the red chamber in the mode of online gossip. What Baoyu is love rat, Daiyu is a charming girlfriend, and Baochai is green tea? Of course, what other people think is none of my business. I just feel that in the red chamber, I can't see the sense of destiny and the sigh of reincarnation. I can't see Jia Baoyu's pity and affection for everything. Lin Daiyu's sincere pursuit of life and heart-to-heart exchange, Xue Baochai, as a perfect woman, has been suppressed by feudal ethics. It's a pity that Cao Xueqin can't see all the characters in his works.

A Dream of Red Mansions has many people who see the truth and many people who can't. Baodai's love is no different from most romance novels. It is beautiful and desirable, but from the perspective of romance novels, the "happy life" after the combination of men and women will never be written, because once love becomes marriage, it will be followed by fireworks. Who can escape customs?

And once you have experienced the world's daily necessities and vinegar tea, will the love between Baodai still make people yearn for it? Baochai may not love Baoyu, but at least Baochai will be a qualified wife. This is just like modern people, when they are young and hazy, there will always be a "suitable" person. Once stimulated, how many jade people can stand the test of life? At least Baochai is sober and precocious, which makes people feel distressed. Maybe she also envies the love between Baodai, but she can't help but see through it.

Actually, I don't think Daiyu is really Baoyu's confidant. Although Daiyu has a little temper, she is somewhat humble emotionally. She knew that Baoyu didn't like official career, so she didn't say anything. She always felt a little cautious. Besides, Baoyu has always given her a pressure that only you know me, so ... does Daiyu really know Baoyu? Anyway, there are 1000 readers with 1000 Lin Daiyu.

From a modern perspective, Xue Baochai is indeed more suitable as far as who is most suitable for a long life. Because open-minded people like everyone who goes, Lin Daiyu is not saying that she is not good. She may need a cheerful and optimistic person to persuade her that she will go to the hospital to see her. After all, everyone likes to be with optimistic and positive people.

Jia Baoyu doesn't want to go to "earth" at all. He even refused to grow up and be controlled by men, saying that they were made of "mud" and girls were made of "water", each with its own style, including smart and dull Xiangling. So even if his confidant is Lin Daiyu, he can't be single-minded ... and their spiritual fit was not allowed in that society at that time; When other girls get married, Baoyu has no place to live.

The story of the stone is different from the novel with a unified routine of talented people and beautiful women (similar to the current romance online), and it is also different from the so-called matchmaking. Even after more than 200 years, it is hard to match. I think its vitality should last longer.

Baochai framed Daiyu many times for good luck. She is too insidious to like her. Baodai's love is the purest in the world, so is Daiyu's love for Baoyu. As long as you are good, as long as you have me in your heart, I will be happy to see it. Baochai has a high heart. She did not become a female official, and regularly supervised Baoyu's career. Baoyu hates feudal ideas and Siku Quanshu so much. Why is she with her? How painful it is. It's just that Baoyu loves women in his bones, thinks men are dirty, and even dislikes himself, so his feelings for Baochai and Daiyu are completely different!

When I was young, I didn't think what Baochai said was wrong. I even thought it was well-founded and organized. After entering the society and becoming a gregarious animal, I turned around and realized how interesting Daiyu said and how mediocre Baochai said. There are too many people in society like Baochai who use empty talk as a means of interaction. They think that being funny is actually grasping words, which is basically the feedback made by the mouth in front of the head. If they are equally vulgar or have never seen the world, it may be interesting to listen to Baochai's witticisms, but if they want to raise the aesthetic threshold in the dialogue, it is even more interesting to talk to Daiyu.