The kindergarten teacher asked the 4-year-old child to draw red numbers, but the baby didn't want to write them. Netizen: Parents should bravely say no.

Four-year-old children, the teacher left homework until half a page of calligraphy and painting was red, and the children themselves did not want to write. Should he be forced?

To tell the truth, I was particularly moved by this parent's question, and many parents with similar experiences left messages in the message area.

Some people say, "It's too early to practice calligraphy before the age of four. Not yet. Don't worry. "

Some people say: "In the face of the wrong way of education, parents should bravely say no!"

Of course, some people suggest that parents help their children write.

On this topic, I just have my own ideas and want to communicate with readers and friends.

In fact, I understand, "Do 4-year-olds need to be forced to paint red?" In other words, do preschool children need to exercise their pen-holding ability?

As a mother, before Bao Shu kindergarten, I didn't deliberately exercise my children's ability to hold pens.

Torii Zhao Mei, an expert in parenting education who has accumulated rich experience in preschool education for more than 50 years, said:

Readers, after reading this passage by torii Zhao Mei, I don't know if you have found a problem, that is, why let children draw numbers in red, but children don't like it, so they can draw?

I think the school arranges half a page of figures for children, which may be due to the following considerations:

However, according to torii Zhao Mei's own experience, it is not creative for preschool children to exercise their coloring ability, including writing in red.

His advice to parents is: let the children doodle to their heart's content.

Speaking of graffiti, many parents actually don't like children doodling at home, on furniture and on walls. If you let go of these areas and let the children draw, the consequences will be unimaginable.

However, torii Zhao Mei suggested that parents should prepare a piece of paper as large as possible for their children, and then prepare a black pen.

Let the children doodle to their heart's content, not to say that they are finished after painting. The only thing parents have to cooperate with is to let their children tell the contents of graffiti. Torii Zhao Mei thinks this is a mature way to help children.

Children draw him according to the existing impressions in their minds, which in itself is a kind of cultivation of creative ability. If parents can guide their children to say the contents of the painting, it will be more helpful to cultivate their oral expression ability.

In addition, as children observe and know more about the real world, they can draw more and more things, and the progress will become more and more obvious, and this process is completely spontaneous.

This reminds me of a sentence in the movie of the Battle of Changjin Lake: "An egg is knocked open from the outside and is destined to be eaten. If you can peck yourself open from the inside, maybe it is an eagle. "

This is the core of family education, and the internal motivation of cultivating children is far more useful than various external stimuli.

At that time, I saw torii Zhao Mei's specific exposition on the cultivation of children's painting ability, and the problem that bothered me for a long time was finally solved:

When I raised my children according to torii Zhao Mei's statement, I found that Bao Shu's painting ability had been developed unprecedentedly.

Bao Shu's paintings are pasted on the floor tiles at home every day. Because I bowed my head for a long time, I was worried that my child's cervical vertebra could not stand it, so I bought him the biggest whiteboard, and each painting took more than an hour.

Children doodle at will, saying while painting, some of them are in languages I don't understand, and sometimes adults need to listen to him explain the content of creation after painting. The state of free creation intoxicated the child, and his face was filled with excitement.

Bao Shu's happiness in painting makes me very happy. It turns out that raising children is so worry-free!

Bao Shu's painting ability has made a qualitative leap, all of which originated from his summer vacation when he lived in the countryside. He saw many flowers, plants, insects and fish, and stored many real impressions in his mind. More importantly, the open-air courtyard in the countryside has become the best "drawing board" in Bao Shu. He can finish drawing a box of chalk in a week or so.

Children are very confident in their painting ability, very satisfied with their own works, and sometimes they need adults to help him confirm that he really paints well. Originally, this is what torii Zhao Mei called a "master"!

As an adult, I am ashamed that I lack the passion and enthusiasm for life brought by this artistic creation.

The grandfather of the child saw that the baby often scribbled and asked me to buy a pen holder for the child. I smiled slightly. I know that my practice is not to raise children, but to have theoretical support.

But at the same time, I also muttered in my mind: Do you want to exercise your child's pen-holding ability before school starts?

This semester, when the family Committee of the children's school met, I heard a teacher in charge of teaching and research sincerely and firmly tell the representatives of the family Committee present: "Don't exercise the children's pen-holding ability."

According to the teacher, she thinks that parents are not professional guidance when teaching their children to hold pens. If children master the wrong pen holding posture, it will be very troublesome to correct it in primary school.

Parents have plans to train their children to hold pens. They can give their children calligraphy training classes after kindergarten classes and during the summer vacation when primary schools start, and master the posture of holding a brush. As for children's pen-holding ability, primary school teachers will focus on training.

Hearing what the teacher said, I finally felt relieved and did as the teacher said!

But each kindergarten has different requirements. If parents and friends do encounter homework left by kindergarten teachers, such as painting red and coloring, parents are advised to:

Share the above family education experience, I hope it will be useful to you.