I broke up with my girlfriend, and I want to make it right. How come?

First, find out why we broke up. Relationships fail for a reason.

Whether it's the woman's problem or her own problem, there must be obstacles to continuing the relationship. Before the recovery, we must be clear about this reason and what this obstacle is. Then, after finding out the reason, judge whether there is any way to remedy this reason.

1, apologize to your ex-girlfriend.

Admit that you are wrong, even if you don't think you are wrong. There must be a reason why my ex-girlfriend broke up. To defend yourself, you can only divide yourself and her into opposite ends. You might as well admit that you did something wrong first. You must understand that you must have hurt her in some way. Please apologize for your mistake first.

Your ex-girlfriend's bad habits hurt her words and deeds. Don't make the same mistake again! If necessary, you can find someone to supervise you and help you quit the above behaviors.

2. Save your ex-girlfriend with a detached attitude.

If you leave, will everyone know the truth about spring? Love is the same, even if you really care about her in your heart, don't show it all on your face. Brother, in fact, love is a matter of two people, and love will not have a good result, so two of a kind is the foundation of love. It's right to make her like you again!

I've been in this situation before, and I was similar to you at first. No matter what I did, I didn't see me. Later, I said, I will call you once a week, whether we are lovers or friends.

A few weeks ago, I called her on time and she didn't hang up. Generally, I don't talk about two people, just my life. Later, I deliberately delayed calling her for a few days, and she hung up. I know, she's back. But I put up with it.

I happened to have something to go out at that time, so I told her before I left that I would contact her later, hoping that she could take care of herself and say something emotional. Call her outside to see her attitude; Then deliberately say something that you are not satisfied with. Usually she will say a few words to inspire you.

Then I started sending messages and saying some soft words. Later, she only punished me for buying her a set of underwear.

In fact, you have to use your head to do everything. It's nothing difficult. I wonder if it will help you. Don't belittle yourself blindly. No matter what kind of woman you are, you should not treat her like a human being. If you treat her as an object, then you can master her well.

3. Appropriate strategies can be applied when saving ex-girlfriends.

It is suggested that the key points should be stabilized and some strategies should be used to recover the chaos. It is strange that it can succeed. I can do this:

I've been bothering her last week, it's been cold this week, and I'll bother her next week … and so on. First, annoy her, chase her, send text messages, QQ bomb, pester her, and make her feel chased, loved and annoyed.

Of course, it is unlikely that she will make up with you at this time. It is not impossible to make up with you, but she is more likely to show disgust. Whether you really hate it, or just hate it to show your loftiness, you can give a sad performance when she knows it (this is easy to do), and then walk away silently (if you can impress her, it may be ok, if there is no one below).

Quiet for a few days, let her lose the feeling of being chased and entangled. At this point, be careful not to let other boys in. Find the right opportunity to express your love for her without regrets, indicating that you are silently paying attention to her and loving her.

Under normal circumstances, if she doesn't like it very much, she will be a little lost at this time, because she has lost the old habit of being chased. In addition, as a woman, her nature is eager to be cared for, so she will accept you again to some extent. Even if I am not by your side, I will not hate you too much.

4. My three-day chase and two-day disappearance plan

Saving the past feelings is like facing a beautiful porcelain, you can't use brute force, otherwise you will lose both sides.

After I carried out the plan of chasing for three days and disappearing for two days, my girlfriend really took the initiative to find me, and it took a lot of effort, probably more effort than the first time I found her. In fact, I just turned off my cell phone, then said on my blog that I would disappear, and wrote a memoir on it, asking her to take good care of herself.

So, today she was looking for me from morning to afternoon. In the meantime, I don't answer her phone calls or return her text messages. As a result, she also used some tricks that had to make me appear, and we finally met.

I came straight to the point and said that I wanted to disappear into her world in the future. She said no. Of course, I will let myself know the details later. Everyone's approach is really different. Anyway, we made up.

Just now, after I sent her home, I turned it off again, so she went online to find me and said she wouldn't let me turn it off again.

5, often "unintentionally" appear in the world of ex-girlfriends.

Every time I go to a place, when I am happiest, I will take a photo and take a picture of the scenery. Know more friends of the opposite sex and chat and flirt with them. Take more photos with the opposite sex. Put all the photos on QQ space, Weibo, WeChat and other online platforms, so that ex-girlfriends can "inadvertently" see them.

Fill up your time and don't let yourself be too idle. The items filled in are mainly based on the above things. Contact your old friends more, and then contact her friends more. You can play together and let them know your life now.

6. Pay attention to it strategically and despise it tactically.

Running around for a week or half a month, suddenly stopping, don't let her know the whereabouts of the mobile phone (this is Lao Mao's protracted war theory). If the enemy does not move, I will not move. I won't move if the enemy comes.

People should have an adaptive process to accept the occurrence of a thing, and don't be impatient when breaking up. However, most people are not calm when they encounter this kind of thing, and they all do things that make each other more bored, so that their only pity and affection collapse instantly.

The more you beg her, apologize to her and promise her, the more she feels that her choice is right. The more humble you are, the more she looks down on you. You can be yourself again, let her see your change, and try not to talk about emotional things.

7. Positive energy

Think positively and pay more attention to your good friends, family, work, hobbies and health. Keep in touch with the outside world, and the most important thing is to date other girls. If your ex-girlfriend finds out that you have a good relationship with other girls, she will find that she actually misses being with you a little.

Send her short messages on important occasions such as her birthday and separation anniversary. Briefly recall how you and she spent today together. For example, I remember last year today, you and I ... were a little sad ... how to save our stubborn ex-girlfriend? Sometimes you have to remind her of your time together.

8. Don't try to confess, or hold hands and kiss.

I repeat, the facts have told you that what you are doing now and what you did to her before are invalid. If you don't change your ways, you will give up her and lose her from now on.

And if you save your girlfriend as I said above, your chances of saving her will be at least 10 times higher. So, say after me in your heart: I have made up my mind to change myself! I have made up my mind to face my present problem bravely!

In fact, what worries me most is that you are stubborn and can't help talking to her to please her. If you still insist on your wrong recovery method, then picking a fairy won't save you.

So, to answer your last question: Yes, you can still be saved. However, the only person who can save you is yourself. Only when you have the courage to find and correct the mistakes you are making (mistakes that most men often make) can you completely solve your problems.

9. The last thing is to wait for your ex-girlfriend to contact you.

After she contacts you, you can talk about recent things, what you are busy with, what you are studying, and what you are going to do as good friends. Finally, besides, it has been a long time. Let's go out and sit together.

Because of your recent changes, after asking her out, she will feel your changes and the second attraction will begin. You can change places three times during the date and take it home. After that, your relationship will start again. How to recover stubborn ex-girlfriend? If you want to avoid this situation again, please learn long-term relationship first.

It's difficult, but any attempt to get close to an ex-girlfriend will lead her to stay away. The closer you get, the faster she runs.

When making a decision, people often "don't choose", because she doesn't know what to do, so she will choose to refuse or do nothing.

So, what you have to do is to find a good opportunity, choose a good day, and say to her in your ear when the atmosphere is ambiguous: "I haven't eaten your cooking for a long time."

Note that the ingenious place here is that she didn't talk about reconciliation and didn't ask her if she wanted to get back together, so she had no room to refuse.

If she answers "You miss my craft so much", then you can directly say "Yes, you can consider more than my craft" to express your intention of missing her.

If she answers "maybe next time", it means that the time has not yet come. Let's work harder and add more memories and experiences. A little festive atmosphere is also essential. It's more like pursuing than saving, but it's more advantageous than pursuing because you have an emotional foundation.

Of course, this is just a routine way to save your girlfriend. Emotional situations vary widely. Everyone still has to adjust according to their own situation. The key is to integrate your thoughts and feelings into your own actual situation to consider and analyze, and walk out of the road that suits you.