What is the least self-motivated person you have ever met?

I saw a question on Zhihu: "What is the most self-motivated person you have ever seen?"

The answer to the first number of likes is:

The most unmotivated person I have ever met. They are anxious about the status quo and have no perseverance to practice their determination to change themselves.

After three minutes of heat, the market hates its disappointment, and the most persistent thing is that it can't persist.

Hanging on social networks all day, facing the cold screen of mobile phones and computers, few people can say a few words.

As the most ordinary people, they are buried in the crowd, but they live the most miserable life.

Seeing this answer, I thought about my life. For so many years, I have almost come here like this, drifting with the tide and muddling along.

I'm also worried about my life. I can't find a new direction every time I graduate. I never know what I really like or what I am good at. Can't find the direction of struggle, meaningless consumption of life.

I have thought about my life and tortured my soul in the middle of the night. What kind of future do I want? But the end result is nothing anyway, that's all.

However, the two old customers who have been with me are lazy and have a bad memory. I use them to wrap my ignorant and fearless heart.

I tell myself, not because I don't work hard, but because I have a poor memory and can't remember what I need to remember. Not because I don't work hard, but because my lazy cancer often attacks and is out of my control.

In this way, one year, two years ... seven years have passed.

In middle school, I survived by my own cleverness. Even if you don't spend time and energy studying hard and pretend to be serious with everyone, your grades will not be too bad, no matter how bad.

In college, as long as you read a little at the end of the term and fill out the test paper as the teacher said, you can always pass. As for whether you really learned anything, no one cares.

And I only know that eating and sleeping every day, that kind of life is very happy. I only know that I am addicted to games and have fun every day, which is self-evident.

Just like once I thought I was in love with the game and I couldn't escape its clutches in my life, but no one expected that one day, I suddenly didn't like the game, or I couldn't find the pleasure in the game anymore.

I'm thinking again. Is it because I play too much? Or because I'm really busy? Maybe I have grown up and need more fresh and exciting things to arouse my desire to play.

I don't know why, but I know that the game has faded out of my life, I don't need it anymore, and this thing I once thought I would love my life has disappeared, so what else is worth fighting for?

Aside from games, I still have work, family and friends. I began to understand that no matter what kind of feelings need to be managed, both sides are mutual.

When I invest too much in a job or a relationship, I may be reluctant to give up because the sinking cost is too high, but the more so, the harder it is to give up.

But think about it from another angle, can it be migrated? For example, can the writing skills and communication skills I learned in this job be used in my life and my next job?

And the injuries and problems in this relationship can be adjusted in the next relationship to avoid jumping into the same pit again.

In fact, in the final analysis, whatever you are doing is just a learning process.

So since it is learning, how should we learn?

I remember when I first started reading, I always pursued reading fast and reading more. But after reading a dozen or twenty books, I found that those books didn't seem to have any influence on me except lying on the shelf, but added a lot of psychological burden to me.

In this way, the more books you read, the more anxious you are, the more useless your efforts are, and the less you know what you want to do.

Then, as expected, I fell into a state of self-escape.

I want to quit my job, leave this company, this city, escape to a place where no one knows me anymore and start over.

What an immature idea, but it has taken root in my heart.

Only this time, my good temper of not knowing how to refuse saved me. When I knew I couldn't leave, I really began to think about what I had worked hard for so many years.

The fact is that the heat lasts for three minutes forever, and the most persistent thing is that you can't persist.

What I'm good at is finding reasons for myself. My writing ability is not good, and I blame the school courses for being useless. But I forgot that every time the teacher assigned homework, he either asked for help or relied on Baidu to return the homework he couldn't stand. Not too low.

I have poor communication skills, but I blame myself for being too introverted and unwilling to communicate with others, but I forget that someone used to pull me out every day. I'm so bored, I just want to sleep in the dormitory.

My thinking ability is zero, but I told myself that the exam-oriented education didn't give me room to think and bound my imagination. I can't ask you not to have any ideas at school, forcing you to have all kinds of divergent thinking as soon as you leave school.

There are so many such examples that the company commander has gained weight. You can blame the constellation, because you can't bear to waste, so you eat too much.

When I pass the buck, I feel very comfortable and happy. I have shirked my responsibilities for so many years and found that I can never make progress and my mind can never mature.

Because it is human nature and instinct to avoid disadvantages and responsibilities, but everyone's life trajectory is dominated by themselves.

And I began to understand that behind everyone's achievements, no matter how big or small, there is a rare effort and effort, even repeated practice.

Friends who sing well will sing over and over again with a repeater in middle school. Every rhythm of every lyric and different singing methods have been practiced many times.

Strong writing skills, like literature since childhood. They have written countless articles, large and small, and have their own opinions on different things, which is part of their lives.

Some bloggers look very powerful, but who knows that he has been deeply involved in his field for twenty or thirty years.

In fact, I think others' success is taken for granted, and my own failure to make progress is doomed.

I look at my life with extreme pessimism. No matter what happens, I always think of the worst first. Don't think about what is missing. If you can't handle it yourself, ask for help. On the contrary, I will only hide in my own world and blame myself for my incompetence, but I can't reach out and try my best.

There is a program in the seven tyrants, the title is: Is it wrong for me not to make progress?

Seeing this debate at that time, I hoped that the opposing side would win. It seems that I need to tell myself from their point of view that it is no problem not to make progress. What's the matter?

As Jing said, I am very motivated now, very, very motivated, but there is nothing wrong with not being motivated. Who should I tell this to, a very, very motivated person like me, and why?

Guess how to be self-motivated, as others say, it was very easy at first, and I like it very much, but where is the end of self-motivation? I don't know. For example, I want to listen to music, and I want to listen to it better, better and better. Is this progress? But when did this happen? I don't know. Nobody told me.

Guess what? I was runner-up in the first season. After losing, I went back to cry. I said it was because I didn't work hard enough and didn't make progress enough.

All right, season two, running, hard work, come on, all right, third place in season two.

Forget it, it doesn't matter. There must be some people who work harder and are more motivated than you, so you are not motivated enough.

Okay, season three, I'm here, and so is Starr. We are on the same team. I missed one vote in the final, so Starr went to participate. Who didn't vote for this vote? I didn't vote myself. I'm afraid to see the results of my self-improvement, you know? I was particularly afraid that I would attend and finally lost.

I did it, and I did it with your efforts. What was the result? I didn't do it because I was afraid to see the result.

But did everyone leave me alone? No, that's why the fourth season came. What about the fourth season?

Your fans may scold you and say you, but my fans are strange. They like to teach me. They sent me a private letter saying: What are you doing playing Weibo? Have you prepared the topic? After watching the game, they said they wanted to see how Mix played, why you spoke so short, and whether you didn't try your best.

I'm so tired. Let's go to the fan base. They said why are you still up? Did you play before you were ready?

Did I play? I played. But I'm really trying to prepare every debate topic. I prepared five articles on this topic, but I didn't expect him to play emotional cards.

I make progress every time, every time, but there is no result. Everyone is saying that a soldier who doesn't want to be a general is not a good soldier, but if a soldier can't be a general no matter how hard he tries, it doesn't matter if others tell him, just be a soldier.

No one told us that it doesn't matter if you don't give me the championship. You still don't bypass me, you don't leave me alone, and you say that I am wrong. What should I do? You will be satisfied with what I have to do. You can only say "Come on", which is easy to say.

At this time, we just want to say to ourselves: it doesn't matter, can I change it for something else, with a normal heart and no self-motivation? Can it be changed to happy? I assure you, I have given up my ambition. I won't do nothing as you think, but we don't aim at ambition. Can you leave us alone? Will you stop saying that we are wrong?

I was really tired when I picked up my ambition again and tried to prove that I could. I try my best to read books and listen to pronunciation every day, try to put more things in my mind, try to write with ease, and try to handle my work and life in order like my colleagues and friends.

But the more so, the more nervous and stressed I am. Every time I don't do well, I deny myself again in my mind until there is no way out. I can't stand my decadence and inaction, and I start to escape again.

At this time, someone told me that nothing is easy, maybe you are not suitable for writing articles, it is too difficult for you, but you can also try to do business and turn in a different direction, which may be better, but don't give up easily. If you just give up, what will you do after you quit?

Fortunately, I switched to operation, including media operation, content operation and user operation. Actually, I don't know any of them, but I told myself that I wouldn't learn. No matter how you start, you start from scratch, and there is no shortcut to every road.

It's just that I didn't expect that when I let go of the so-called self-motivation and took writing less important, my mind seemed clearer, and then I returned to the road of writing, but this time it was easier to change and my mood was greatly improved. I no longer face life with a bitter face, but look for more fun in life with the help of my friends.

As Yan Rujing said: When you have no ambition at all, you should find a little ambition to make yourself motivated.

But also learn to say as Cai Kangyong said: If you are too active to stop, you can't stop it. At this time, you should learn to turn, otherwise, if you are stuck, you will not get happiness and peace of mind, but will only become discouraged.

And I also hope that when I see my bottleneck and efforts, I will let myself go a little bit, stop protecting myself too much and make myself invincible. What I want to learn is to learn to enjoy what I am doing, to enjoy the happiness of exceeding my goals, to enjoy the little comfort when I am recognized, and to enjoy some little fun outside my life.

Living is the most important thing.