A divorced man told me that true love between husband and wife will eventually fail. Why?

0 1 before and after flowering, rice, oil and salt respectively represent two States of men and women getting along. The important reason why we decided to enter the marriage is nothing more than the throbbing when the flowers bloom and the moon sets, and we want to be together for life. However, after we get married, we make a living on rice, oil and salt, and with fireworks, we will find that the original marriage still has its bad side.

After experiencing joy and despair, they will naturally shift their purpose to others in an attempt to return to the sweetness of love, and this person is love will keep us alive in the hearts of most people except their partners.

Therefore, I think that all the people who meet the love of life after marriage are looking for reasons for their youth and ignorance. After all, in this world, it is difficult to judge the love of life, and it is really difficult to tell whether you can give your life for it or you can give everything. Meeting the love of life after marriage is also an illusion of most people, just making excuses for new love.

Just like every once in a while, we always want to go out and see different scenery, make excuses to say that the surrounding environment is too bad, and then get bored in another city, and then make excuses to leave and start a new journey.

But there are always people who can't figure it out. They always swear that this time is true love, but the result is not satisfactory. There is a friend, Brother Dapeng, who may be remembered as "love rat", "Playboy" and "Heartbreaker". In fact, I was very supportive of him at the beginning, but as soon as things got out of control, I felt that he was what everyone called "scum".

Brother Dapeng is of medium height, not handsome and natural, but his affinity is absolutely perfect, and with the eloquence of Lotus, it is more than enough to charm several young ladies. When Brother Dapeng got married for the first time, almost all relatives and friends went out. The luxury of the wedding scene and Brother Dapeng's tearful confession touched everyone present, including the bride who had been crying for a long time on the stage. It is said that the meeting between two people is magical. Brother Dapeng chased him for two years before catching up with his wife. It must be true love. But after less than two years of marriage, Brother Dapeng told me in a bar that he felt that he had met true love now and must divorce and marry the love of his life.

I think it's ridiculous. A man who has been chasing for two years has only been married for two years. How can he abandon him and fall in love with someone else? Brother Dapeng said I didn't understand. This woman is married, just like a different person. She is suspicious, more annoying than a gossip. I asked Brother Peng how he knew that the woman he had always loved would not change after marriage. Brother Peng said that he thought she would not change.

Brother Dapeng divorced and got married again as he wished. The second wedding is still luxurious, the vows are earth-shattering, and the friendship is vivid. At the moment when the rings were exchanged, I looked at the two people crying with joy on the stage and was deeply happy for Brother Dapeng. I finally met true love this time.

But this time, less than a year later, Brother Dapeng told me that he dreamed of a girl he didn't know several times, and this time he was really moved. He thinks this is the true love he dreams of.

I think it's ridiculous. After several cycles, which one is the love of his life? I'm afraid he will say no and change people again and again. The problem is not others, but himself.

Not to mention that no one in this life can really meet the love of your life. Even if you do, how can you be sure that this is the love of your life? Shouldn't the love of our life be the person we chose to enter the marriage hall? If we don't love each other deeply, why should we make a lifelong commitment to each other and let marriage witness the proverbs of our love?

Recently, a newly married colleague, Orange, is the same. We attended her wedding together. The groom is very simple, and his eyes are full of oranges, but after the whole wedding, the eyes of oranges are all the best man next to Sina, and you can see clearly from my position. The two men winked at each other.

A few days after the wedding, on the first day when Juzijun came to work, when chatting with me, all he said was what the best man was like at that time. I wonder why the newly married couple should be the best time, and why the mouth of the orange is full of others.

The orange looked depressed and said to me with a sigh, "If only I had met that man before I got married!" " "

Before the wedding was over, she fell in love with someone else and firmly believed that she had missed the love of her life. Unfortunately.

How can a woman with this idea live a good marriage life with her husband?

Under the pressure of morality and ego, orange didn't go any further except with her physically ambiguous best man. I can't imagine how an orange with someone else's heart can be happy in marriage. I can only say that loving this stalk in my life may ruin the life of oranges.

The passion for life can't prove anything. The only way to verify this may be to get married and have children. Therefore, it is untrue to meet the love of life after marriage. People will always like the new and hate the old, and they will also hate the intact environment and status quo. This is a common problem of human beings, but it is insulting to think that the object of derailment is the love of life.

Someone in Zhihu mercilessly exposed the fact that there is no such thing as "missing", so there is no "the only thrill" or "the only thrill". Life is a complete journey of choice after choice.

Maybe our partners are different at each stage, but that doesn't mean we have to change the people around us. Now that we are married, we should be faithful and grow together. If you are stubborn and really believe that you have met other beloved people after marriage, you must make it clear that you will still be lingering with others after divorce, and never cheat your once beloved heart.