Frustrated constellation female _ the most frustrated zodiac

How should the lovelorn 12 constellation girls get out of the shadows?

Generally speaking, the so-called "lovelorn" means that the infatuated person is abandoned by his lover. The main emotional reactions caused by lovelorn love are pain and trouble. Most people can correctly treat and deal with this kind of frustration in love and move towards a new life happily. However, some people can't rule out this strong emotion in time. Lead to psychological imbalance and abnormal personality.

Aries and Leo: Let the tears fly.

Just because a friend said, "It's silly to cry for such a bad person", just because you don't want to be looked down upon by that person, you pretend to be strong? So it's worth it, so it won't be looked down upon? Watch a sad drama or listen to some sad love songs to make yourself cry. Crying is not a sign of weakness, not a white flag of losers, it just reduces your negative emotions. Only by abandoning those unhappiness can we stand up again and live a more wonderful life than before!

Taurus and Capricorn: spreading lovelorn love.

You are a fool, and you will be even more reluctant to communicate with others after being lovelorn, just like an abandoned kitten, curled up in the corner and licking its wounds! But being lovelorn is like an ulcer in your mouth. The more painful it is, the more you have to lick it. The more you lick it, the more it hurts. Instead of dying of depression, make an appointment with a friend every day and tell him about your lovelorn experience. Every time you tell your story to others, your pain will be reduced by one point until you find it is the same as telling other people's stories!

Gemini: Seeking understanding and comfort.

You need comfort from friends and family, and hope that someone can listen to and understand your inner pain, instead of telling you something like "It's not worth feeling sorry for that person". If it's really "not worth it" as they say, what are your efforts and love over the years? Find a friend who has been lovelorn and walked out completely. He can give you comfort and encouragement and tell you how to get out of the pain of lovelorn more easily. more importantly,

Cancer: Be kind to yourself.

Is there anything you've always wanted to buy, but you've never been willing to buy it? Then buy it back and give it to yourself as a gift to celebrate your liberation from bondage. You don't have to draw prison land. Tell yourself that even without him, you can live a good life, even better, buy whatever you want, don't apply for permission from others, and don't think about saving more money for their future!

Virgo and Pisces: Try to rebel.

In order to leave a good image for him, you have always been a good girl? Don't dare to bungee jump, don't try to travel alone, and don't dare to say "go" to annoying people ... well, try these things you've always wanted to do but never had the courage to do at once! Make your heart strong and experience life and yourself from another angle. You will find that you can have a lot without him, and you can live well without him!

Libra: a new look

Feeling irritable and depressed, want to relieve your mood through shopping spree? Don't be silly, you have to pay back your credit card in the end, and when the bill comes out, you will feel more like dying! The simple and effective way is to cut off 3000 love lines, change the shape and "start all over again"! A brand-new beautiful hairstyle will make you confident, just remember to find a skilled stylist. Looking at yourself completely different from before in the mirror, do you feel alive again?

Scorpio: Learn to forgive him.

Maybe you want to eat his flesh and drink his blood, but you still think it's better to try to forgive him than to hate him more. Not to "cheap" him, but to liberate you. The more you hate him, the more painful you are, and the more you can't get out of the shadow of lovelorn. Isn't that punishing yourself? Forgiving him means kicking him out of your heart completely. When your heart is free, you can accommodate more things and more people!

Sagittarius and Aquarius: Keep pets company.

If that person hadn't intruded into your life, you could have been very independent and confident, but you were lovelorn, and you don't even know if you can love so bravely and confidently in the future! Keep a pet, let it help you heal the trauma of your heart, let it help you get rid of loneliness after lovelorn, divert your attention and relieve your inner pain. There is always a little guy around you who sticks to you, please you, spoil you, and the feeling of being needed is back!

Lovelorn is a special emotional experience. No one can say what it feels like to be lovelorn. Some people say that being lovelorn is like stabbing a knife in your heart, and it hurts when you move. Some people say that being lovelorn is like eating sour ice cream, which makes people feel sour and cold and unbearable. Some people even say that it feels like a very familiar person has passed away. The main emotional reactions caused by lovelorn love are pain and trouble. Most people can correctly treat and deal with this kind of frustration in love and move towards a new life happily. However, some people can't rule out this strong emotion in time.

1 vent the bad mood after being lovelorn.

No matter who you are, no matter how strong you are, it is inevitable that you will have bad emotional States such as anxiety and depression in the face of lovelorn. The kind that wants to cry but is afraid to cry, or even has to laugh, looks "strong" on the surface, but it actually hurts itself a lot. Everyone should have the right to cry, especially when they are lovelorn. Those who can't cry in front of everyone, we can find a place to cry in private; People who are not used to crying may wish to let their tears flow out as much as possible.

Don't pester each other.

When some people are lovelorn, in order to save this feeling, most people will have the impulse to talk and communicate. In fact, the psychological motivation to talk to each other at this time is "Let's do it again, we can clarify all misunderstandings, and then we can get back together, or we can start over and put aside all previous misunderstandings", which is why the final negotiation in love is always endless. The problem is that this indomitable attitude has brought more and more impatience and boredom to the other side. The correct way should be "move faster, walk faster, be more decisive and proactive, and save face, and the greater the shock and attraction to the other party", that is, "don't entangle".

Calm and rational analysis of what our problem is.

After suffering for a period of time, we should face ourselves rationally and calmly analyze what went wrong. Since breaking up is a fact, we must dare to face the reality. Remember, as mentioned earlier, this is not a question of right or wrong, but a question of suitability. What you have to do is to find out what you can't stand; When is the other person happiest and why? When is the most painful and why?

After finding out these factors, let's see which ones can be changed, and if so, we can change them. See what can't be changed. Next time find a lover, find someone who can adapt to your "characteristics"

Don't be afraid that others will know that you are lovelorn.

The most embarrassing thing when you are lovelorn is that everyone knows. I am also afraid that others will ask, "Why did you break up?" Because for an abandoned person, the most difficult thing to deal with is not knowing how to explain to outsiders why he was abandoned. Most people will prevaricate with some strange and immature reasons. If a sensible friend pretends to know and is embarrassed to ask further questions, he can barely bear to leave the lovelorn with a little doubt; In case you finally meet some people who like to ask questions, you will often be embarrassed and more sad and painful.

If someone is lovelorn and pretends that "my lover and I are in love", this kind of psychology is a bit morbid. It is suggested that when you are lovelorn, don't be afraid of others knowing, and even take the initiative to let others know. At this time, if you feel that other people's questions make you unbearable, you may wish to apply the following formula: "So-and-so, I have bad news for you. I have been abandoned and the other party has another object. I'm sad now, but I'm sure I'll be fine in a few days. Please don't ask me why, and let's not talk about it again, ok? Thank you, goodbye. " Then go back and cry, and you will find that lovelorn is not so terrible.

5 learn to be strong

The most common emotional reactions in the early days of lovelorn people are loss of confidence, self-pity, resentment, shame to meet people, or self-indulgence and escape from reality. Revenge is not desirable, but I am discouraged and depressed. I miss my business every day in Lacrimosa, which seems pitiful. In fact, this is a bad emotional reaction. Because these actions will only make the other party more complacent and have no interest in themselves. We should tell ourselves that if we are strong, everything will become a thing of the past. Only by letting the past go can the future come.

6 grow from introspection

Please reflect on this feeling of loss and try to ask yourself: What kind of person am I? What's the problem? Is it the way of communication or the difference of values? In thinking, extract the strength of growth, find your gratitude from it, and accelerate your recovery from psychological trauma.

7 enrich life

Arrange your life well and want to find an outlet for your emotions. In fact, you have a lot of living resources. You have to understand that besides love, you also have affection, friendship and dreams. You know, without love, you are free.