Is it really that easy to be a stepmother in a combined family when parents remarry and children suffer?

Stepmother is not good, and no one can treat people who are not related by blood as relatives.

The fairy tale of Snow White and her vicious stepmother is deeply rooted in people's hearts. I can't help it. At present, the divorce rate is very high, and many people remarry. Many reorganized families are also happy to have children. I was very kind to my husband's former children at first. After having children of their own, some stepmother is not too worried about her husband's former children. The child is naive, sincere and misses his mother, which makes his stepmother a little embarrassed. I believe that people are kind, and it is impossible for a vicious mother to kill everyone with a stick. These are just examples, not all stepmother. In children's minds, there is a difference between a biological mother and a stepmother. Because you must choose such psychological preparation, you can't ask your child to be good to you, because you are good to your child.

Don't try to please children, especially when they do something wrong. This will make children think that you have ulterior motives and that you owe him. Being a stepmother should have its own principles. If your child doesn't respect your opinion, please tell him solemnly that you are his legal guardian. Before he is a minor, you have the right to supervise him and let the children know that you have the right to supervise. Don't put on airs in front of children. If your child is disobedient, please be sure to keep calm. Don't hit the child, your relationship with the child will become very bad. It is best to keep a harmonious attitude, handle it calmly and let the father of the child reconcile. The mother of the child should not look after the child, nor should she speak ill of her mother with the child. This will cause dissatisfaction among children, husbands and even in-laws. Try to get along with the child's mother.

It's hard to be a stepmother. First of all, it's hard to be yourself. Although a woman walked into this new home because she loved her father, she didn't say that love must be accompanied by children. No woman can accept a child who is not related to her. Accept only because of helplessness. The child is hers now. The child of a caring person. This helplessness fundamentally determines that a woman's state of mind cannot come from the true love in her child's heart. Of course, this is analysis. This is not always the case in real life. Stepmothers love their children deeply. Specific analysis of the specific situation. If a woman enters the present family because her child's mother died forever due to special factors, then this woman's marriage is undoubtedly a supplement to love. Because the woman before is actually dead, the woman's mentality is more pleasing. Naturally, this child is of course problematic, and even has some elements of poor children.