Why can Jia Baoyu's maid quarrel with him and make a hullabaloo about?

Baoyu is a flower protector and a "lover". He believes that since ancient times, all beautiful people are loyal to their daughters, and all men are filthy, so he himself is a "mud hole".

Therefore, he cherishes these innocent and delicate girls, can tolerate their unruly, and even their shortcomings are lovely and can be cherished. However, he also has a young master's temper. In the passage "Young officials and fans draw Qiang outsiders", he loves flowers, understands their feelings, and kicks Hua Xiren in the chest because of his anger.

I can see that he also has a master's temper, but he often doesn't show it because he cherishes and respects these women around him. It's just that for the pages, these men at hand will screw up their temper.

Therefore, his performance is because he loves pets, so the police fairy said that he is a "good friend of the boudoir" and "the first prostitute since ancient times", because his feelings are from the heart, so that he can understand and care for the girls.

Such people are rare not only in ancient times, but also in modern times. It is really rare to respect, cherish and care for women, rather than taking sex as the starting point.

Therefore, male readers often think that Baoyu is not manly enough, in fact, because of the huge psychological difference in treating women. He thinks that his thoughtfulness and indulgence are detrimental to a man's self-esteem.