Weizi Garden Owners' Group

According to legend, this is what Zhu, a talented woman in the Song Dynasty, did to protect her father's face.

In the second part of Princess Pearl, Sister Rong beat the board on the orders of the emperor. I couldn't bear to come forward to plead, but also moved out of this poem and successfully persuaded the emperor not to beat Sister Rong.

Poetry is good and talented, but if it is used when parents want to hit their children, I'm afraid it won't work.

And for a long time, there have been different opinions about whether parents should educate their children to beat their children, and no one can convince them.

One party thinks that beating children will leave a psychological shadow on them and affect the parent-child relationship, so parents need to educate their children in other ways.

On the other hand, sometimes, children have to fight when they should, and they won't remember for long if they don't fight.

For most parents, raising children is not a worry-free thing. When children are always naughty, they can't say it. If they don't fight, just talk. In reality, they defeated the enemy without fighting. Parents who don't beat their children and lose their temper only exist in parenting books, which is simply unrealistic.

Yesterday, I saw a conversation between owners on the Internet, and I found it humorous, but it was also true.

The shopkeeper finally said angrily and rationally, "I won't give her food tonight." I feel sorry for my ancestors. "

It's funny to see this. While being angered by children, I can also rationally evaluate the necessity of "beating children" and comprehensively consider the impact of beating children on neighbors. Finally, I greeted my neighbors in advance and apologized in a calm tone among the owners. After reading it, people feel that it is probably something that children have done.

There is a more funny scene. After the shopkeeper sent the message, other parents went on to say, "What time is it? I also hit my son. "

The children in this building are really miserable, but the last child is miserable. I seem to see the little girl's confused eyes. "What did I do wrong again?"

This calm, rational and accustomed look is not childish at all, but rather like "beating children on rainy days, and being idle is also idle."

Everyone is talking so calmly and harmoniously behind the children. Do the children in this building know? ...

I didn't expect this to happen now. The owner held a meeting to beat the child and asked for the psychological shadow area of the child.

However, if you think about the scene of online tutoring, it seems that you can understand these parents. After all, educating children is really too high.

Of course, I believe that the parents in the group may be just funny and humorous, and they are still measured in treating their children, and they will not really beat their children for no reason.

At that time, every family didn't hit their children. Every day in the corridor, you can hear the voice of parents educating their children and chasing them. Neighbors advised them to fight, and they all said, "Lao Zhang, just fight for a while."

At that time, it was normal for parents to beat their children, and children would not resent their parents for it.

However, Teacher Ma also said that it is conditional for parents to beat their children. You must have no estrangement with your children. This is a good foundation for the child, and then you will fight again, so that you will not leave psychological harm to the child, and parents and children will not have conflicts because of this, because the child knows that parents beat him for his own good.

In addition, parents also need to appease their children after fighting. Have a clear conclusion, let the children know that the storm is over and they will get better, and tell them where he is wrong.

Beating a child is to let the child have a boundary in his heart and know when he can and can't do it.

Think twice before making a decision in the future. Parents have their own code of conduct. They don't need to tell their children one by one, but show them to let him know what their parents did in this situation.

The evaluation system of children's parents is a kind of feedback on children's behavior, praise for doing right, criticism for doing wrong, outrageous punishment for doing wrong, and excessive punishment escalation.

Over time, there will be a tacit understanding between parents and children, and children will be educated by their parents when they know what kind of behavior they will get.

So this kind of "beating" is a bit like a scale between parents and children. On the one hand, it is the behavior of children, on the other hand, it is the feedback given by parents. Both sides have corresponding scales. Parents can't come blindly, or they will lose this measure, which is a weakening of their judicial power.

As a means of punishment, beating children is not useless, and children's behavior will cross the line. If the punishment given by parents is not severe enough, children will lose their inner rules. When he grows up, he is not afraid of anything and dares to do anything. This is the dereliction of duty of parents' education.

There was a very popular video the other day.

Fortunately, the child's father is nearby, with a warm smile on his face. As if he had a hunch, he ran to the child and caught the pushed child in time.

There is also the child pushing, and his father also came from afar to beat the child.

Many netizens said in the comments that the father did the right thing. In this case, there is no doubt that it is necessary to educate children so strictly. Some things must not be done. This is responsible for the children.

In short, when educating children, it is not right to solve everything by hitting them, because there must be some cases where it is more appropriate to educate children in other ways. At the same time, in some cases where children should be beaten, they should also be restrained and taken seriously.