How does the child's feeling of self-comfort come about? What are the disadvantages of these self-comforting emotions?

Many mothers say that children always make some special gestures before going to bed, such as eating fingers, licking lips, touching hands, face, clothes and pants. Many parents think this is a child's problem. In fact, this is also the adjustment of children's mood before going to bed. With the growth of age, most babies will also reduce the number of self-soothing, and some babies will develop bad habits, such as biting their fingers and hitting objects in front of work pressure. The baby made some sounds to express his experience. This kind of self-appeasement has high regulations on the use and understanding of baby's language, but it is also a good way to help newborns keep pace with their language expression and emotional ability.

From the birth of a baby, he has a good way to deal with its troubles and discomfort. When she is obviously stimulated internally, she will sob and scream, sucking her fingers and biting small toys to release stress and distract her attention. When children can't understand what Tom said, they can hear Tom's emotional data signal from their parents. For example, if a regretful mother raises her voice and gets angry with others, the child will feel scared.

Therefore, when children can't meet the prescribed standards, they will deny or reprimand this model for being unreasonable, and try to find some seemingly effective reasons to refute the current failure. When children who are tired of learning feel depressed, instead of looking for reasons, they escape from reality and try to change the views of people around them. From the perspective of physiology and biological evolution, the whole process of separation will make children timid from situations that they can't handle, let students recover naturally and fill psychological energy.

Children need more comfort. Without appeasement, they will feel insecure, unable to get what they want from the stimulation of social development, and may draw unfortunate conclusions. This requires parents to immediately assist their babies to improve their self-appeasement, enrich their professional skills of self-appeasement, and enable them to meet the opportunities and challenges brought by new growth links. Babies must have time and energy to comfort and adjust. When our baby is sad, maybe he is telling you "leave me alone", so don't comfort him any more.