Friendship and Lagerstroemia indica

Everyone will meet all kinds of people in daily life, work and study. These people are good and bad, loyal and treacherous, kind and evil ... they come into our lives one after another, consciously or unconsciously.

However, there is a kind of person, it is difficult to judge whether he or she is a bad person, but he or she is definitely not a really good person. This kind of person is the so-called "bad guy".

The "bad guy" we often say at ordinary times refers to the person who gives everything to others, no matter right or wrong. In fact, there is another kind of "bad guy", which refers to two people who have a good relationship. It seems that everything can help each other and have a heart-to-heart talk, but one of them is always used to treating his own affairs as a big deal and his friends' affairs as irrelevant.

This kind of person is often the most disgusting and wants to stay away from it.

Recently, I briefly reviewed Princess Zhu Huan Part III: Heaven and Earth starring Ma Yili, Ku Kuiqi, Crystal and Qin Lan 18 years ago. The role of Wei Zi continues the image of the first two films, leaving the audience with the impression that she is still an understanding, gentle and considerate girl.

But in fact, is this really the case?

/kloc-When I was watching a drama 0/8 years ago, I probably felt this way because I was young. But now, when we re-examine, we find that this is not the case.

Wei Zi's Attitude in Princess Zhu Huan Part III: Heaven and Earth Give Way to unknown so, the Melon Eater. After careful analysis, we will find that Wei Zi is not the kind of person who is considerate, needs others and wants to protect his sisters.

There is a plot in the play. When a group of people went down to the south of the Yangtze River with the help of Qianlong, Galeries Lafayette took a fancy to a girl named Zhihua and wanted to betroth her to Yongqi. After all, Zhihua is more in line with the requirements of the royal daughter-in-law than Swallow.

Yongqi naturally didn't want to, because Swallow was the only one in his heart, and Swallow was also very opposed, but in the end, Yongqi married Zhihua.

Although many factors are inevitable, such as personal power can not compete with imperial power, the role played by some people can not be ignored.

In this process, the most prominent "pusher" is Wei Zi.

Why is Wei Zi the biggest "pusher" for Yongqi to marry Zhihua?

Wei Zi is both Yongqi's royal elder sister and Swallow's best friend. Other irrelevant people advised Yongqi Swallow to accept knowing the painting, but taking Wei Zi as an example, combined with her personal words and deeds, it seems that she is too unkind.

Just when the swallow knew that Lafayette wanted Yongqi to marry Zhihua, of course, the swallow couldn't accept it. What woman would give love in two to another woman? So at this time, Wei Zi acted as a "mediator" to persuade the swallow to be generous.

"We can only bite our teeth and swallow blood. You have to be brave ... you have to be mentally prepared. This day will come sooner or later. "

When Wei Zi said these words, her eyes seemed helpless, but she pressed the swallow with words step by step without any relief. Instead, she tried to persuade the swallow to recognize the facts and stop sticking to her own opinions.

It really doesn't matter. Hang it high.

Wei Zi can do this because Yongqi married Zhihua, not Erkang, so she came up with a set of reasons to convince others to be generous.

It didn't happen to her. Of course, she can say such things lightly. If Galeries Lafayette asked Er Kang to marry Zhihua, I'm afraid it would be difficult for her to say those words.

You won't know the pain unless the needle sticks to the meat. Only the parties can deeply feel the pain of losing their lover and serving their wives with others. Onlookers are only superficial anxiety and inner sympathy.

People who seem to earnestly advise you not only can't understand your sadness, but even don't know what you have experienced, but choose for you.

I have to say that people who persuade others to accept their fate are the most cruel people.

That's not enough. After Yongqi and Zhihua got married, Wei Zi learned that Yongqi didn't have sex with Zhihua on their wedding night. Instead of being moved by Yongqi's behavior, she looked very angry.

She scolded Yongqi and said, "Yongqi, I really admire you." The night you married Zhihua, I thought you had become a good thing. If I stand in the position of knowing painting, I will feel a little sorry for her. So, I think you are a little cruel. "

What is cruelty? I wonder, is such a thing too cruel for swallows?

Wei Zi stood on the moral high ground and accused Yongqi of forcing others to do things they didn't want to do at all, regardless of the feelings of a pair of lovers, and talked about what was right or wrong, which was really hard to understand.

Imagine that if Wei Zi were allowed to accept these similar things by herself, she would definitely be unwilling in all aspects. There are many reasons. This is typical selfishness.

For example, she felt that she couldn't live with a knife, so she gave Erkang the golden lock. Later, when she escaped and saw Jinsuo, Wei Zi quickly agreed to Liu Qing's request and married Jinsuo at the right time, getting rid of this emotional crisis.

For example, knowing that Erkang had spent the night in the mountains with Sunny, watching the snow and the moon and singing poems, Wei Zi lost his temper and cried for Erkang's explanation. Two people had a big fight before they turned it over.

For another example, Princess Musha, who appeared later, came to Myanmar thousands of miles away and insisted on bringing Erkang back and continuing to "live alone" with her.

Everything shows that Wei Zi is a woman who can't share her lover with other women. In her eyes, this love should not be divided and enjoyed by * * *. If such a woman appears, she will try her best to maintain it or even get it back.

It is understandable for a woman to do so. After all, everyone has the right to pursue uniqueness, but Wei Zi is a "double standard". It doesn't matter what others do, they can't do anything. Egoism and selfishness are beyond words.

Don't do to others what you don't want them to do to you 1. But she forgot all about it.

There is such a passage to describe a person like Wei Zi: "The contradiction between people now mainly comes from a group of people who are used to asking others by the standards of saints and asking themselves by the standards of laymen."

In fact, Ziwei changed for a reason, that is, in her view, the swallow was not liked by its elders and gradually fell out of favor.

Swallow and I used to be good sisters because * * * experienced too many things together and our feelings gradually deepened. However, the swallow often gets into trouble, which makes her very painful. Wei Zi was actually disgusted.

In fact, according to Wei Zi's criteria for choosing friends, she prefers to make friends with people like Zhihua, because Zhihua and she have the same temperament and similar hobbies, and in daily contact, she has a feeling of appreciate each other.

It is dangerous to make friends with Wei Zi to some extent, because she is always weighing the pros and cons, too concerned about the gains and losses, too concerned about the distance, and her friendship with swallows is unreliable, as if she can replace swallows with better and more suitable people at any time.

Swallow is a simple-minded person. Whoever is good to her is good to her, and who is not good to the people around her. She will definitely stand up for her at the first time, just as Princess Isaiah took a fancy to Erkang, and Swallow tried her best to help Wei Zi stand up, regardless of gains and losses, and even admitted that she was pretending to be Gege to protect Wei Zi's love.

Two people have completely different attitudes towards friendship. A person only cares about the immediate gains and losses and is unwilling to put himself in the shoes of his friends. The other is willing to go through fire and water for his friends, without selfishness.

The feelings between friends are not equal, so let it be.

Even Sunny in the play unfairly said to Wei Zi for the sake of the swallow: "So you made the swallow disappear? You only have a picture in your eyes, not a swallow. "

This is a true friend, who can see the sadness of the swallow, understand the mood of the swallow, and will not change his sincerity to his friends because of any external force. It's many times better than a "Wei Zi-style" bad guy.

There are many words that sound very kind and friendly, but not only have no effect on the parties, but will only increase the pressure and pain. In this case, it is better to say nothing.

Don't persuade others to be good, don't suffer others.

In this world, all kinds of people in Qian Qian will not happen to themselves, nor will they meet such people. Really don't just persuade others to be generous, because you haven't experienced it, and you don't have to bear the consequences. You naturally have no right to speak and say.

Life is your own, and the road to life still depends on yourself. Stay away from the "bad guys" around you, and maybe you will live more freely and easily.

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Today's topic discussion: Are there any "Wei Zi-style" bad people around you? Welcome to leave a message for discussion.