Choose to love yourself or love yourself when you get married.

Should I choose someone who loves me or someone I love when I get married?

It is true that marriage is a major event in life, and many people will choose a person to get married at the marriageable age. Especially after blind date, it seems that two people get married just to complete the urging from their families, and seem to forget the true meaning of love. Their choice will be to choose the person who loves me or the person I love.

Marriage is a life-long event. Never be careless. If I had a choice, unless it was two of a kind, I would rather be single. There is too much uncertainty in marriage. Many people get married blindly, but they will soon divorce blindly. Some friends around me are like this. Those who have no children are fine, and those who have children have another layer of concern and entanglement. Marriage is a lifelong practice of two people, not a child's play. Even if two people in two of a kind get married, they may not be able to grow old together, not to mention just unrequited love.

Some people may say that marriage has no love or no love, only suitable or unsuitable. In my opinion, a marriage without love is incomplete. Marriage is an act that two people who love each other are willing to stay together for a long time and accept the protection of national laws. Marriage should not be compromised in order to carry on the family line. You can't fall in love and get married too many times before you meet the right person. How do you know if that person is suitable without trying? However, the prerequisite for two people to get married must be to love each other.

Under the guidance of traditional thinking, if a person has been divorced twice, others will have opinions on him, especially women. But should we bow to tradition? First of all, I believe in some truths of traditional ideas, such as being suitable for each other. However, we should not be completely bound by traditional ideas. Marriage and divorce are our own business. Whether married life is happy or not can only be guessed by ourselves, so why care about other people's eyes? Life will always be your own, and no one can replace you. Just like the shoes on your feet, you don't know if they fit until you wear them.

Of course, I can also understand that choosing a person who loves himself to get married is mainly because it is not so hard after marriage. If you choose a person who loves you to marry, he can tolerate his many shortcomings and live a relatively easy life. Everyone wants to find someone who cares about and tolerates himself, both men and women. Marry a person who loves you, and the other person will be more able to accommodate himself when his married life is unhappy or contradictory, and even deliberately instruct the other person to do something for himself. As long as he loves himself, she can tolerate herself.

And choose the person you love to marry. Choosing such a person is nothing more than the excellent conditions of the other party. There must be one or several things that attract you a little, make you fascinated by him and willing to pay for him. It seems very passive to marry someone you love. In marriage, you have to be controlled by others in all aspects, but what is it to really love someone? This may be called one who wants to fight and one who wants to get it. As long as you feel happy, how to choose is your own decision, which has nothing to do with others.

Marriage is a lifelong practice. If you want a long-term marriage, even if you choose someone who loves you or you love them, try to love each other. This is the foundation of a long-term marriage.