Andy and Wei Zi.

Recently, an emotional drama of urban life "Ode to Joy" burst, and friends around me are chasing it, and I am no exception!

It tells every story about work, feelings and growth that happened to five girls with different growth environments, different life experiences and different personalities. I think it is sought after by many audiences, probably because it reflects the helpless situation of the present society, and also because we can see our own shadow more or less from these five girls.

Comparatively speaking, I personally admire Fan (Rulu), who is bent on marrying and living a higher quality life. Maybe everyone despises this style of girl, but she has her own advantages.

Treat feelings, even vanity is never willing to settle, with good looks, proud figure and strong heart. Especially when she stood in front of the mirror and looked at herself up, down, left and right, the full confidence was enviable. She often said: "I have material things, I have goods, and I deserve it!" " "

In fact, every woman has a little desire to be a heartthrob and a leprechaun, because we all want to attract the attention of the opposite sex and the envy of the same sex. This instinctive vanity is real. But in the social environment, such people will be attacked and ridiculed by public opinion. So we often suppress our desires and live as "good women" in the eyes of others.

Who doesn't want to dress up? Who doesn't want to live in a mansion, drive a luxury car and live a rich life? Who doesn't want to find a high-profile boyfriend? Ask yourself, do you want to? The answer is absolutely yes. If you say you haven't thought about it, I'll ask you again, why do you want to find a self-motivated boyfriend with a house, a car? If there is no material desire, why can't we get married naked?

Therefore, we don't like Fan, just because we live in an environment where we have no ego and our desires are excessively suppressed for a long time. We are not criticizing a woman like her, but often criticizing ourselves who share her vanity. The most terrible thing is not to deny your inner vanity, but to feel that you are not worthy of the best and look down on yourself from the bottom of your heart.

Everyone is an independent individual, and everyone is excellent. The reason why I can open this article with my mobile phone here is because when I was in my mother's belly, you defeated hundreds of millions of brothers and sisters who share the same genes with you and won the opportunity to live in this world as the top person in the food chain.

I have always advocated being myself and knowing what I want. Of course, the premise is to know who you are first.

Andy (Tamia Liu) in the play was maliciously smeared on the Internet. In fact, as far as she is concerned, she doesn't care what others say. She knows very well that she doesn't need to pay attention to and care about the unwarranted charges imposed on her by others. But why did it affect her work to some extent? Because there are too many bloodthirsty judges in the real world.

When we see an event that exposes the black history of others, we are often easily influenced by public opinion orientation and lose the ability to judge whether things are true or not, and the initiator of this public opinion orientation is often ourselves. Think about "Michael Chen's affair", "Yi Nengjing's divorce" and so on, as well as all kinds of petty theft, mistress and love rat incidents on those forums. Is there anything that we don't start to make critical comments on our own subjective consciousness without knowing the context and authenticity of the whole thing?

The reason why we are in this situation today is because we live in such a muddle. Many times we are ignorant, but we don't know that we are ignorant, and we are particularly self-righteous. Because we don't know who we are, and we don't have the right judgment and the ability to distinguish right from wrong, it's easy to be led by others and become their executioners.

What we hear is not necessarily true, and what we see is not necessarily all. Taking words out of context is a mistake that we often make easily. Just like we see Wang Sicong!

I always think that Wang Sicong is a person with a particularly high IQ. I first knew this man because he told everyone not to watch Tiny Times by Jing M.Guo in Weibo. Someone replied, do you think Wanda belongs to your family? Then someone replied that Wanda was really opened by his family! At this time, I didn't pay attention to him. Just think this guy has personality, and silently praised him in Weibo.

Later, the media reported that there were more and more scandals about him, including three thousand harem beauties, a playboy who spent money like water. Finally become a national husband. At that time, I only knew that he was the master of Wanda and the dream lover of countless girls. I really care about him because on February 3, 20 14, he participated in the tearing of two girls in Weibo.

At that time, I was bored at home. I saw the hot topic in Weibo, so I went to see it. I didn't expect such good luck. I watched a live tearing war! As always, the direction of public opinion is biased towards the weak little girl, and online abuse of Miss Zhu is one after another, all kinds of peeling and all kinds of attacks. I watched it for three days, and the next day, I vaguely felt that Miss Pan, who gained more sympathy, was using Wang Sicong to help her discredit each other. Sure enough, my guess was correct. After a long time, Wang Sicong took Miss Pan into custody. Forgive me for being a big Scorpio! )

During the three days of onlookers, I went through it from beginning to end in Weibo, Wang Sicong. What he first published in Weibo gave me the feeling that he was a good man, and later he became a figure in the entertainment circle. His maverick has attracted a large number of fans and gained great attention. Otherwise, how could he raise the 500 million funds given by his father to 4 billion? Otherwise, how could he let his father return to the throne of China's richest man on the Hurun Report?

Many people scoff, saying that it is because his father is Wang Jianlin. Yes! He has a great father, whose starting point is higher than ours. But have you ever thought that if we are suddenly Wang Jianlin's son or daughter, we may not be better than him. Imagine growing up in an ordinary family, and suddenly you have an inexhaustible wealth for generations. How will you spend the money? Maybe at this time, you never imagined that you might even become the' black sheep' Wang Sicong you often revile.

Qu Xiaoyu in the play is a veritable Bai Fumei, and her background determines that her growing environment is different from that of most children in ordinary families. The environment in which the rich second generation grew up and the people they met surprised us. We have to admit that they have a broader vision, and the way of doing business and living is the cornerstone of their inheritance! How can you brazenly criticize them without a bottom line under the banner of justice and morality just because of the gossip in the virtual world? How do you know that others will only splurge? Perhaps, others work harder than you in their careers. A little longer, when you complain about social injustice sourly, people are making big money happily!

Most of us, like Qiu Yingying (Andy) in the play, don't know what we want, have no opinions on many things, and make a mess of our lives. I guess, if Qiu Yingying and Andy were not neighbors and knew Andy's character, he would probably denounce this so-called mistress at the bottom of that post like those netizens!

In the process of following the drama, I saw many netizens commenting that they didn't like Qiu Yingying. In the circle of friends, I also saw colleagues say that they would fast-forward the broadcast to Andy. Later, I found some friends to talk about the play, and they all said they didn't like her. I asked you if you didn't like Andy or her role. The answer they gave me was, I don't like the role of Qiu Yingying! As I said just now, in fact, there are many people in Qiu Yingying. I have been muddling along in life, emotion and work, easily causing trouble, and often causing trouble to others, and I like to get into a dead end. Just rampaging through this big city with an honest, frank and kind heart. When we sat in front of the screen and watched her being bullied by love rat and the dog biting Lv Dongbin's heel, we really wanted to rush up and give her a sober slap.

Fortunately, her two roommates and neighbors are kind to her. When she is unhappy, they will patiently comfort her. They are willing to help her regardless of the consequences when she is in trouble. They love and care for her more than her boyfriend. It's just that her life experience and experience are too little, and she doesn't have the ability to deal with things, so she is easy to hit a wall, and her impulsive personality has brought her a lot of trouble. Therefore, in this matter, it is not difficult to see that the rich second generation, such as Qu Xiaoyu and Wang Sicong, are still different from the children of ordinary families like Qiu Yingying and us.

Perhaps, we hate Qiu Yingying because there is a shadow personality projection of this role in our subconscious. Maybe what we hate is ourselves who are very similar to her in a certain trait!

There is another kind of girl in life, like Bridgette, who is a typical good girl. Although she is not as worrying as Qiu Yingying, her qualifications are average and her personality is not as distinct as the other three girls.

After graduating from college, I came to the top 500 enterprises in big cities with my family relationship and worked hard every day. Afraid of making a little mistake and annoying the boss. She reminds me of those friends around me who have been arranged by their families to support the elderly. The difference is that, despite this, she didn't feel that she was in the safe. Her hard work and self-motivation won unanimous praise from Andy and Qu Xiaoyu. However, most people in her situation will not treat their work as responsibly as she does.

A friend spoke to me before, and I was a little tired of my current stable job, but I didn't know what I could do after I resigned. I could only say it forever, and I couldn't get a qualitative change. Maybe after Guan Guan resigned, Andy and Qu Xiaoyu took her in, because her attitude towards work was liked by every boss. She never slackened off, always learning from Andy and constantly charging herself. Even if she resigns from this Fortune 500 company, she will find her next home smoothly because of her previous efforts.

It is said that she is an extremely simple fool. In my opinion, she is actually very smart! A girl who knows how to invest in herself, pays attention to improving her own ability and keeps growing will never be eliminated by society!

Seeing now, what impressed me the most was not only them, but also what Qu Xiaoyu's father said to her: "We often compete with our peers and don't talk about the shortcomings of fools." "We often spend a lot of time and energy on trivial things and little people. Birds of a feather flock together. Don't see people who are not at the same level. If you don't have the same idea, why play a life that you are not good at for those who don't belong to you?

Know yourself and be honest with yourself, and life will be full of infinite possibilities.