Husband and female girlfriends go shopping with their fingers clasped, helping to arrange their hair regardless of boundaries, and their friendship deteriorates. What should I do?

People often ask whether there is pure friendship between men and women, and most people sayno. This is really hard to say, but we must understand that friendship cannot affect love, and the opposite sex must keep a proper distance.

Some people in life call their best friends of the opposite sex: male girlfriends and female girlfriends. This statement itself sounds more intimate than ordinary friends, not to mention personal relationships, at least there must be a sense of boundaries outside.

In the case of being single, it may not matter much to be close to the opposite sex, but they are no longer single or even married. The so-called male girlfriends and female girlfriends should not appear again unless they are really good friends.

Cyndi Luo (a pseudonym) and her husband met on a blind date. They dated for a year and got married. However, after marriage, her husband's female girlfriends still appear frequently in their lives, which is unacceptable to Cyndi Luo.

She said that when she and her husband were in love, the female girlfriends were everywhere, but her husband said that they had been good friends since childhood and their relationship was similar to that of relatives. They have never done anything beyond friendship.

What her husband means is that she and this female best friend are like a family, and they can't completely sever their relationship. Besides, people didn't do anything wrong with her.

When Cyndi Luo married her husband, her husband's female best friend also became a bridesmaid. Originally, she has found enough bridesmaids here. Her husband asked one less friend to go, and forced his female best friend.

Therefore, Cyndi Luo and her friends who agreed to be her bridesmaids are still unhappy. Her husband said that friends who don't understand people don't need it, but he didn't realize that it was unreasonable for his female girlfriends to join.

For the wedding to be held smoothly, Cyndi Luo stood with her husband and tried not to get into trouble. At the wedding, she was so busy and nervous that she didn't pay much attention to her husband's girlfriend, but a good friend who was her maid of honor told her to pay attention to her husband and that woman.

In the year when Cyndi Luo and her husband fell in love, they basically got used to the existence of his female girlfriends and didn't care much about what their friends said.

However, less than a week after they got married and moved into their new house, her husband's girlfriend came uninvited, saying that their house was decorated and no one had been there.

That day, after she left, Cyndi Luo's husband happily forgot himself. They talked a lot about their childhood and completely ignored the existence of Cyndi Luo.

She said that she felt particularly redundant at the time. In the evening, she complained that her husband valued his female best friend more than her. Her husband said that she thought too much, and the woman would go to work in other places in a few days. This trip may not be seen for a year or so, so she talked a few more words.

Cyndi Luo thought that since she was leaving, she didn't care about it, but what she didn't expect was that in the days after her husband, she used her mobile phone to chat with her girlfriends every day.

Sometimes they talk all night, and Luo Jing is really angry. She quarreled with her husband many times for this. But her husband always said that she made a fuss, and they were just a simple friendship. She also reminded Cyndi Luo not to talk nonsense, which defiled his pure friendship with his female best friend.

Cyndi Luo sometimes thinks that she may think too much, but more than a year later, her husband's female best friend returned to her hometown and invited her husband to have dinner with other friends.

Cyndi Luo wanted to go together, but her husband said that all the people who went were his friends. They had dinner without family, so it would be awkward if Cyndi Luo came along.

Cyndi Luo didn't go. She made an appointment with her friends to go shopping. After lunch, her husband also sent her a message saying that after dinner, she would go shopping with her best friend for a while and then go home.

When Cyndi Luo was tired of shopping with friends, she found a drink shop to rest. Her friend accidentally saw her husband with a woman and pointed it out to her. Cyndi Luo said that when she saw her husband clasping his fingers with his female best friend, she took two steps and stopped to help her arrange her hair. It's like she was poured cold water on.

Farewell to friends, she chased after her alone and asked her husband what he meant. When she saw Luo Jing, her husband quickly let go of his female best friend's hand and said, "I have already told you that the two of us are going shopping, and you are still following me. Is there a wife like you? "

No one is in the mood to go shopping. Cyndi Luo asked her husband to go home with her and explain that her female best friend wanted to go with her. When Cyndi Luo refused to let her leave, she cried that Cyndi Luo's husband didn't care about their friendship for decades after they got married.

Looking at her husband's plight, Cyndi Luo said she wouldn't let her go. She said to her husband, "You can choose between me and her today. You choose her, and we will divorce now. "

Cyndi Luo's husband chose his wife with the last vestige of reason. When he came back, he apologized to Cyndi Luo and said that he would never have anything to do with his female best friend again. He also deleted all the contact information in front of her.

Cyndi Luo felt that because the woman's divorce was not worth it, and she and her husband also had feelings, she didn't want to divorce easily. As long as her husband realizes his wrong behavior and corrects it in time, their future life will be very good.

She told her husband many difficulties in their marriage. Neither condition is so good. They bought a house with a down payment and paid the mortgage together after marriage. They are two people who will accompany them all their lives. If there is anything at home, they will also bear it together. The so-called female girlfriends don't care about his life at all.

Her husband listened to Cyndi Luo and promised to live a good life with her in the future, without caring about her feelings. Cyndi Luo said: "My husband and this' female best friend' locked their fingers and went shopping to help them arrange their hair regardless of national boundaries. Friendship has deteriorated. Fortunately, I helped my husband stop loss in time to keep our marriage. "

The movie A Sader Story Than Sadness says, "Why do people get married? When you are old, or need to be taken care of, that person can always stay with you with confidence. "

In other words, people who can be around you must be legal and reasonable. However, husband and wife are the most legitimate and reasonable existence around each other.

As for friendship or girlfriends, after all, those are only a part of your life, which can be said to be rare. When you meet an important event in your life, only your other half is most useful to you. So, you must keep a good relationship with your partner and don't hurt them for unimportant people.

To be honest, I don't believe in pure friendship between girlfriends. If it's really a pure relationship, I won't make an intimate move that crosses the line.

Men should understand that some behaviors can only happen between you and your wife, and the so-called "female girlfriends" are not allowed to do what couples do. This is immoral. If it is not handled well, the marriage will be ruined.

Every marriage is hard to come by, and it is also related to your lifelong happiness. Recognize the reality and don't let people or feelings outside your marriage affect your happiness.