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A long time ago, people used to call the new house where couples got married "bridal chamber". There are countless excellent poems about "bridal chamber" by the ancients. Lu Ji, a writer in the Western Jin Dynasty, chanted: "The first class is high, and the bridal chamber is elegant." In the Northern Zhou Dynasty, there was a poem called "Dancing Poems of Three Rivers", which said, "The wedding ceremony is full of flowers, and the rest of the dances are light in Shuang Yan." Song Qingyu, a poet in the Tang Dynasty, wrote in the poem "Zhang Shui Department's recent trial": "The bridal chamber stopped red candles last night, waiting for Tang Xiao to visit my aunt." In Rong Zhai's prose, Hong Mai, a poet in the Song Dynasty, famously said, "It's the first time to have a wedding night.". It can be seen that the reputation of "bridal chamber" has a long history. But when is the new house called "bridal chamber"?

According to legend, he soon became the king of Yao in ancient times. Very concerned about the life of herders. One day, he went to the pastoral area to ask for hardships, and suddenly there was a universal fragrance. In the distance, a beautiful woman floated in with a fire in her hand. King Yao was frightened and asked the herdsmen to know that it was a deer fairy. From then on, King Yao didn't want to eat, so he thought about the fairy and decided to go down the mountain to find the fairy.

Yao Wang led four ministers to visit immortals in the "Xiandonggou" in the south of Shaanxi, which is a hard place to find. Suddenly, I saw a beautiful sika deer coming leisurely from the ancient snake fairy cave. Knowing that it was a fairy, King Yao stepped forward to meet him. Just as he was about to meet him, a boa constrictor suddenly jumped out, forcing him to be caught off guard. I saw Luxian approaching, pointing with his hand, and the python suddenly trembled and fled in haste.

Yao Wang is tall, enlightened and handsome, and the fairy is elegant and beautiful. They fell in love at first sight, and a beautiful and mythical marriage was formed.

They got married in the fairy cave of the ancient society. At that time, auspicious clouds filled the air and birds sang. In the evening, at the time of Luan, a bunch of divine fire suddenly appeared at the top of the cave, dazzling and radiant. Since then, it has been the custom to call the bride's house the bridal chamber and the wedding night the wedding night.

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The origin of bridal chamber

Chinese civilization has a history of more than 5,000 years, and people still call marriage a "bridal chamber". Although human beings have transitioned from cave-like life to today's high-rise buildings, the word bridal chamber has not changed so far. I have never seen anyone change "into the bridal chamber" to "into the building".

Legend has it that this was stipulated by our ancestor Xuanyuan Huangdi.

The Yellow Emperor defeated Chiyou, calmed the war, established a tribal alliance, stopped group marriage, and ended the barbaric Li Dynasty. The era of human civilization has begun.

How difficult it is to change to monogamy in the age of human beings who are used to group marriage! This may be a great revolution five thousand years ago. For the newly unified tribal alliance, there are some factors that are extremely unfavorable to unity in the group marriage system, and there are often incidents of robbing marriage, not only for men, but also for women. Tribes in the new alliance often fight over marriage snatching. Over time, contradictions will inevitably intensify and the tribe may split again. Huangdi often frowns for this matter. He found the ministers around him, such as Chang Xian, Da Hong, Hou Feng, Li Mu, Cang Xie and others. After many discussions on how to stop group marriage and establish monogamy, no one has come up with a feasible way. One day, the Yellow Emperor accompanied a group of giants to check whether the caves where people lived were safe. Suddenly, I found a family living in three caves. In order to prevent the invasion of wild animals, they built high walls around them with stones, leaving only one door for people to enter and leave. This discovery immediately aroused the interest of the Yellow Emperor. That night, he called all the ministers around him. The Yellow Emperor said, "I have an idea to stop group marriage. Let everyone talk about it and see if it works. " . Ministers are all called Huangdi. Say it. The Yellow Emperor said, "Today, we saw the caves where people lived. I think the only way to stop group marriage is to call tribal people to congratulate, hold ceremonies, worship heaven and earth, parents and future couples. Then, celebrate with wine, sing and dance, and announce that they are officially married. Then, the husband and wife will be sent to a cave (room) prepared in advance, surrounded by high walls, leaving only one door to enter and exit. Eating and drinking will be sent by relatives of both men and women at home, from March to forty days, so that they can establish feelings in the cave, learn to cook and learn to live. In the future, all men and women who are married by tribal men are called formal marriages, and men and women who rob others are no longer allowed. In order to distinguish married women from unmarried women, all married women must tie their unkempt hair in a knot. People know at a glance that this woman is married, and other men can't make other plans, otherwise it will violate tribal regulations. "

When the Yellow Emperor finished this proposition, he was immediately supported by Chang Xian, Da Hong, Li Mu and others. Many people suggested that Cang Xie should make a law and make it public, and this idea was quickly supported by various tribes and people. People rushed to dig caves (houses) and build high walls for their children. As soon as their children got married, they were sent to the bridal chamber after the ceremony. The bad habit of group marriage gradually disappeared.

However, thousands of years of customary forces are the most terrible forces, which are deeply rooted and cannot be completely changed overnight. Some people are not used to monogamous life for the time being. It is said that there is a pair of hunting experts, the male is Shi Jie and the female is Mu Miao. Both parents agreed to get married. After the wedding, both of them were sent to the bridal chamber. After living for less than ten days, Shi Jia began to feel that it was meaningless to stay with only one woman all day. It is best to get married in groups. You can find two or three a day with whichever you like. Mu Miao also felt uncomfortable in the bridal chamber. It's really boring to be with a man all day. It is better to be free in group marriage and love each other for a few days. I don't like to find another man in a few days. How free it is. Because both of them have the idea that they don't want to live a monogamous life, one night, while the night is deep, both of them climbed up the wall and fled separately.

Shi Jie and Mumiao both fled into the big forest, where no one lived. The more anxious they are, the more frustrated they are. I didn't bring hunting gear, for fear of wild animals. After dawn, thirsty and hungry, they unconsciously came together again. In order to save their lives, the two had to live alone. Picking wild fruit mushrooms all day to satisfy hunger. Because I got lost, I couldn't walk out of the big forest for a while and didn't know what to do. Now, they realize that no one can live without anyone at this moment. One day, they were really thirsty, hungry and tired, and both of them were lying under a big tree to rest. A swarm of bees buzzed over his head. The stone broke a branch and beat it around to disperse the bees. Unexpectedly, the bees got angry and stung them all over. Shi Jia found that the bees were coming out from the cracks in the trees and took out the flint they carried with them. He told Mu Miao to pick up the dry wood and soon got a fire. They pulled out matchsticks from the fire, split the tree and continued to burn. In an instant, the bee burned its wings and could no longer fly. The flame passed through the tree gap, burning the hive, and honey oozed from the tree gap. At first, neither of them knew what it was, but it smelled good. They dipped a little in their hands, put them in their mouths and licked them with their tongues. It was very sweet. He asked Mumiao to taste it again. They decided that it was non-toxic and quickly picked up some bark and filled all the honey that flowed out. They had to pick mushrooms in the forest all day and dip them in honey to satisfy their hunger. In this way, I spent a whole month in the big forest. Fortunately, it was discovered by Yu Ze, a hunting expert under the Yellow Emperor, and the stone pier and Mumiao were saved.

After tossing and turning in the big forest for more than a month, the young couple were on tenterhooks all day, afraid that wild animals would attack them. No one wants to be apart, and no one can live without anyone. Only when the relationship between husband and wife is getting deeper and deeper can we truly appreciate the taste of love. After returning to the tribe, Shi Jie and Mu Miao never separated, and the young couple established a happy family from then on. This is the origin of the "bridal chamber honeymoon" that has been passed down to this day.

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The origin of bridal chamber

The custom of disturbing houses seems simple, but it has a long history and far-reaching influence. From the scope of influence, it can be said that it is all over the country; Since its existence, it has almost run through the whole feudal society and has been popular until modern times. Because this custom takes the bride as the main funny object, it is also called "teasing the bride" and "playing the bride", and it was also called "playing the woman" in the old society.

The custom of haunted house began in the pre-Qin period of Han Dynasty, and the wedding was simple and solemn.

Confucius described the wedding scene at that time in the Book of Rites. Ceng Zi asked and said, "If you marry a woman's house, you won't put out the candle for three days." If you get married and go home, you will miss your loved ones if you are unhappy for three days. "It reflects the simple habits of pre-Qin weddings, and there is no scene of making a scene. After entering the Han Dynasty, the social economy developed by leaps and bounds. People are no longer satisfied with the old-fashioned, boring wedding ceremony, no longer stick to the old adage of "three days without happiness", and start to do big things, which makes the wedding ceremony cast a secular festive color. Yang Shuda, a close friend, made a textual research in the book "Wedding and Funeral Customs in Han Dynasty": "Guests often drink and laugh, and their words and deeds are unscrupulous. For example, in modern times, there were new houses in the Han Dynasty. Yang quoted Chang Yan at the end of the Han Dynasty as saying: "At this wedding party, the governor's banter was used to make fun of lust, to publicize the lewdness of the public, to expose the lewdness of the new race, to be filthy and vulgar, and to have lewdness for a long time." "Thus, from the beginning of its appearance, it was regarded as a bad habit.

There are two views on the origin of the custom of disturbing houses in China. One theory stems from exorcising evil spirits and avoiding disasters. According to legend, a long time ago, Ziweixing came down to earth one day and met a woman dressed in linen on the road, following a group of wedding procession. Seeing that the devil was waiting for an opportunity to do evil, he followed him to the groom's house, only to find that the woman had arrived first and hid in the bridal chamber. When the bride and groom were about to enter the bridal chamber after worshipping heaven and earth, Zixing stood at the door and refused to let them in, saying that there was a devil hidden inside. They asked him how to exorcise demons. He put forward: "The devil is most afraid of many people, and the devil will not dare to do evil." So, the groom invited people to laugh in the bridal chamber and drive away evil spirits with laughter; Sure enough, in the fifth watch, the devil finally escaped. It can be seen that the noisy room was shrouded in the color of exorcism and disaster avoidance from the beginning.

The custom of exorcising evil spirits in bridal chambers is spread all over the country. Before the couple enters the bridal chamber, in the middle and lower reaches of the Yangtze River, the groom must sleep in the bridal chamber the night before, and ask two girls to take a photo of the bridal chamber with red candles in their hands in advance; Tianjin people ask the blowing team to blow in the new house for good luck. It is still very important to drive away the evil spirits in the house after the newcomers enter the house. For example, in the East, when the groom enters the house, he will symbolically shoot an arrow in every corner of the new house, or make a virtual knife in every corner with a single knife in his hand, singing "Kill the demon once, twice, the first three times, the god four times, and leave quickly." A more common custom is to build ever-burning lamps in new houses. This is what the so-called "wedding night" means. Some scholars have studied that the custom of "listening to the room" is actually a protective measure to prevent ghosts from entering the bridal chamber.

Another view on the origin of haunted houses is that haunted houses first appeared in the north, and at first they were mainly grooms, which is probably related to the living habits of the northern nationalities. They live by hunting and nomadism, which makes men very aggressive and brave. It can prove that a man is a qualified man when he is married.

Some backward ethnic groups in the world show their men's qualifications by self-mutilation and abuse, and even take the hunted heads as courtship tokens, which is probably the same. The haunted room retains this primitive custom in ancient times.

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