Why did your parents urge you to get married?

At a friend's party last weekend, someone mentioned the topic of "urging marriage", and for a time, the atmosphere was inexplicably lively.

Many friends have vomited about their experience of being urged to get married. Except for a few married people, everyone else has a history of being forced into marriage.

F said: "Going home on holiday is either a blind date or a blind date."

D said, "My mother gave me a movie ticket. I was very happy at first, but I didn't expect it to be a routine. She arranged a blind date with a man at the cinema. "

W said: "Relatives are even more powerful, always giving my WeChat to blind date."

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It seems that being forced to get married is really as troublesome as being single.

Wei Zi Constellation Network of Science and Technology recommends several methods to deal with marriage promotion, hoping to bring you some help. Of course, don't use the bloody trick of renting a lover to go home, which is not only risky, but also can't solve the problem.

0 1, indicating attitude and seeking common ground while reserving differences.

At marriageable age, you refuse to complete the "task" of getting married, and your parents don't know when you will be willing to set up your own family and push for marriage one by one.

Since they have no idea, you should reassure them and show them that marriage is inevitable.

This is seeking common ground while reserving differences.

When you give reassurance, parents may ask, when will you get married?

For this problem, we must not guarantee it at random.

Tell them that you will get married as soon as possible, but the "early" here is based on meeting the marriage conditions set in your mind (suitable for candidates to appear; The cause has reached a certain height; Material conditions reach a certain level, etc. ).

This is putting aside differences.

After all, most people's marriage conditions are achievable. Faced with these pre-marital preparations, parents have a bottom in their hearts, and perhaps the number and intensity of urging marriage will be reduced.

Applicable parents: Taurus Gemini Cancer

02. Show your strength, be confident and optimistic.

Parents urge marriage, mostly in the hope that you can get happiness. And they don't think you can get happiness by one person. I hope you can find a partner who can rely on you through thick and thin.

Try to analyze your parents' mentality and understand their needs, and you will understand that as your closest relative, it is cruel for them to worry that you will be alone when you get old.

If you don't want to make your parents feel uncomfortable, you should prescribe the right medicine.

Try to convince parents that there are many ways to get happiness, and you have the ability to pursue happiness without getting married. If you really don't have the strength at present, it's better to actively improve yourself than talk back to your parents.

If you are an unmarried person, you really have the ability to bear your personal desire for happiness. Don't be afraid to show your strength to your parents.

Maybe this method can't fully meet parents' expectations, but in the end they will settle for the second best and choose to accept the fact that you are not married.

Applicable parents: Aries Leo Virgo

03. Give negative examples and make sense.

If you can't get married hastily, you must want to wait until the best life partner appears and enter the marriage hall with the right person. this

It is a sign of being responsible for yourself.

Think about it, are there any cases around you where you got into a painful marriage because of hasty marriage? When parents are urging marriage, taking these examples as negative teaching materials is definitely a powerful "means" to deal with urging marriage.

Tell your parents that you can muddle through your life and choose anyone to get married, but the result of doing so is likely to be a marriage failure.

As your parents, they can't bear to bet on your future.

For your future, I believe your parents are willing to give you some time to find true happiness.

Applicable parents: Libra, Capricorn and Pisces.

04, in the face of urging and questioning.

If the above three moves don't work, it's time for the last move.

Parents urge marriage endlessly, even by extreme means. At this time, there is no need to argue. You can ask your parents: "If I marry someone just to cope with you, my future marriage will be unhappy and I will eventually get divorced. Can you be responsible for this? "

Hearing such a question, your parents may be speechless, which will inevitably hurt their morale, but your purpose is not to refute them until they are speechless, but to extend the following explanation.

Tell your parents patiently that although the marriage you choose may not be 100% happy, you will be more willing to spend time running it because you chose it yourself.

On the other hand, people who are unwilling to accept against their will have little patience and resilience to adjust and manage when there are problems in their marriage.

Applicable parents: Scorpio Sagittarius Aquarius

When parents urge marriage, they are antagonistic to their parents, and they will quarrel when they open their mouths. This will not only solve the problem, but also impulsively call names when quarreling, which is a kind of harm to both sides.

If you still can't stop your parents' blind date arrangement, ask your parents for each other's birthday and give you two a Chinese-character marriage certificate. "Eight-character incompatibility"-in this way, parents will never force you again!

Of course, if you meet someone with a very high marriage index, Wei Zixiaoxian still suggests you go and see it. After all, it is not easy to find a person who fits your chart very well in the vast sea of people. Don't miss it when passing by! If you really achieve a beautiful marriage, you will solve your parents' anxiety once and for all!