Masturbation is serious, how to treat it thoroughly?

First of all, we must firmly believe that we can overcome this difficulty. Many people, both men and women, have overcome it, and you can do it as long as you make up your mind. Making up your mind is the first step and the starting point. You must make up your mind to stop masturbating. When you make up your mind, the problem will be solved to a great extent. This determination must be more than just hope, not just knowing that it is good for you, but a real determination! If you are determined to cure yourself, you have the power to resist your bad tendencies and any external temptation. After making this decision, please follow the following methods:

1. Don't touch the private parts of your body except going to the toilet.

Try to avoid being alone, find some good companions (people with ideals and positive spirit) and stay among them.

If you have a good friend who has the same problem, you must cut off contact with him. Don't associate with people with the same problems. Don't think that if two people quit together, they will never be able to do it. You must get rid of this crowd. Because when you see them, you can't help thinking about your problems. This problem must be strictly removed from your mind. Your mind must focus on other or healthier things.

4. When taking a bath, don't admire yourself in front of the mirror. Take a bath for no more than 5 or 6 minutes, which is enough time for you to take a bath, dry, get dressed, and go out of the bathroom to return to your family.

If the bed is the place where you are most prone to make mistakes, you should wear pajamas properly enough so that you can't easily touch the key parts of your body, so it is difficult and troublesome to take off your clothes. When you start to take off your protective clothing, you will have enough time to control your thoughts and stay away from temptation.

If the temptation seems uncontrollable when you are in bed, you must get up immediately and do some exercise. The purpose of doing this is to distract your attention. It can be said that you can control your consciousness.

7. Stay away from pornographic books. Don't read articles about masturbation. Don't think about masturbation. Remember: "once you think about it, you will do it." You must change your way of thinking and let that idea leave your brain. Once you do this, you will quit him.

8. Always keep healthy things in mind. You can read a good book (traditional classic or successful inspirational book), and it is best to read a book that can improve people's moral cultivation for fifteen minutes every day.

9. You can also pray and make wishes. But don't involve masturbation, because it will keep you thinking about it. Pray for sincerity, understanding, happiness, health and happiness for your relatives, friends and all sentient beings in the world. Don't want to masturbate, don't mention masturbation, don't talk about masturbation with others, and don't mention it in prayer. Let it leave your mind. The attitude towards this problem determines the difficulty of overcoming it. The key is to promise to overcome it. When a person understands the reasons for doing this, he will create conditions and environment to help put it into practice, and he will have the power to control all this. Masturbation can bring guilt and emotional stress. Excessive masturbation will seriously damage your health. It is completely self-centered and useless, and it does not express human reproductive ability at all. This kind of masturbation will make people lose their self-esteem and self-confidence, make a person's mind and health fragile, feel that their responsibilities have become a burden, and regard their obligations as charity.

Other suggestions:

1. Do more spiritual exercises to overcome temptation, and don't wait until the temptation is strongest to pray.

2. Make a strong daily exercise plan. Exercise can relieve mental stress and depression, which is definitely the basis for solving problems. When you feel stressed, you can double your exercise.

When the idea of masturbation is strong, try your best to stop it in your mind. You can recite famous sayings or sing an inspiring song. The most important thing is to divert your mind from your selfish needs.

4. Set an abstinence goal, starting from the same day, then month by month, year by year, and finally achieve complete abstinence. You can't really overcome the temptation until you give up completely.

Always imagine a changed self, which will make it easy for you to make radical changes in your behavior and attitude. Take time to imagine that you have enough ability and self-control every day, and you can easily overcome the temptation of the environment.

6. Make a daily improvement plan. Combine this plan with participating in public welfare activities and improving interpersonal relationships. Strive to enhance their strength and talent in this area.

7. Be friendly to others. Force yourself to work with others, and learn to work and communicate with others. You can learn how to make friends through books, such as reading successful inspirational books and traditional self-cultivation books.

8. Understand the circumstances that make you feel depressed, lonely, bored, depressed and discouraged. These mentality will induce you to masturbate to escape. Prepare for these low spirits in advance. You can study, visit friends or do sports and so on.

9. Make a card-type portable calendar, carry it with you, and don't show it to others. Once one day you lose control, paint it red. Your goal is not red. Calendars can be a strong visual signal to remind you to control yourself. When you try to add red, you will notice it. Keep the calendar until there is no red for three months.

10. You should carefully study when and under what circumstances you are most likely to masturbate. Recall the specific time and specific environment in detail. Now that you know how it happened, you should break this pattern and liberate yourself by doing the opposite.

1 1. There is a kind of psychotherapy called "aversion therapy". When we associate unpleasant things with pleasant but unpleasant things, disgust will offset pleasant feelings. If you associate disgusting things with loss of self-control, it will help you stop masturbating. For example, once you want to masturbate, you can imagine that after masturbation, you will take a bath in a bathtub full of bugs, scorpions, spiders and centipedes, and you will be swallowed up by them.

12. When you go to the toilet or take a shower, let the bathroom door or the shower curtain leave a gap to avoid being completely alone. Take a cold bath.

13. Get up immediately after waking up in the morning. Never lie in bed at any time. Get up and do something. Start each day with passionate behavior.

14. Empty your bladder. Avoid drinking a lot of liquid before rest.

15. Put less spices and condiments in food. Dinner should be as simple as possible.

16. pajamas should be hard to take off and loose and not sticky.

17. Avoid contact with people, environments, pictures or reading materials that can easily stimulate your sexual impulse.

18. It is necessary to make a physical exercise goal in the process of overcoming it.

19. In very serious cases, one hand needs to be tied to the bedstead, which helps to stop masturbation in a semi-sleep state. Wearing multi-layer clothes is difficult to take off when you are half asleep and half awake, and the same effect can be achieved.

20. Establish a reward system for your success. Not necessarily a big reward. When you reach a quarter of your plan, the reward will cheer you up and remind you to keep improving. At the same time, there should also be a punishment measure, such as punishing yourself for not eating for one day every time you commit a crime, or donating 100 yuan to Project Hope, so that you can remember it for a long time.

2 1. Don't let you go back to the mode that brings you problems. There are always difficulties. Pay attention to stay calm and confident. Keep a positive attitude. I firmly believe that I can win. When you do this, you will feel happy and full of strength, which will make your life radiant and bring you a sense of fulfillment and satisfaction.

There are many personal case articles about learning Buddhism. I sincerely hope that you can benefit from it and realize.