I will tell you the difference between infatuation and love in three minutes.

There is a very common expression in English: I have a crush on someone. For example, a girl who is infatuated with flowers sees a handsome guy coming face to face. After a casual look at her, the handsome guy will jump out with emotion: Wow, I think I have a crush on him!

So, crush becomes well defined: a sudden, instinctive impulse. So, that sentence can be translated into: lying in the trough, I seem to have sex with him!

So what is "love"? You must think: Damn it, you need to explain this special code. Isn't it "love" However, have you ever thought about how to define "love"? I bet you can't tell. At Christmas, in order to clarify the definition of "love", I will quote a passage from a movie I watch at this time every year, "Love Actually" (translated as "Love Actually" in Chinese):

This is what Karen, a loyal wife, said to her suspected cheating husband. I think this is the best definition of "love" I have ever seen. I tried to break down this sentence:

Here love contains two definitions, the first is the verb: like; The second is an adverb: long-term (probably a lifetime), and the combination of the two is the definition of love: long-term (even a lifetime) like.

So, what I want to remind you is: don't confuse the concept and regard unrequited love as love. There are many such examples in our life. For example, we already have a person we consciously love (or have a family), but we still can't avoid having fantasies about strange opposite sex, and even have certain physiological reactions. In the past, you might think like this: Shit, I'm really not human. I already have a wife and want to have sex with other women. It's worse than pigs and dogs! However, I want to tell you now: this is just a secret love, and a normal man will inevitably have a stress reaction. Don't be hard on yourself, everyone will be like this; After an hour, you may not even remember what that woman looks like. I sometimes have this reaction myself, but when I improved my metacognitive ability and tried to understand the difference between unrequited love and love, I was relieved.

So what is love to me? A very intuitive performance is that when my wife sleeps next to me like a pig, I will kiss her unconsciously and then continue to do my own thing with satisfaction. Two and a half years, nothing has changed.

There are many such examples in life.

For example, if you listen to people around you say a TV series "Hunting Field", you follow it and find it very good. This is crush；; However, in the dead of night, when you sit alone in front of the computer, what you want to see most is probably the Chongqing forest, which is love.

For example, recently, you thought the Warriors' ball was particularly beautiful, and then you chased it for dozens of times and enjoyed it. This is crush；; However, when someone asks you: Which team do you most want to win the NBA championship, you will still answer: Houston Rockets, this is love.

For another example, when RMB and legal tender are not exchanged in the currency circle, you use currency security, which feels good. The market and experience are well done. This is crush；; However, when people ask you which exchange you want to trade on most, you will still choose Bigone. Why, this is "love".

Finally, summarize the difference between unrequited love and love:

1, unrequited love is instinct and impulse; Love is a habit;

2. Secret love is easy to replace and easy to forget; Love is not easy to change;

3. It takes a short time to crush; Love is longer (or maybe a lifetime)

Only a knife, life-long happiness.