Le Marle Wei Zi

Lele's mother lost her temper again recently.

Lele has the habit of eating while watching TV. In order to let Lele finish her meal and do her homework, Ma Le slammed off the TV. Now Lele can't follow suit. This cartoon is something he must chase every day.

"I haven't finished reading it?" Said Lele was going to turn on the TV.

"I tell you, if you want to turn on the TV, don't eat. You've been reading since you came back, and you haven't written your homework. You are getting ridiculous! " Because of some unhappiness at work, she was a little excited and her tone was two degrees higher than usual.

"I don't say anything when I see you at dinner every day. Why do I say this today? " Lele questioned her mother loudly with the remote control, and her face flushed.

"At ordinary times, you at least finished your homework. Besides, whose children watch TV every day when they eat! You see, people are very smart and never have to worry about homework, let alone eat and watch TV. You seldom watch TV. It's not like you!

I tell you, if you dare to turn on the TV today, don't eat! "She grabbed the remote control from Lele and glared at him.

"Don't eat, don't eat! I want to watch TV! "

In the face of Lele's stubbornness, Ma Le finally couldn't help it. "Bang, bang!" She grabbed Lele's little hand and hit it twice. "I think if you dare to rob me again, it will turn against you. Eat a good meal quickly and finish your homework, otherwise I will be really bored! "

Lele didn't think about it here, touched her little hand that was red by her mother, ran into the bedroom crying and slammed the door.

Children make parents angry, and parents lose their temper with their children, which has been staged in many families. Whose fault is this? Many parents will say, "disobedient children must be educated." Adults are in a bad mood. If children push their luck, they have to give some color, otherwise they will not be educated well! "

Of course, disobedient children should be given some education, but sometimes disobedience does not mean trouble.

Just like Lele, she has the habit of watching TV and eating since she was a child, and her mother has long known it. However, my mother was in a happy mood and didn't care. Now my mother is in a bad mood, and her mother is beginning to feel bad. She wants to bring her children to their knees by reprimanding them.

As we all know, one thing in this world is harmful and useless, and that is to lose your temper. Your temper hides the child's future. A child who grows up out of control often has such and such problems.

02

If you lose your temper with your child, he will become stupid.

An elder around me once told me earnestly:

Young parents, don't lose your temper easily with their children, otherwise it will ruin their spirituality and make them stupid and happy.

When people are angry, there will be a "fire" in their hearts. When you lose your temper with your child, you lead this "no fire" to the child's head. The child is physically and mentally fragile and mentally unstable. As a result, spirituality is often "burned".

Think of the children around you who are bossed around by their parents all day. Can they get good grades? Certainly not, because spirituality is destroyed, and children can easily become stupid.

02

Being angry with children makes them feel inferior.

Xiaoling came home after school, and her mother asked her to help clean the floor. Xiaoling cleaned it carefully, but it always seems that it can't be finished. At this time, her mother came to help, "You are so stupid, let me do it!" " "Xiaoling was shocked. She put down her broom and went back to her room silently.

After dinner, my father asked Xiaoling to look for a book in the bookcase. Xiaoling ran to get it. Just as she was confidently teaching the book to her father, his father complained, "Oh, you are so stupid! You took all the books by mistake! " The smile on the child's face disappeared.

Gradually, Xiaoling found herself really stupid. She always dirties her clothes when brushing her teeth, often forgets her keys and can't remember her parents' phone numbers. No more hands in class, no more sweeping the floor for mom after school, no more books for dad at dinner, because she also feels really stupid.

Your three-point temper makes children feel that they can't do anything well and feel inferior more and more, but you still complain that children can't do anything. How many talented teenagers have been strangled in the cradle, ignorant all their lives, and accomplished nothing.

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Being angry with children will make them grumpy.

As the saying goes, emotions are contagious. In a family, parents are gentle and polite, and most children are cheerful and gentle; On the contrary, parents often lose their temper, and children must be irritable.

It is not difficult to find that many children who love to lose their temper often stand behind a pair of equally grumpy parents. Mother's cooking is not delicious, so she habitually scolds; If the child fails in the exam, he will beat and scold without saying anything. ......

It is conceivable that children should be afraid of being with their parents who can't control their emotions for a long time. Accustomed to the way parents lose their temper, children will also lose their temper. Influenced by their parents, they even think that losing their temper is the best way to solve the problem.

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Why does mother always lose her temper?

Many mothers understand that it is wrong to lose their temper with their children, but they just can't control their broken hearts.

Sometimes when you lose your temper with your child, you will always fall into deep remorse. But how many people can understand the mother's inner pain.

In fact, mothers love children the most and won't have the heart to do anything that hurts them. Why can't she control her emotions?

There is a view that I quite agree with: Mom is not bad-tempered, but just too tired.

Mothers in life are not as free and easy as in TV dramas.

You don't spend money if you want, but you leave home alone if you want to travel. Mom also has to work and support this family with hard work.

Mothers in life are not as lucky as those in TV dramas.

They have to deal with the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, the contradiction between husband and wife, and even take care of children. There is a very strange phenomenon in marriage, that is, before marriage, it is said that * * * should take care of housework and raise children together, but after having children, housework is not uncommon, and children are basically taken care of by their mothers.

Mothers in life are not as calm as in TV dramas.

They are very worried about their children's future and don't want them to lose to anyone in any way. So mothers are anxious about their children's health, study, work and family. ......

Mom, this job is really too hard and tiring. Not only do you have a lot of things to do, but you also have to face the unreasonable troubles of your children for three days. Sometimes the family doesn't understand. I think you just bring a baby, and you have to put on such a big score.

In fact, fatigue will really drag a person down, weaken a person's willpower and make your nerves sensitive.

In this way, even if we want to be the gentle and amiable mother in the child's heart, the pressure of life is really unbearable for the mother.

05

Control your emotions and try to do this.

Give yourself time to relax.

When I feel that I have too much housework to do, I will ask my child's father to help me, and I will also give him what my child can do, such as packing his toys. In this way, I can save a lot of time to do my own thing and my anxiety is obviously reduced.

Teacher Xiao Gu, a special lecturer of "Parents Must Read Lecture Hall", said, "Don't do everything yourself, don't pursue perfection excessively, and be tolerant of yourself and your children. You will find that you have a lot of free time, so that you can go to bed early, go shopping with friends and do many things that make you happy. I am in a good mood, and I can't get angry if I want to. "

Turn tantrums into communication.

Children should not be the object of our negative emotions. It is better to communicate well than to be angry.

For example, if you see that your child hasn't finished his homework, don't make a hullabaloo about as soon as he comes up. He flew into a rage: Why haven't you written it yet? Just play every day! Therefore, children will refuse to do their homework.

If you want to achieve the expected effect, you can say: I'm really sad that you didn't finish your homework on time. If you can finish your homework in half an hour, I will be very happy.

Express your wishes directly. If the child does this, educate the child with empathy and let the feelings flow naturally and smoothly. In this way, children are more likely to accept the advice and discipline of their parents.

My heart is full of warmth and love.

Like a bowl full of water, whatever you put in it will overflow. If there is only anger in the chest, then the child will only be ignited, and whatever he does will anger his parents.

If you want to have a good temper, you should fill your chest with warmth and love. When you see your child doing something wrong, you can stop being furious and try to solve the difficulties with your child.

Doing so not only saves time and efficiency, but also establishes a good parent-child relationship, which makes children trust their parents more and makes the family atmosphere warm and sweet.

(This article comes from: Baidu Baby knows that I am a small cockroach)

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